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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #25 on: March 12, 2005, 08:14:36 PM »
getting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...

That's really intelligent, but it's equally un-intelligent to have a child, if you're not married.  That didn't stop them, so they need to be trying to clean up the mess they've made of the child's life. 

Thats stupid who says his life or the childs is for that matter...they can have a child be together not be married and still be as happy as can be...its what they make of it and how they live their life... i personally see a child as being just as big if not bigger committment than marriage...
marriage in a perfect world should be for life but a child most definatly is...
id love to do it all "the right way" around but if u find love and live with that person...and however it happens you end up having a child/children it doesnt make u bad people or fuckups...its how they are together and to each other and importantly how they are as parents
they can get married when they can afford it / are ready its all good

You 100% missed the point.  Yeah, you're right, they can not be married, and have a child, and be 'as happy as can be' but the CHILD can't.  It's unfair to bring a child into the world to parents who aren't even wed, and if you dont' see that, then throw every post of mine you see out of the window, because we have fundamentally different morals, values, and ways of thinking. 
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #26 on: March 13, 2005, 12:30:06 AM »
Marriage for me hasn't been a constant state of one emotion or another.  Maybe it's possible that there are couples out there who experience a constant state of euphoria around eachother, but for me there is no constant state.  Some times the love and emotions are high, other times things are just normal, sometimes boring, sometimes exciting, sometimes frustrated, other times happy, sometimes disatisfied, other times totally content.  That's what marriage has been for me.  The experience is greater than I can really put into words and explain.  I've only been married a year now, maybe one day I will be able to look back and evaluate marriage on another level, but right now, it's still very new to me.

I advice people at this forum to get married and not to seperate.  Too many people are too quick to seperate, just try to encourage others to stay together.  This society in America teaches people to do things in haste, and to rush, and to be "free" and run wild, but the most pure state is found in marriage and stability. 
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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #27 on: March 13, 2005, 12:42:23 AM »
yes...23-25
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #28 on: March 13, 2005, 04:49:49 AM »
hopefully by my late twenties to early thirties (28-32) , so that's at least 11 years from now.But sure once i have a job and some money.


 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #29 on: March 13, 2005, 07:29:56 AM »
getting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...

That's really intelligent, but it's equally un-intelligent to have a child, if you're not married.  That didn't stop them, so they need to be trying to clean up the mess they've made of the child's life. 

Thats stupid who says his life or the childs is for that matter...they can have a child be together not be married and still be as happy as can be...its what they make of it and how they live their life... i personally see a child as being just as big if not bigger committment than marriage...
marriage in a perfect world should be for life but a child most definatly is...
id love to do it all "the right way" around but if u find love and live with that person...and however it happens you end up having a child/children it doesnt make u bad people or fuckups...its how they are together and to each other and importantly how they are as parents
they can get married when they can afford it / are ready its all good

You 100% missed the point.  Yeah, you're right, they can not be married, and have a child, and be 'as happy as can be' but the CHILD can't.  It's unfair to bring a child into the world to parents who aren't even wed, and if you dont' see that, then throw every post of mine you see out of the window, because we have fundamentally different morals, values, and ways of thinking. 


haha how exactly do we have different values on this or are you just argueing for the sake of it... i said I want to be married...living together...then have a child < thats what MY opinion is...but who the hell am i or you to come to that point to comment on someone elses life. who u dont even know ?
and that person you are commenting on says he wants to be married but thinks his girlfriend may not be ready...he cant fuckin force her can he ?
so its her you are questioning and her ethics and standpoint NOT MINE...

...but just a question how many people are married before they have children / move in together in your country...how many achieve that ideal ?
...how many stay together...how many divorce ?

im talking on sad reality...cos not many in this country do...."accidents" do happen... people do make the wrong decision...people do make mistakes and believe they have found "the one"... my point is people ALL people are fallable...all people change no matter country, religion, race, creed, ethnicity, beliefs, upbringing, background, experience....its how we cope...learn...act/react...think...do that make the real difference


and if your beliefs are coming ffrom a religious standpoint...what are you mormon ? well i know a few myself and well and they are not so blinded that they cannot see the harshness and the truth in the world today...and they are also not blinded / shielded not to feel and understand others and their stories...so how is it that u seem to be this way...

...oh yeah that thing called personal choice


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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #30 on: March 14, 2005, 08:53:45 PM »
getting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...
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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #31 on: March 14, 2005, 09:07:26 PM »
I've been married for 6 months and I'll tell ya'll that the wedding day was one of the happiest and memorable moments in my life. Do it only if you can honestly look at both of your strengths and weaknesses and measure up your goals and values in life. Needless to say you have to truly know your partner which takes a few years (for me, it was 5 yrs). The greater number of years to me represents loyalty though thick and thin...think about it. ;)

Plus divorces can cost you into the thousands ???
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #32 on: March 15, 2005, 03:48:41 AM »
Cant wait to become a housewife... Big House, 7 children, 2 cars, Husband going away on business and cheating on me, Being chained to the kitchen...

it will be dope

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #33 on: March 22, 2005, 12:25:17 PM »
maybe..but gotta find the right person first...maybe 26? if not than its all good
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #34 on: March 22, 2005, 12:44:53 PM »

Plus divorces can cost you into the thousands ???

Liek the song says, "It's cheaper to keep her".
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #35 on: March 23, 2005, 03:53:57 PM »
Yea ofc...I -hope- somewhere around 25-27.

And, if I dont fuck up...i'll have a kid around 28-30.

worrd same here man, i hope so
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #36 on: March 25, 2005, 10:34:49 PM »
Well, i'm living with my girlfriend right now and we have a 7 month old child.  She wants to get married, i dont know if i want to , i think we are fine how we are right now.  But, eventually i'm pretty sure i will end up marrying her sometime in the future.
 

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Re: Do You Want To Get Married?
« Reply #37 on: March 25, 2005, 11:27:17 PM »
yeah for sure I wanna get married around 27-30.. but I dunno how it'll all work out. Being a med student, I won't finish my initial training till 2011 and after that I have to work insane shifts till I get my medical fellowship.. its gonna be hard getting a family together at the same time. Hopefully I'll meet someone that can truely understand the situation but hey .. only one way to find out.

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