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shyness
« on: February 06, 2008, 03:25:07 AM »
what causes it?
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #1 on: February 06, 2008, 05:37:47 AM »
insecurity/low self asteem
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #2 on: February 07, 2008, 01:22:38 AM »
fear of rejection / failure
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #3 on: February 07, 2008, 09:38:15 AM »
lack of self confidence..

alot of highschool kids have trouble making eye contact , they talk around you lol

 
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #4 on: February 07, 2008, 09:52:53 AM »
lack of self confidence..


That's the root...

When you're shy, you act unsure. You avoid everyday situations that may make you feel uncomfortable. Shy people do not feel comfortable around people they don't know, nor do they reach out to get to know them. It all boils down to not being confident in yourself. Feeling as if others are going to laugh at you or that you're going to say something stupid... or whatever.

Fear of rejection, insecurity and low-self-esteem are all factors of lack of self confidence.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #5 on: February 07, 2008, 10:10:16 AM »
insecurity/low self asteem
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #6 on: February 07, 2008, 10:46:18 AM »
being a little bitch
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Re: shyness
« Reply #7 on: February 07, 2008, 10:57:38 AM »
Well, first of all, fuck what you heard, it's not a bad quality.

And I think experiences make you shy, not so much low self esteem and all that shit that it's supposed to mean. Experiences make you who you are.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #8 on: February 07, 2008, 11:24:21 AM »
BAD PARENTS

 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #9 on: February 07, 2008, 11:46:41 AM »
I wouldn't say bad parents, its more like parents who never taught you social skills beyond "speak when spoken to." A lot of Latinos are like cuz that's how they were raised. Don't speak out of turn. DO as you're told. etc. The main thing with shyness is just to realize that people aren't  gonna laugh at you. People are to busy to care half the time.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #10 on: February 07, 2008, 12:08:29 PM »
i think shy people just like keeping to themselves.  and shy people are real in my opinion
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #11 on: February 07, 2008, 12:43:37 PM »
i see we got a few shy people in the group here, well first and foremost id like to say fuck you for being boring

with that said..


step your confidence game up , polish your personality and be the best you could be
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #12 on: February 07, 2008, 03:27:32 PM »
lack of self confidence..


That's the root...

When you're shy, you act unsure. You avoid everyday situations that may make you feel uncomfortable. Shy people do not feel comfortable around people they don't know, nor do they reach out to get to know them. It all boils down to not being confident in yourself. Feeling as if others are going to laugh at you or that you're going to say something stupid... or whatever.

Fear of rejection, insecurity and low-self-esteem are all factors of lack of self confidence.

I think that you pretty much nailed it there.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #13 on: February 07, 2008, 03:57:22 PM »
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #14 on: February 07, 2008, 05:18:14 PM »
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.
are you a woman?
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #15 on: February 07, 2008, 05:39:19 PM »
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.
are you a woman?
no
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #16 on: February 07, 2008, 05:51:25 PM »
well that sucks.
 

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Re: shyness
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Re: shyness
« Reply #18 on: February 07, 2008, 06:21:23 PM »
^lol.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #19 on: February 07, 2008, 06:47:16 PM »
im shy, and quite. and i hang out with the people i know, and just keep to myself. i was just wondering. thanks to those of you answered with realistic answers.

Put yourself in situations where you DON'T know people and challenge yourself to step up and approach them. Spark up a convo, unless they're complete assholes, they'll at least acknowledge you. And if they don't, no big deal. You don't know em, so no harm done.

Try it in a place like School. It's easy to spark a convo there. Try going to a party and talking to females (this will get your confidence up and lord knows chicks dig confidence, though a shy guy can sneak in out of nowhere sometimes with some chicks). Just challenge yourself. Be a big more outspoken. You don't gotta be the life of the party, but at least be apart of the party and not just a fly on the wall.
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #20 on: February 07, 2008, 06:48:39 PM »
There's a difference between introverts and shy people though.  The opening poster probably isn't really shy, just an introvert. 
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #21 on: February 08, 2008, 02:40:58 PM »
There's a difference between introverts and shy people though.  The opening poster probably isn't really shy, just an introvert. 
yea, i researched introvert. and i think i am one of those. old soul you can say
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #22 on: February 10, 2008, 01:32:59 PM »
I was shy before I had low self-esteem. So therefore, that just can't be a reason. And as a reserved kidd, I don't give a fuck about what others think of a nigga, so afraid of not fitting in ain't just another reason either. I say experiences. Once bitten, twice shy...ya feel me?

Real niggas are always the reserved ones. And the smartest, fuck what you heard before hand!
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #23 on: February 10, 2008, 05:54:34 PM »
I was shy before I had low self-esteem. So therefore, that just can't be a reason. And as a reserved kidd, I don't give a fuck about what others think of a nigga, so afraid of not fitting in ain't just another reason either. I say experiences. Once bitten, twice shy...ya feel me?

Real niggas are always the reserved ones. And the smartest, fuck what you heard before hand!
i feel you. most people cant get on my level anyway. lol
 

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Re: shyness
« Reply #24 on: February 10, 2008, 06:04:00 PM »
Nice Topic
+1 Thread Starter!

I'm introverted in nature!
So i know exactly what you are talking about it! There are some pretty darn good explanations and trick and tips provided by various members on here, that's amamzing!!

Not sure if it has to do with low-self esteem.Most folsk think it is,that may be hte 10-15 percentage,but i'm not sure it's the general consensus. I don't have low-self esteem, neither do i see or regard myself as the 'best' or anything related to that or bordering on egotism.

Though i will admit, i won't be the first to walk to meet and talk to someone!
I would need to know someone who knows that individual!
Don't know why, it's always like that for me!

for you guys that are extroverted in nature, do you guys maintain eye contact??
because i don't, i've never been able to!
That alone kinda annoys a lot of pple, especially my Gurl! ;D