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Title: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 06, 2008, 02:25:07 AM
what causes it?
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Post by: JAZ on February 06, 2008, 04:37:47 AM
insecurity/low self asteem
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Post by: reguLAtor on February 07, 2008, 12:22:38 AM
fear of rejection / failure
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Post by: Bch on February 07, 2008, 08:38:15 AM
lack of self confidence..

alot of highschool kids have trouble making eye contact , they talk around you lol

 
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Post by: SGV on February 07, 2008, 08:52:53 AM
lack of self confidence..


That's the root...

When you're shy, you act unsure. You avoid everyday situations that may make you feel uncomfortable. Shy people do not feel comfortable around people they don't know, nor do they reach out to get to know them. It all boils down to not being confident in yourself. Feeling as if others are going to laugh at you or that you're going to say something stupid... or whatever.

Fear of rejection, insecurity and low-self-esteem are all factors of lack of self confidence.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Tha Psycho Hustla on February 07, 2008, 09:10:16 AM
insecurity/low self asteem
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Post by: Euro-Trash on February 07, 2008, 09:46:18 AM
being a little bitch
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Post by: QuietTruth on February 07, 2008, 09:57:38 AM
Well, first of all, fuck what you heard, it's not a bad quality.

And I think experiences make you shy, not so much low self esteem and all that shit that it's supposed to mean. Experiences make you who you are.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: KAIN WITH THAT JFK SWAG |CLC| on February 07, 2008, 10:24:21 AM
BAD PARENTS
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Post by: SGV on February 07, 2008, 10:46:41 AM
I wouldn't say bad parents, its more like parents who never taught you social skills beyond "speak when spoken to." A lot of Latinos are like cuz that's how they were raised. Don't speak out of turn. DO as you're told. etc. The main thing with shyness is just to realize that people aren't  gonna laugh at you. People are to busy to care half the time.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: REGIME MOB 510 on February 07, 2008, 11:08:29 AM
i think shy people just like keeping to themselves.  and shy people are real in my opinion
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Post by: Bch on February 07, 2008, 11:43:37 AM
i see we got a few shy people in the group here, well first and foremost id like to say fuck you for being boring

with that said..


step your confidence game up , polish your personality and be the best you could be
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: cantoms on February 07, 2008, 02:27:32 PM
lack of self confidence..


That's the root...

When you're shy, you act unsure. You avoid everyday situations that may make you feel uncomfortable. Shy people do not feel comfortable around people they don't know, nor do they reach out to get to know them. It all boils down to not being confident in yourself. Feeling as if others are going to laugh at you or that you're going to say something stupid... or whatever.

Fear of rejection, insecurity and low-self-esteem are all factors of lack of self confidence.

I think that you pretty much nailed it there.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 07, 2008, 02:57:22 PM
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.
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Post by: Money on February 07, 2008, 04:18:14 PM
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.
are you a woman?
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Post by: when it rains it pours on February 07, 2008, 04:39:19 PM
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.
are you a woman?
no
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Money on February 07, 2008, 04:51:25 PM
well that sucks.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 07, 2008, 04:55:13 PM
well that sucks.
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Post by: Money on February 07, 2008, 05:21:23 PM
^lol.
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Post by: SGV on February 07, 2008, 05:47:16 PM
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.

Put yourself in situations where you DON'T know people and challenge yourself to step up and approach them. Spark up a convo, unless they're complete assholes, they'll at least acknowledge you. And if they don't, no big deal. You don't know em, so no harm done.

Try it in a place like School. It's easy to spark a convo there. Try going to a party and talking to females (this will get your confidence up and lord knows chicks dig confidence, though a shy guy can sneak in out of nowhere sometimes with some chicks). Just challenge yourself. Be a big more outspoken. You don't gotta be the life of the party, but at least be apart of the party and not just a fly on the wall.
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Post by: Javier on February 07, 2008, 05:48:39 PM
There's a difference between introverts and shy people though.  The opening poster probably isn't really shy, just an introvert. 
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 08, 2008, 01:40:58 PM
There's a difference between introverts and shy people though.  The opening poster probably isn't really shy, just an introvert. 
yea, i researched introvert. and i think i am one of those. old soul you can say
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 10, 2008, 12:32:59 PM
I was shy before I had low self-esteem. So therefore, that just can't be a reason. And as a reserved kidd, I don't give a fuck about what others think of a nigga, so afraid of not fitting in ain't just another reason either. I say experiences. Once bitten, twice shy...ya feel me?

Real niggas are always the reserved ones. And the smartest, fuck what you heard before hand!
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 10, 2008, 04:54:34 PM
I was shy before I had low self-esteem. So therefore, that just can't be a reason. And as a reserved kidd, I don't give a fuck about what others think of a nigga, so afraid of not fitting in ain't just another reason either. I say experiences. Once bitten, twice shy...ya feel me?

Real niggas are always the reserved ones. And the smartest, fuck what you heard before hand!
i feel you. most people cant get on my level anyway. lol
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 05:04:00 PM
Nice Topic
+1 Thread Starter!

I'm introverted in nature!
So i know exactly what you are talking about it! There are some pretty darn good explanations and trick and tips provided by various members on here, that's amamzing!!

Not sure if it has to do with low-self esteem.Most folsk think it is,that may be hte 10-15 percentage,but i'm not sure it's the general consensus. I don't have low-self esteem, neither do i see or regard myself as the 'best' or anything related to that or bordering on egotism.

Though i will admit, i won't be the first to walk to meet and talk to someone!
I would need to know someone who knows that individual!
Don't know why, it's always like that for me!

for you guys that are extroverted in nature, do you guys maintain eye contact??
because i don't, i've never been able to!
That alone kinda annoys a lot of pple, especially my Gurl! ;D
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 10, 2008, 05:09:01 PM
Though i will admit, i won't be the first to walk to meet and talk to someone!
I would need to know someone who knows that individual!
Don't know why, it's always like that for me!

for you guys that are extroverted in nature, do you guys maintain eye contact??
because i don't, i've never been able to!
That alone kinda annoys a lot of pple, especially my Gurl! ;D

same with me. im working on the eye contact though and getting better. but still hate talking to random strangers.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Sikotic™ on February 10, 2008, 05:13:41 PM
There's a difference between introverts and shy people though.  The opening poster probably isn't really shy, just an introvert. 
That's what pisses me off. A lot of people will call me shy, when in reality, I keep to myself except for the few friends and family members I trust. Just because a person doesn't kiss ass or do a song-and-dance routine for strangers doesn't mean you are insecure at all.

I genuine distrust for most people is probably what makes me introverted.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Meho on February 10, 2008, 05:17:56 PM
Same here. And for me personally it has nothing to do with my self-esteem. I am very confident, especially after I started going out to the gym and what not, my confidence is reaching to it's maximum.

It's just that I don't feel the need to comunicate or talk with people that I don't know. I like to have a circle of friends that I can trust and I'm good. When we go to a party I'm definetly not one of those who starts to mingle and holla at everybody. I'm like "fuck that". I just like to hang out with my friends when I'm at the party, of course talk to some girls but not 100 chicks like some do, 2 or 3 that you find attractive. I think that guys like us are really loyal friends and good boyfriends because if I'm in a relationship I never even think about cheating because once again, I don't have that urge to even try to holla at other girls. That's why I've only been in 1 serious relationship so far because I only date girls, I really find attractive and fun to be with. Not some 3 months relationship type of bs. Don't get it twisted in no way am I judging other types of chracter, everybody has it's own personality and it should be that way.

Oh, and I also HATE small talk. It's so fucking forced and it always covers the same subject: the weather, school, friends you both know but haven't seen in a while....

So, to me there's a big difference between shy and introverted. I know shy people and that's something completley different than me.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 10, 2008, 05:58:28 PM
I personally think for people who aren't shy, it's easy to say shyness is caused by low-self esteem and whatever else. Becuz I KNOW it's hard for people to comprehend quiet niggas. I know. But ask a kidd why he's quiet and he can't come up with an answer. It's just a personality trait really. Becuz I don't know why I'm shy. I don't know why I'm introverted. I don't know why I'm quiet. It just is what it is. I know there's levels of it too, lol.

You can be shy and have high self esteem.
But you could be shy with low self esteem.
I mean the loudest big mouthed people can have no confidence in themselves what so ever, now being loud can't cause low self esteem either, can it? We workin' both ways now if that's the case.

Experiences make you who you are, not this other shit.

LOL Blu Lacez!!!
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 06:03:59 PM
^^lol..What's so Funny QT?? ;D ;D
I'm being honest here!!..I'm 23,hwever when i was younger in my teens, i sue to look at the grough while conversating with people!
I still do it,but not as often as i did when i was younger1
My Gurl hates it so much,that when i look anywhere but at her ,or avoid eye contact, she follows my face until she can maintin and lock eye contact....Cracks me up..Sometimes it's annoying!!
 ;) ;D

Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 10, 2008, 06:11:51 PM
LMAO, you a funny dude. I hear you. I do the same thang. Whether I'm gettin' talked too, or yelled at, whatever, I look away. You's just an honest cat. ;D

she follows my face until she can maintin and lock eye contact....
LMFAO!!!!! I had a teacher that used to do that shit, she used to piss me off. Get the fuck out my face.


I avoid the shit cuz I don't know where to look, honestly, unless it's a girl it's another story, it's all about the contact there, lol. ;D
I mainly do that shit to keep my innocence. :laugh: That's wit the smile.
When a nigga's mad, FUCK eye contact, that means you interested, fuck that.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 06:13:27 PM
Same here. And for me personally it has nothing to do with my self-esteem. I am very confident, especially after I started going out to the gym and what not, my confidence is reaching to it's maximum.

It's just that I don't feel the need to comunicate or talk with people that I don't know. I like to have a circle of friends that I can trust and I'm good. When we go to a party I'm definetly not one of those who starts to mingle and holla at everybody. I'm like "fuck that". I just like to hang out with my friends when I'm at the party, of course talk to some girls but not 100 chicks like some do, 2 or 3 that you find attractive.  Not some 3 months relationship type of bs. Don't get it twisted in no way am I judging other types of chracter, everybody has it's own personality and it should be that way.

Oh, and I also HATE small talk. It's so fucking forced and it always covers the same subject: the weather, school, friends you both know but haven't seen in a while....

So, to me there's a big difference between shy and introverted. I know shy people and that's something completley different than me.

^Well you know what??
Reading some of your post,i would ahv figured or plaed you are a reserved kinda Guy..I don't know why it just kinda fitted your profile in some way!!


Quote
I think that guys like us are really loyal friends and good boyfriends because if I'm in a relationship I never even think about cheating because once again, I don't have that urge to even try to holla at other girls. That's why I've only been in 1 serious relationship so far because I only date girls, I really find attractive and fun to be with
I can relate to that^^^
As for conversating with others Girls,this i do however there has to be a reason why i'm doing that1
it could be work related, or something to do with Music or just plain conversating!
it's kinda weird,cuz i don't really have that much of a good and healthy conversating relationship with my Gurl's firend.

They feel it's bad.I'm more inclined to think it's fine!
I don't dislike them i just don't have naything to say them to,unless the situation warrants it!

Though i will admit, i won't be the first to walk to meet and talk to someone!
I would need to know someone who knows that individual!
Don't know why, it's always like that for me!

for you guys that are extroverted in nature, do you guys maintain eye contact??
because i don't, i've never been able to!
That alone kinda annoys a lot of pple, especially my Gurl! ;D

same with me. im working on the eye contact though and getting better. but still hate talking to random strangers.

Good Fr You!!
bst of Luck1
Cuz i've tried and failed..But Alway

[/quote]s willing to get and try again!


I personally think for people who aren't shy, it's easy to say shyness is caused by low-self esteem and whatever else. Becuz I KNOW it's hard for people to comprehend quiet niggas. I know. But ask a kidd why he's quiet and he can't come up with an answer. It's just a personality trait really. Becuz I don't know why I'm shy. I don't know why I'm introverted. I don't know why I'm quiet. It just is what it is. I know there's levels of it too, lol.

You can be shy and have high self esteem.
But you could be shy with low self esteem.
I mean the loudest big mouthed people can have no confidence in themselves what so ever, now being loud can't cause low self esteem either, can it? We workin' both ways now if that's the case.

Experiences make you who you are, not this other shit

True That!
But most would argue that the loud person is doing that becuase they feel confident in themselves adn not afriad to amke a mistake. As oppose to 'quite' or 'Shy' people who may not feel 'confident to do likewise,for fear of making a fool of themselves...

Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Money on February 10, 2008, 06:18:27 PM
train of thought? free post.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 06:20:51 PM
LMAO, you a funny dude. I hear you. I do the same thang. Whether I'm gettin' talked too, or yelled at, whatever, I look away. You's just an honest cat. ;D

she follows my face until she can maintin and lock eye contact....
LMFAO!!!!! I had a teacher that used to do that shit, she used to piss me off. Get the fuck out my face.


I avoid the shit cuz I don't know where to look, honestly, unless it's a girl it's another story, it's all about the contact there, lol. ;D
I mainly do that shit to keep my innocence. :laugh: That's wit the smile.
When a nigga's mad, FUCK eye contact, that means you interested, fuck that.

HAHAHAH!!
I had a teacher like that Once!
She got so bold that she reached up and grabbed my face and tilted it up, so i could maintain eye contact!
Boy Oh Boy, I had never felt so embarrassed in my life!
Brown skin with Big Red Cheeks,didn't help that i wore thick glasses at the time, they were puffed and cloudy with condensation...Teacher was looked into my eyes...saying'You have to maintain eye contact,to do otherwise, is a sign of rudeness'...
Worst day of life.....
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Sikotic™ on February 10, 2008, 06:24:09 PM
Weird thing about me is, I'm an introvert, but when it comes to social shit like parties, I'm very open and friendly to people. I think it's the atmosphere.

It's kinda hard to be excited n shit when you're in line at the DMV.....and the people that are like that worry me.

and like someone said: fuck small talk. It's boring. I need more stimulating conversation so I usually don't waste my time with that shit. It does work against you when you you're trying to network and shit like that, but I just can't force myself into doing it.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 10, 2008, 06:32:12 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\


LMAO, you a funny dude. I hear you. I do the same thang. Whether I'm gettin' talked too, or yelled at, whatever, I look away. You's just an honest cat. ;D

she follows my face until she can maintin and lock eye contact....
LMFAO!!!!! I had a teacher that used to do that shit, she used to piss me off. Get the fuck out my face.


I avoid the shit cuz I don't know where to look, honestly, unless it's a girl it's another story, it's all about the contact there, lol. ;D
I mainly do that shit to keep my innocence. :laugh: That's wit the smile.
When a nigga's mad, FUCK eye contact, that means you interested, fuck that.

HAHAHAH!!
I had a teacher like that Once!
She got so bold that she reached up and grabbed my face and tilted it up, so i could maintain eye contact!
Boy Oh Boy, I had never felt so embarrassed in my life!
Brown skin with Big Red Cheeks,didn't help that i wore thick glasses at the time, they were puffed and cloudy with condensation...Teacher was looked into my eyes...saying'You have to maintain eye contact,to do otherwise, is a sign of rudeness'...
Worst day of life.....


LMFAO!!! That's hilarious. I hear that, I hear that. Last year, once a week, this broad did the same shit. She used to kneel down all in a kidd's face, I used to put my head down, she used to spaz and I used to look away cuz that's offesnive shit, gettin' that close, I'd look away, she'd follow, so I used to turn my head the complete other way lookin' like I had shit under my lip, LMAO. I hate that shit, I feel you homie. LOL at the rudeness part, LMAO.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 10, 2008, 06:47:12 PM
king sikotic, that is weird. people that are introvert usually done communicate much even at a party unless they know the people. unless your drunk lol.

being high or drunk opens up an introvert.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 07:05:18 PM
king sikotic, that is weird. people that are introvert usually done communicate much even at a party unless they know the people. unless your drunk lol.

being high or drunk opens up an introvert.


^ Not certain about that Homie!
I tried drinking even go drunk once, but i never really changed my demeanar..
If anything i was alot more reserved/Shy and ghostly quieter!

I don't drink any more,cuz it's just not my thing!!
Don't smoke neither!

But i guess pple react differently to alcohol and stuff though..
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 07:07:29 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\


LMAO, you a funny dude. I hear you. I do the same thang. Whether I'm gettin' talked too, or yelled at, whatever, I look away. You's just an honest cat. ;D

she follows my face until she can maintin and lock eye contact....
LMFAO!!!!! I had a teacher that used to do that shit, she used to piss me off. Get the fuck out my face.


I avoid the shit cuz I don't know where to look, honestly, unless it's a girl it's another story, it's all about the contact there, lol. ;D
I mainly do that shit to keep my innocence. :laugh: That's wit the smile.
When a nigga's mad, FUCK eye contact, that means you interested, fuck that.

HAHAHAH!!
I had a teacher like that Once!
She got so bold that she reached up and grabbed my face and tilted it up, so i could maintain eye contact!
Boy Oh Boy, I had never felt so embarrassed in my life!
Brown skin with Big Red Cheeks,didn't help that i wore thick glasses at the time, they were puffed and cloudy with condensation...Teacher was looked into my eyes...saying'You have to maintain eye contact,to do otherwise, is a sign of rudeness'...
Worst day of life.....


LMFAO!!! That's hilarious. I hear that, I hear that. Last year, once a week, this broad did the same shit. She used to kneel down all in a kidd's face, I used to put my head down, she used to spaz and I used to look away cuz that's offesnive shit, gettin' that close, I'd look away, she'd follow, so I used to turn my head the complete other way lookin' like I had shit under my lip, LMAO. I hate that shit, I feel you homie. LOL at the rudeness part, LMAO.

LMAo..that's mad!!
yea it's hell annoying!!

Well some folks believe it to be rude to avoid eye contact, while others see it as a mark of respect.. ??? ???
guess the latter would fit in nicely if you are talking with an adult or somebody older than you..
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Sikotic™ on February 10, 2008, 07:08:31 PM
king sikotic, that is weird. people that are introvert usually done communicate much even at a party unless they know the people. unless your drunk lol.

being high or drunk opens up an introvert.
lol I know all about that, buddy.

^ Not certain about that Homie!
I tried drinking even go drunk once, but i never really changed my demeanar..
If anything i was alot more reserved/Shy and ghostly quieter!
Now that is really weird. You usually open up and become really friendly or really angry and want to pick fights with people.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Sikotic™ on February 10, 2008, 07:10:23 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\
Thanks man, I'll take that as a compliment lol
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 10, 2008, 07:12:16 PM
king sikotic, that is weird. people that are introvert usually done communicate much even at a party unless they know the people. unless your drunk lol.

being high or drunk opens up an introvert.
lol I know all about that, buddy.

^ Not certain about that Homie!
I tried drinking even go drunk once, but i never really changed my demeanar..
If anything i was alot more reserved/Shy and ghostly quieter!
Now that is really weird. You usually open up and become really friendly or really angry and want to pick fights with people.
true
my friend gets hella courages and wants to fight everybody when he drinks. usually wakes up with bruises and shit. lol
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Blu Lacez on February 10, 2008, 07:27:30 PM
king sikotic, that is weird. people that are introvert usually done communicate much even at a party unless they know the people. unless your drunk lol.

being high or drunk opens up an introvert.
lol I know all about that, buddy.

^ Not certain about that Homie!
I tried drinking even go drunk once, but i never really changed my demeanar..
If anything i was alot more reserved/Shy and ghostly quieter!
Now that is really weird. You usually open up and become really friendly or really angry and want to pick fights with people.
Lol..You're a Funny Dude Sik!!!!
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 10, 2008, 07:43:26 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\
Thanks man, I'll take that as a compliment lol
Of course.


LOL I hear ya Lacez.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Let's Get Down on February 11, 2008, 02:16:21 AM
There's a difference between introverts and shy people though.  The opening poster probably isn't really shy, just an introvert. 
That's what pisses me off. A lot of people will call me shy, when in reality, I keep to myself except for the few friends and family members I trust. Just because a person doesn't kiss ass or do a song-and-dance routine for strangers doesn't mean you are insecure at all.

I genuine distrust for most people is probably what makes me introverted.

i agree with that, well put.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Cheese on February 11, 2008, 07:15:34 AM
Yup there's a big difference between shyness and introversion. Shy persons commonly desire friendships and social interactions, but are held back by their insecurities and fears. Consequently, they avoid the spotlight and face-to-face interaction and ruminate excessively after conversations, worrying about whether they said the right things, made a good impression, or sounded stupid. Shy people doesn't necessarily need to be introverts. Introverts prefer to be alone; they enjoy peace and quiet of solitude. Shy people, on the other hand, want to have contact with other, to be socially involved, and have contacts. Shyness is often being called social anxtiety by psychologists.

ow and btw, a lot of people actually rate themselves more introvert than they actually are.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: AboveTheLaw on February 11, 2008, 08:22:34 AM
There's a line from 'The Way of Chuang Tzu'

"Those who know do not speak, those who speak do not know"

Still it's equally frustrating when dealing with someone who is extremely extroverted and doesn't know when to shut up, just as being around those introverts who don't do or say anything at all. As long as you know when and how to assert yourself that's all that matters really.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 11, 2008, 08:55:00 AM
There's a line from 'The Way of Chuang Tzu'

"Those who know do not speak, those who speak do not know"

Still it's equally frustrating when dealing with someone who is extremely extroverted and doesn't know when to shut up, just as being around those introverts who don't do or say anything at all. As long as you know when and how to assert yourself that's all that matters really.
thats a good quote. im gona put it in my sig box.
thanks
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Bch on February 11, 2008, 09:09:35 AM
^^ you guys need help

"those who know do not speak, those who speak do not know?" ??  ok, what about teachers.. and even before they started off as teachers they had to find a love for teaching people knowledge


to those who say they dont like small talk... have u guys ever held down a job?? macked to a girl??  its essential you learn small talk..

you can make small talk entertaining depending on your personality Lol if im at the dmv and if your sitting next to me and im like damn homie ima turn into a skull and a bag of bones waitin in this muthafucka
its easy , i suggest you work on your mouthpeice and people skills you have to read people accordingly... game
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 11, 2008, 09:14:13 AM
^^ you guys need help

"those who know do not speak, those who speak do not know?" ??  ok, what about teachers.. and even before they started off as teachers they had to find a love for teaching people knowledge


to those who say they dont like small talk... have u guys ever held down a job?? macked to a girl??  its essential you learn small talk..

you can make small talk entertaining depending on your personality Lol if im at the dmv and if your sitting next to me and im like damn homie ima turn into a skull and a bag of bones waitin in this muthafucka
its easy , i suggest you work on your mouthpeice and people skills you have to read people accordingly... game
it all depends on who you are. its easy for some people and harder for other people. if im at the DMV and some one says something like that to me i would just laugh and think in my head "yo STFU and leave me alone", but if some one asked me for the time i would let them know and not mind it. it is what it is. people are different, thats a good thing.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Bch on February 11, 2008, 09:45:40 AM
yea i feel what your saying ma dude different stokes for different folks.. most people when stuck at a place like that make small talk to make the most of a situation
its just real random like im sittin at the dmv or some shit and im wearin a laker or clipper jersey somebody would be like how the lakers do last night?

shyness/confidence/self esteem problems can be overcome its happened for alot of people.. especially in the entertainment industry where you gotta get up in front of alotta people and sing/rap/dance perform  u dont know how many ppl ive met even gangsters first time tryin to rap they be embarrassed and gotta drink in order to rap but as time goes on you develop confidence speaking out in public to the public :P
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 11, 2008, 09:49:27 AM
yea i feel what your saying ma dude different stokes for different folks.. most people when stuck at a place like that make small talk to make the most of a situation
its just real random like im sittin at the dmv or some shit and im wearin a laker or clipper jersey somebody would be like how the lakers do last night?

shyness/confidence/self esteem problems can be overcome its happened for alot of people.. especially in the entertainment industry where you gotta get up in front of alotta people and sing/rap/dance perform  u dont know how many ppl ive met even gangsters first time tryin to rap they be embarrassed and gotta drink in order to rap but as time goes on you develop confidence speaking out in public to the public :P
yea i understand what your saying. but i only speak out if its needed. if i have to go ask someone something i will go do it with no fear or anything. but i only do it when i have to. so thats why i think some people go off and call me shy or whatever but now im starting to think im introvert.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Westcoastin' on February 11, 2008, 11:52:36 AM
Men are supposed to be the strong silent type, nothing wrong with being quiet man
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: white Boy on February 11, 2008, 12:09:50 PM
i hate stop and chats, i like normal, good not bullshit conversation, im kind of an introvert, kind of shy, kind of insecure, but alcohol is definitely a social lubricant.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Invincible on February 11, 2008, 09:01:25 PM
lack of self confidence..


That's the root...

When you're shy, you act unsure. You avoid everyday situations that may make you feel uncomfortable. Shy people do not feel comfortable around people they don't know, nor do they reach out to get to know them. It all boils down to not being confident in yourself. Feeling as if others are going to laugh at you or that you're going to say something stupid... or whatever.

Fear of rejection, insecurity and low-self-esteem are all factors of lack of self confidence.

This describes me pretty well.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: white Boy on February 11, 2008, 11:10:36 PM
for me i think its more akwardness then shyness, everything i do is akward either to me or others, and sometimes i avoid it, and sometimes i just laugh about it
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Now_Im_Not_Banned on February 13, 2008, 11:43:26 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\




WTF are you going on about, dude?
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 16, 2008, 07:53:20 AM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\




WTF are you going on about, dude?
???


Sik said he was an introverted cat, and to me he doesn't come off across as one.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Elevz on February 16, 2008, 09:13:10 AM
I'm terrified about the amount of rationalisation going on here.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: when it rains it pours on February 16, 2008, 09:38:11 AM
I'm terrified about the amount of rationalisation going on here.
what do you mean?
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Now_Im_Not_Banned on February 25, 2008, 10:52:44 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\




WTF are you going on about, dude?
???


Sik said he was an introverted cat, and to me he doesn't come off across as one.


You act like you know him.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 26, 2008, 03:29:25 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\




WTF are you going on about, dude?
???


Sik said he was an introverted cat, and to me he doesn't come off across as one.


You act like you know him.

Nigga....from what he posts like on the board..
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Sikotic™ on February 26, 2008, 03:35:04 PM
^ Honestly, you gotta be the first nigga that's introverted with a personality. :-\




WTF are you going on about, dude?
???


Sik said he was an introverted cat, and to me he doesn't come off across as one.


You act like you know him.

Nigga....from what he posts like on the board..
Don't worry about it, homie, we all know what you meant.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on February 26, 2008, 03:49:02 PM
^ Thank you. I don't mean it as a bad thang either. Propz to niggas wit brains. ;D
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Now_Im_Not_Banned on March 20, 2008, 01:28:57 PM
It's not about what you meant, it's about thinking you have the ability to tell if someone is an introvert or an extrovert through reading text...LOL
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: REGIME MOB 510 on March 28, 2008, 04:04:14 PM
It's not about what you meant, it's about thinking you have the ability to tell if someone is an introvert or an extrovert through reading text...LOL
LMAO @ this fagget who thinks he can know someone's personality via text.  PeAcE  8)
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: TraceOneInfinite Flat Earther 96' on March 28, 2008, 05:50:52 PM
Well, first of all, fuck what you heard, it's not a bad quality.

And I think experiences make you shy, not so much low self esteem and all that shit that it's supposed to mean. Experiences make you who you are.


Yes, shyness should not always be taken to be a bad quality.  Shyness can also represent humility and virtue as opposed to lewdness and arrogance.  They say the Prophet Muhammad was know for his shyness, yet he was one of the greatest world leaders history has ever known and the whole Arabian penninsulla recognized his leadership before he died.

Look at it this way, if you had a daughter would you rather her be shy or would you rather have he be loud, obnoxious, lewd, and easy.

Some Muslims believe that shyness can keep a person from evil behaivor.

So anyway, im just offering another way to look at it.

and yes, like Quiet truth said, every experience we have adds another ingredient to our personality.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on March 30, 2008, 04:33:59 PM
People is dumb, but anyways exactly Abd. Infinite, shyness vs obnoxious, what do ya'll KNOW the better quality is? Exactly......

Shyness is a personality trait not a condintion.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Elevz on March 31, 2008, 02:25:03 AM
Shyness and obnoxiousness aren't exactly opposites. As if someone who's not obnoxious is necessarily shy... :grumpy:

They say the Prophet Muhammad was know for his shyness, yet he was one of the greatest world leaders history has ever known

Had you had a critical mind, you would have been able to recognise that such a thing is IMPOSSIBLE. You cannot lead millions of people whilst being distrustful or wary of strangers. Or are you implying that your sacred prophet perhaps was a schizophrenic, or someone with a split ego?

Shyness is a personality trait not a condintion.

The difference, according to you, being...?
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: QuietTruth on March 31, 2008, 03:31:18 PM
People sayin' shyness is a 'Condition'..low self esteem, no confidence, when it ain't, always. It's more a personality trait...born with, what you experienced that made you that way.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: TraceOneInfinite Flat Earther 96' on March 31, 2008, 03:42:12 PM
Shyness and obnoxiousness aren't exactly opposites. As if someone who's not obnoxious is necessarily shy... :grumpy:

They say the Prophet Muhammad was know for his shyness, yet he was one of the greatest world leaders history has ever known

Had you had a critical mind, you would have been able to recognise that such a thing is IMPOSSIBLE. You cannot lead millions of people whilst being distrustful or wary of strangers. Or are you implying that your sacred prophet perhaps was a schizophrenic, or someone with a split ego?



Just because someone is shy does not mean they are "distrustful and wary of strangers".  Being shy represents the Prophet's modesty.  He did not want to stare at women, or waste words talking, and was very particular about the things he said and did.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Now_Im_Not_Banned on March 31, 2008, 04:25:59 PM
People sayin' shyness is a 'Condition'..low self esteem, no confidence, when it ain't, always. It's more a personality trait...born with, what you experienced that made you that way.



low self-esteem and no confidence tie in with shyness, in most cases.
Title: Re: shyness
Post by: Elevz on April 02, 2008, 05:51:46 AM
Shyness and obnoxiousness aren't exactly opposites. As if someone who's not obnoxious is necessarily shy... :grumpy:

They say the Prophet Muhammad was know for his shyness, yet he was one of the greatest world leaders history has ever known

Had you had a critical mind, you would have been able to recognise that such a thing is IMPOSSIBLE. You cannot lead millions of people whilst being distrustful or wary of strangers. Or are you implying that your sacred prophet perhaps was a schizophrenic, or someone with a split ego?

Just because someone is shy does not mean they are "distrustful and wary of strangers".  Being shy represents the Prophet's modesty.  He did not want to stare at women, or waste words talking, and was very particular about the things he said and did.

Why, then...

"shy1 (shī) pronunciation
adj., shi·er (shī'ər) or shy·er, shi·est (shī'ĭst) or shy·est.

   1. Easily startled; timid.
   2.
         1. Drawing back from contact or familiarity with others; retiring or reserved.
         2. Marked by reserve or diffidence: a shy glance.
   3. Distrustful; wary: shy of strangers.
   4. Not having paid an amount due, as one's ante in poker.
   5. Short; lacking: Eleven is one shy of a dozen."


Source: www.answers.com

I thought that definition is pretty clear about shyness resembling a state of being distrustful and wary of strangers.

So you're saying the great leader, the prophet, was modest in his ways. Great and modest? Isn't greatness supposedly an extreme which allows no modesty, no compromises, nothing but straightforward greatness? So how can he be shy, yet at the same time achieve the greatest things for and with his anonymous people? I certainly hope you do see the oddness of such statements.


People sayin' shyness is a 'Condition'..low self esteem, no confidence, when it ain't, always. It's more a personality trait...born with, what you experienced that made you that way.

You don't believe in individual autonomy? You don't believe that your own thinking makes a difference in who you are and what you do - you're simply the product of biological and environmental influences? When you have feelings for a woman, that's because of your hormonal and biochemical state - not because of your actual will and your judgement? When you eat, it's because your body demands it, not because you're consciously aware of your body needing the food?

Even more, if such things were true, doesn't that more imply that shyness is a condition (something which just 'is') instead of a (consciously chosen) personality trait? Do personalities even exist according to the views you mentioned about being the product of an environment?

I seriously thought these were depraved states of psychology that were long gone. Eighty years ago, psychologists could get away with saying ridiculous stuff about humans not having a thinking faculty, but today? :grumpy: