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Lifestyle => Train of Thought => Topic started by: morbidenigma on November 05, 2014, 01:28:13 PM

Title: Romantic Love
Post by: morbidenigma on November 05, 2014, 01:28:13 PM
Can you have it without pain?  ::)
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: Infinite Trapped in 1996 on November 14, 2014, 07:06:24 PM
Can you have it without pain?  ::)

Yes, of course... all you have to do is manage it in a way where it can't blow up in your face the next day if things go wrong.

Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: Sccit on November 27, 2014, 05:55:16 PM
the real answer is no

if u could have love without pain, then it wouldn't be love.
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: J. B A N A N A S on December 02, 2014, 02:58:57 PM
A love that lasts will encompass every emotion known to humans at some point in the relationship. Pain is pretty much guaranteed to be there sometimes.
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: Aladin on December 15, 2014, 12:41:37 PM
I think we need to differentiate between Lust and Love.

Lust is like wine, if you drink of it, it will not satisfy your thirst...you want more, more, more. Till it ruins you.

Love is like water, if you sip of it, it will satisfy your thirst.
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: Matty on December 15, 2014, 02:46:33 PM
yes because love is a wholesome, kind & selfless state of mind, the longing for the happiness of another/others. experiencing pain or suffering is something else, happening in a different moment, for whatever reason. just because humans are often experiencing ups and down in their relationships doesn't speak to the nature of love itself, only that we feel a lot of different things.

the problem with 'romantic' love is you have lust-attachment in the mix. understandable enough and even 'necessary', given our animal nature and desire to reproduce. but that's more the root of pain in relationships, the desire to possess or change another etc, not love itself.
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: coastlights on December 25, 2014, 08:40:35 PM
Can you have it without pain?  ::)
what are you talking about bro?
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: Heinz on January 26, 2015, 02:29:06 AM
yes because love is a wholesome, kind & selfless state of mind, the longing for the happiness of another/others. experiencing pain or suffering is something else, happening in a different moment, for whatever reason. just because humans are often experiencing ups and down in their relationships doesn't speak to the nature of love itself, only that we feel a lot of different things.


Well put.

In simple terms: Love = Giving.
"Give and ye shall receive".
Title: Re: Romantic Love
Post by: Fraxxx on January 26, 2015, 05:39:17 AM
the problem with 'romantic' love is you have lust-attachment in the mix. understandable enough and even 'necessary', given our animal nature and desire to reproduce. but that's more the root of pain in relationships, the desire to possess or change another etc, not love itself.

That's why brotherly love is held in such high regard. It's "untainted" by sexual desire but can still be as strong and intimate.

And THAT is what these sissy men ruin for all of us! j/k