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QuietTruth

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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #15 on: December 08, 2006, 07:13:16 PM »
^ Oh shit, really, it makes it worse?



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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #16 on: December 08, 2006, 08:24:22 PM »
damn dude good thread, the past five years have been a big fuckin exercise in this for me. ive found whats worked for me is just talkin to everybody. strangers (be careful) , make existing friendships tighter, people at places you shop at, just trying to build little connections. go to parties/clubs/bars whatever. nothing really comes quick and for people like me you gotta piss off some people and learn the hard way, but it will come with age no doubt
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #17 on: December 08, 2006, 08:32:49 PM »
I don't consider myself super sociable, or gregarious if u wanna use the precise word...
It's definitely not hard for me to talk to many very different people, especially when it's one on one conversations, but in groups i tend to lose my sense of desire to say anything meaningful. I think the most important thing when interacting with someone is just being able to carry on a conversation, and if u sense that this person doenst wanna talk about something, switch to something else. And although i despise smalltalk, sometimes u gotta do a lil bit to get the stone rolling. With girls though its all about confidence though. I don't really try to get with girls unless i definitely know i'm into them, cuz then when they bore me i start to bore them cuz i just can't pretend to be interested. Which brings me to this personal truth - i try to socialize with people i can say more than 10 sentences to. U may be thinkin "duh" but i know people who hang out and they just seem to talk about bullshit the whole time. I think it will all fall into place at some point, but you, I, and i think most people in the their teens and early 20s don't have it all completely figured out. Peace
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #18 on: December 08, 2006, 10:07:22 PM »
its all confidence and not over-thinking. if you just relax and be yourself it flows naturally. when people sit somewhere, say talkin to a girl, and theyre all uptight and tryna think of what to say, thats when it gets awkward, so i guess the most important thing is just being relaxed, not tryin to overextend yourself, and just be who you are with confidence.

haha thats mad corny, but maybe its helpful...
 

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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #19 on: December 08, 2006, 10:08:12 PM »
with me, if i don't somebody i won't be able to conversate with them properly

however, i'll observe some common interests we may have and whatever; eventually once i figure that out, i build a conversation based on that
      
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #20 on: December 09, 2006, 09:41:21 AM »
^ Oh shit, really, it makes it worse?



Propz Leak, yo, I really appreciate that post! Truthfully nigga, thanks!

it's a big topic of discussion amognst communications experst. i think it wont make it worse, just got to differentiate between internet socialisation and real life socialisation.
 

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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #21 on: December 09, 2006, 10:19:27 AM »
Really good topic.

It's all psychological with a little bit of upbringing like Tech mentioned. I know when I was growing up, I had a really outgoing social father who could talk to anybody and everybody really well and leave a memorable impact on them, he's still that way. My mother, on the other hand, is almost the complete opposite: she's very quiet, especially at social events. She's pretty much a one-on-one talker.

I'm kind of in the middle. I can talk to strangers, but very rarely does it go any further than small talk. When I get to know the person on a more personal level, I can have great conversations with them. In big groups, I usually stay quiet and every once in awhile make a remark to make people laugh. I don't like to share what's on my mind or open up unless I know the person pretty well. I'm not a fan of public speaking either, but I'm pretty damn good at it lol.

I figure it's like this: if you don't have some serious self-esteem issues, we're all pretty young guys and still figuring things out. That's why I don't really sweat it. I notice improvements in my social interactions all the time, and as long as they stay constant, I have nother to worry about.
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #22 on: December 09, 2006, 12:52:48 PM »
Propz to ALL Ya'll!!!

The thing that I don't get is if you can't force 'it' than how are you supposed to break out that shell?

Becuz for me I gotta force myself, ya know?

And I can't help it. It's like I don't want to be this way but I just can't fuckin' help it.  There's nuthin' I can do.

Its kinda like what MTL's Most was sayin'. I am comfortable around the people that I'm always around but when I'm out of that environment it's like fuckin' crickets.

The funny thing is, is that I was never ever this way before now its just all the sudden.

How can a person even lose social skill ya know?

I don't know man, ya'll posting some good shit though!
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #23 on: December 09, 2006, 01:00:15 PM »
Propz to ALL Ya'll!!!

The thing that I don't get is if you can't force 'it' than how are you supposed to break out that shell?

Becuz for me I gotta force myself, ya know?

And I can't help it. It's like I don't want to be this way but I just can't fuckin' help it.  There's nuthin' I can do.

Its kinda like what MTL's Most was sayin'. I am comfortable around the people that I'm always around but when I'm out of that environment it's like fuckin' crickets.

The funny thing is, is that I was never ever this way before now its just all the sudden.

How can a person even lose social skill ya know?

I don't know man, ya'll posting some good shit though!
Wow, that's exactly how I am.
:o Damn, that's fuckin' crazy. :o

Ain't it annoyin' as hell?

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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #24 on: December 09, 2006, 01:39:24 PM »
The funny thing is, is that I was never ever this way before now its just all the sudden.

How can a person even lose social skill ya know?
Before I moved to the US I was really social. When I moved to California, I seemed to stop talking to most people until I rarely socialized with many people. Now I just chill with the people I know.
 

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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #25 on: December 09, 2006, 01:46:55 PM »
The funny thing is, is that I was never ever this way before now its just all the sudden.

How can a person even lose social skill ya know?
Before I moved to the US I was really social. When I moved to California, I seemed to stop talking to most people until I rarely socialized with many people. Now I just chill with the people I know.
I feel you. Holy shit.

When I was younger I was the mad social cat. I was a fuckin' class clown and I was the nigga everybody wanted to be around. Than I moved and that ruined everythang. I was so pissed. But I still was a talker until like one year in. I slowly and slowly became more Quiet. I moved back to where I was from and thought I was gonna be my old self again. Didn't happen.

That's madd fuckin' crazy that your that same way. My mind is wowed! 8) Lol, for real though. Insane nigga! :D Tight.
 

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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #26 on: December 09, 2006, 01:54:24 PM »
The funny thing is, is that I was never ever this way before now its just all the sudden.

How can a person even lose social skill ya know?
Before I moved to the US I was really social. When I moved to California, I seemed to stop talking to most people until I rarely socialized with many people. Now I just chill with the people I know.
I feel you. Holy shit.

When I was younger I was the mad social cat. I was a fuckin' class clown and I was the nigga everybody wanted to be around. Than I moved and that ruined everythang. I was so pissed. But I still was a talker until like one year in. I slowly and slowly became more Quiet. I moved back to where I was from and thought I was gonna be my old self again. Didn't happen.

That's madd fuckin' crazy that your that same way. My mind is wowed! 8) Lol, for real though. Insane nigga! :D Tight.
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #27 on: December 09, 2006, 02:16:36 PM »
The funny thing is, is that I was never ever this way before now its just all the sudden.

How can a person even lose social skill ya know?
Before I moved to the US I was really social. When I moved to California, I seemed to stop talking to most people until I rarely socialized with many people. Now I just chill with the people I know.
I only chill witht he people I know too. I guess I got trust issues or somethin' because I find it really hard to trust people I recently met.
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #28 on: December 09, 2006, 07:21:12 PM »
Yo i just wanna insert that i'm fucking stoked to see so many people post insightful posts, cuz i had a feeling there was gonna be lots of bullshit on this. I'm glad i was wrong. DUBCC has come a long way
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Re: Social Skill
« Reply #29 on: December 09, 2006, 07:29:00 PM »
Big ups to everybody.