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Lifestyle => Train of Thought => Topic started by: morbidenigma on September 06, 2014, 04:45:49 PM
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Sex provides pleasure. We can give pleasure to ourselves and give pleasure to other people with sex because of all the amount of feel good chemicals your brains releases during and after sex. Sex is brilliant as it has essentially positive consequences. You hear outdated primitive phrases like "sex is a sin", "masturbation is a sin", "sex is disgusting", so those having sex are condemned despite itself nature giving us sexual desire.
Having somehow had a woman have sex with me, I can say it's relaxing I felt chirpier for a couple of days afterwards and very much more nonchalant. When we are relaxed, we are more likely to be nice to others than when we are stressed. So to do our own good is generally good for others, because when we take our needs into account, we have more space to take the needs of others into account. There's a lot of angry people out there, the solution is for them to have some or more sex.
What has negative consequences is the violence and exploitation associated with sex when those circumstances arise when one is sexually abusive; however that is not fundamentally related to sex. Someone who is violent with sex can be violent without using sex and is many a time violent in other areas too.
So yeh celebrate knocking one out or having a fiddle in your middle, happy sexual relationships, the beauty of genitals and of sexual attributes. We may be a little bit shy and consider sex as a private thing, however, even in that case, it is still a way to have some hap-penis.
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Big and interesting topic.
I agree that alot of problems in the world stem from internal sexual tension and that a healthy release would be beneficial.
A potentially destructive element when it comes sex is when it becomes a self-centered quest for pleasure.
Personally I agree with the "primitive statement" that masturbation is a sin.
Someone wiser than me (not hard to find) once said that masturbation is a homosexual act.
Many people probably masturbate to release internal tension, often ignorant of the detrimental effects it can have by wasting ones storage of sacred life force.
Almost 50% of the energy needed daily is wasted when you ejaculate your semen and it takes more than a month to re-fill your spirit body.
There are way more effective methods of achieving relaxation that does not have a negative effect on your spiritual well being.
Will write some more later.
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Big and interesting topic.
I agree that alot of problems in the world stem from internal sexual tension and that a healthy release would be beneficial.
A potentially destructive element when it comes sex is when it becomes a self-centered quest for pleasure.
Personally I agree with the "primitive statement" that masturbation is a sin.
Someone wiser than me (not hard to find) once said that masturbation is a homosexual act.
Many people probably masturbate to release internal tension, often ignorant of the detrimental effects it can have by wasting ones storage of sacred life force.
Almost 50% of the energy needed daily is wasted when you ejaculate your semen and it takes more than a month to re-fill your spirit body.
There are way more effective methods of achieving relaxation that does not have a negative effect on your spiritual well being.
Will write some more later.
In some cases, masturbation can be better than sex. Sex can be awkward in many ways, whereas masturbation is always a sure thing. I believe the main reason people put sex so far ahead of masturbation is that sex implies external validation, whereas any loser can masturbate, which can be considered unearned pleasure.
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Masturbation is rooted in greed.
These days our culture promotes it as something innocent and even beneficial.
Most people masturbate to pornographic imagery/thoughts.
When you plant that seed in your mind it spreads like parasitical weeds in a pristine garden.
The more you water it by thoughts and action the harder it gets uprooting it.
This not only applies to masturbation but sexual intercourse as well.
I don't believe sex should be exclusively for pro-creation but one should learn how to control and direct the sexual energy without spilling ones semen.
Having a life partner that you love and trust makes this an easier task and produces a harmonious relationship in both body and spirit.
Ejaculation is not necessary to reach a proper orgasm.
ANY type of birth control/contraception puts a shield of fear between you and your sexual partner as well as distorting the natural flow of sexual energy.
This is an interesting discussion and perhaps someone would like to continue on that topic in this thread.
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I don't know about you, but if I don't ejaculate on a regular basis, I am developing the desire to fuck or even marry any decent looking female stranger in sight. That is not a state to live in. I can't concentrate on shit. I am focused on women 24/7. No mental energy reserved for anything else. Not to mention what would happen if I simply got kids any time I have sex. I'd have countless neglected children I couldn't provide for. Way to go.
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Big and interesting topic.
I agree that alot of problems in the world stem from internal sexual tension and that a healthy release would be beneficial.
A potentially destructive element when it comes sex is when it becomes a self-centered quest for pleasure.
Personally I agree with the "primitive statement" that masturbation is a sin.
Someone wiser than me (not hard to find) once said that masturbation is a homosexual act.
Many people probably masturbate to release internal tension, often ignorant of the detrimental effects it can have by wasting ones storage of sacred life force.
Almost 50% of the energy needed daily is wasted when you ejaculate your semen and it takes more than a month to re-fill your spirit body.
There are way more effective methods of achieving relaxation that does not have a negative effect on your spiritual well being.
Will write some more later.
In some cases, masturbation can be better than sex. Sex can be awkward in many ways, whereas masturbation is always a sure thing. I believe the main reason people put sex so far ahead of masturbation is that sex implies external validation, whereas any loser can masturbate, which can be considered unearned pleasure.
that's what I tend to think as well. sex is usually used for validation and acceptance, to reach a status in society. or to mimic social norms.
however Heinz made some interesting points but I don't agree fully. even though I do believe that masturbating too much can be detrimental to one's mental well-being (by altering your sense of desire) and can hinder motivation and the "positive" stress which is necessary for productivity, in some instances it's a simple yet effective way to release stress and blow off some steam. some doctors even advocate masturbation twice a week in order to prevent prostate cancer.
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I don't know about you, but if I don't ejaculate on a regular basis, I am developing the desire to fuck or even marry any decent looking female stranger in sight. That is not a state to live in. I can't concentrate on shit. I am focused on women 24/7. No mental energy reserved for anything else. Not to mention what would happen if I simply got kids any time I have sex. I'd have countless neglected children I couldn't provide for. Way to go.
If you simply supress your sexual energy it most often becomes negative and even dangerous. It is important to learn how to cultivate it and not spill it through ejaculation.
To me that would be proper sexual education.
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Monsieur Bouli Roquefort:
Your last sentence is quite interesting. I know that some psychosomatic doctors in the 30-40's spoke of supressed/distorted sexual energy being the cause of prostate cancer in men and breast cancer in women. They might be right in that theory. Another interesting observation they made was that homosexual males had a much higher rate of diabetes.
Tension is easier and much healthier resolved through relaxation techniques than masturbating and ejaculating ones precious bodily fluids.
A doctor often ignores the spiritual aspect of the functioning of our human body.
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I don't know about you, but if I don't ejaculate on a regular basis, I am developing the desire to fuck or even marry any decent looking female stranger in sight. That is not a state to live in. I can't concentrate on shit. I am focused on women 24/7. No mental energy reserved for anything else. Not to mention what would happen if I simply got kids any time I have sex. I'd have countless neglected children I couldn't provide for. Way to go.
If you simply supress your sexual energy it most often becomes negative and even dangerous. It is important to learn how to cultivate it and not spill it through ejaculation.
To me that would be proper sexual education.
Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman. For a vast majority of women, few things are worse than a man who never ejaculates. I know from first hand experience. You can fuck their brains out and give them countless orgasms, if you don't spill cum out of your dick, they will be irritated at best.
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Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman.
Not true and an ignorant statement.
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Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman.
Not true and an ignorant statement.
Well unless she is a spiritual freak like you, she won't be pleased at all. Try fucking a normal random girl without ejaculating and see what happens.
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Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman.
Not true and an ignorant statement.
Speaking of not true and ignorant statements, where did you get this fun fact?
Almost 50% of the energy needed daily is wasted when you ejaculate your semen and it takes more than a month to re-fill your spirit body.
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Come on, Hack.
Just stop.
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Come on, Hack.
Just stop.
Lmao i can see you doing this on purpose just to blame for :D
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A fool can only fool himself.
Repeat offender; what you're attempting to do is embarrassing and it's not the first time.
Perhaps too much masturbation is stunting your real life development?
Word of advice, keep it real real Hack.
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lmao this guy isn't me but if you get off on the idea that it is then go ahead sir.
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Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman.
Not true and an ignorant statement.
Well unless she is a spiritual freak like you, she won't be pleased at all. Try fucking a normal random girl without ejaculating and see what happens.
I am a happily married man so my desire to copulate with a normal random girl is non existent.
But if you want to waste your sacred substance making a random female happy go ahead.
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I don't know about you, but if I don't ejaculate on a regular basis, I am developing the desire to fuck or even marry any decent looking female stranger in sight. That is not a state to live in. I can't concentrate on shit. I am focused on women 24/7. No mental energy reserved for anything else. Not to mention what would happen if I simply got kids any time I have sex. I'd have countless neglected children I couldn't provide for. Way to go.
If you simply supress your sexual energy it most often becomes negative and even dangerous. It is important to learn how to cultivate it and not spill it through ejaculation.
To me that would be proper sexual education.
Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman. For a vast majority of women, few things are worse than a man who never ejaculates. I know from first hand experience. You can fuck their brains out and give them countless orgasms, if you don't spill cum out of your dick, they will be irritated at best.
Not to take this off topic..but how do you consistently "fuck their brains out" and not ejaculate?
Back when I was young, I was unfortunately influenced by media, pop culture and hearsay that men always cum too fast and thought there could be nothing better than a man who takes a long ass time to cum. So I trained myself, thinking I was doing a smart thing. It got to a point of no return. Nowadays, I really have to concentrate and lie on my back and take me time to be able to cum with a woman, which is really bad. One would think that women appreciate it if a man is on top of them or behind them for half an hour without cumming, but that is really not the case with 90% of women. Most women get very irritated and some of them will directly address the issue, even though they had multiple orgasms and I haven't complained or urged them to jerk me off or anything. It got to a point where I started to literally fake orgasms. Once I realized that they are willing to end it, I just pretended to cum into the condom, then later stripped it quickly while they were not paying attention and went to the bathroom.
I still constantly hear from female friends about men who pissed them off by cumming in like 50 seconds, but even they admit that they don't see sex without male ejaculation as fulfilling. Part of it must be my early infatuation with the internet. I got used to hella porn so early and watched it so regularly since being 12 years old, that the body of a normal girl during normal sex at home simply won't arouse me as much as it should. As long as she is rather fine I get aroused enough to get hard, though. Maybe I could easily cum when fucking someone like Jessica Alba in her prime, but that doesn't happen.
It has advantages, no doubt. A girl who is used to guys cumming in 30-180 seconds will be in awe at fist, but after a certain while or multiple weeks of sex she will get bored of a guy who never cums easily. It's not that I am unable to cum, but it will take explicit effort on the woman's part (hardcore blowjob for more than a few minutes for instance) and some women are too spoiled to go through that or feel that their body should be good enough.
I now might have a decent enough collection of booty calls/friends with benefits and will probably try to stop jerking off/watching porn for an extended period and see if that helps, but I doubt it... unless some girl is living in or very near my apartment and willing to go down like every day, it is not enough and I usually can't resist. People would usually tell me that quitting porn will solve that problem easily, but then again I know plenty of people who watch just as much as I do and never had that problem.
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I don't know about you, but if I don't ejaculate on a regular basis, I am developing the desire to fuck or even marry any decent looking female stranger in sight. That is not a state to live in. I can't concentrate on shit. I am focused on women 24/7. No mental energy reserved for anything else. Not to mention what would happen if I simply got kids any time I have sex. I'd have countless neglected children I couldn't provide for. Way to go.
If you simply supress your sexual energy it most often becomes negative and even dangerous. It is important to learn how to cultivate it and not spill it through ejaculation.
To me that would be proper sexual education.
Ejaculating is mandatory if you want a healthy sexual relationship with a woman. For a vast majority of women, few things are worse than a man who never ejaculates. I know from first hand experience. You can fuck their brains out and give them countless orgasms, if you don't spill cum out of your dick, they will be irritated at best.
Not to take this off topic..but how do you consistently "fuck their brains out" and not ejaculate?
Back when I was young, I was unfortunately influenced by media, pop culture and hearsay that men always cum too fast and thought there could be nothing better than a man who takes a long ass time to cum. So I trained myself, thinking I was doing a smart thing. It got to a point of no return. Nowadays, I really have to concentrate and lie on my back and take me time to be able to cum with a woman, which is really bad. One would think that women appreciate it if a man is on top of them or behind them for half an hour without cumming, but that is really not the case with 90% of women. Most women get very irritated and some of them will directly address the issue, even though they had multiple orgasms and I haven't complained or urged them to jerk me off or anything. It got to a point where I started to literally fake orgasms. Once I realized that they are willing to end it, I just pretended to cum into the condom, then later stripped it quickly while they were not paying attention and went to the bathroom.
I still constantly hear from female friends about men who pissed them off by cumming in like 50 seconds, but even they admit that they don't see sex without male ejaculation as fulfilling. Part of it must be my early infatuation with the internet. I got used to hella porn so early and watched it so regularly since being 12 years old, that the body of a normal girl during normal sex at home simply won't arouse me as much as it should. As long as she is rather fine I get aroused enough to get hard, though. Maybe I could easily cum when fucking someone like Jessica Alba in her prime, but that doesn't happen.
It has advantages, no doubt. A girl who is used to guys cumming in 30-180 seconds will be in awe at fist, but after a certain while or multiple weeks of sex she will get bored of a guy who never cums easily. It's not that I am unable to cum, but it will take explicit effort on the woman's part (hardcore blowjob for more than a few minutes for instance) and some women are too spoiled to go through that or feel that their body should be good enough.
I now might have a decent enough collection of booty calls/friends with benefits and will probably try to stop jerking off/watching porn for an extended period and see if that helps, but I doubt it... unless some girl is living in or very near my apartment and willing to go down like every day, it is not enough and I usually can't resist. People would usually tell me that quitting porn will solve that problem easily, but then again I know plenty of people who watch just as much as I do and never had that problem.
NO OFFENSE, 7EVEN, YOU MY FICCA, BUT THAT SOUNDS PRETTY DAMN GAY
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What the fuck am I reading? LMFAO.
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damn son.
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lmao this guy isn't me but if you get off on the idea that it is then go ahead sir.
Now that I think of it, he is far too articulate to be you.
My bad blood.
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In some cases, masturbation can be better than sex. Sex can be awkward in many ways, whereas masturbation is always a sure thing.
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if you're doing something to 'release' tension it's ultimately supressing a feeling and putting negative kammic energy into the base of the body, bad information. that goes for any intoxicating states. if latent bad reactions are bubbling up you have to sit through it and find equanimity. meditate or engage in life until it just doesn't matter. the fact you feel frustrated or whatever is because that's what needs to be cleared from the system. masturbation is terrible on multiple levels, for physical vitality as heinz mentioned - weakness, premature balding etc. there's also the dopamine connection, take a long time to cum and you're flooding the brain with it, draining the kidneys with it and releasing tons of DHT from the prostate (chemical that speeds up balding). sex is the same, but it's the volition that's important. if its out of a loving connection or lustful drive desire for release. certainly the mainstram opinion that masturbation is normal or in any way healthy couldn't be more wrong, it's actually quite funny.
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if you're doing something to 'release' tension it's ultimately supressing a feeling and putting negative kammic energy into the base of the body, bad information. that goes for any intoxicating states. if latent bad reactions are bubbling up you have to sit through it and find equanimity. meditate or engage in life until it just doesn't matter. the fact you feel frustrated or whatever is because that's what needs to be cleared from the system. masturbation is terrible on multiple levels, for physical vitality as heinz mentioned - weakness, premature balding etc. there's also the dopamine connection, take a long time to cum and you're flooding the brain with it, draining the kidneys with it and releasing tons of DHT from the prostate (chemical that speeds up balding). sex is the same, but it's the volition that's important. if its out of a loving connection or lustful drive desire for release. certainly the mainstram opinion that masturbation is normal or in any way healthy couldn't be more wrong, it's actually quite funny.
Good to see someone with proper knowledge contributing.
Thank you.
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if you're doing something to 'release' tension it's ultimately supressing a feeling and putting negative kammic energy into the base of the body, bad information. that goes for any intoxicating states. if latent bad reactions are bubbling up you have to sit through it and find equanimity. meditate or engage in life until it just doesn't matter. the fact you feel frustrated or whatever is because that's what needs to be cleared from the system. masturbation is terrible on multiple levels, for physical vitality as heinz mentioned - weakness, premature balding etc. there's also the dopamine connection, take a long time to cum and you're flooding the brain with it, draining the kidneys with it and releasing tons of DHT from the prostate (chemical that speeds up balding). sex is the same, but it's the volition that's important. if its out of a loving connection or lustful drive desire for release. certainly the mainstram opinion that masturbation is normal or in any way healthy couldn't be more wrong, it's actually quite funny.
If masturbation is unhealthy, so is sex. Even more so, actually, due to STDs etc. Your dick doesn't know the difference between cumming from your hand or a woman's hand/mouth/pussy. If you seriously think having a normal sex life will make you bald and fucked up, go ahead, but don't get all spiritual about it.
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lmao this guy isn't me but if you get off on the idea that it is then go ahead sir.
Now that I think of it, he is far too articulate to be you.
My bad blood.
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it's all good
as for 7 even....you make some good points about STD's and shit but to say masturbation is better than sex is just unnatural.
i do remember jay leno used to tell jokes based on a true study that bears prefer masturbation...maybe 7even is really a bear.