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Social Skill
jeromechickenbone:
I've literally moved dozens of times in my life, went to numerous schools, lived in numerous states all around the country. This all started when I was 6 years old. While it was very difficult sometimes, it also enabled me to be very observant and perceptive. I can pretty much go into any setting and have conversation with about any type of person. But the key is to at least have somewhat of an understanding about what you're talking about, or at least reveal that you're completely ignorant on the subject and ask lots of questions. People love talking about themselves or about something they're knowlegable about.
Also, as far as steppin to women I was def shy back in the day. All because I used to be terrified of rejection. But eventually I came to the realization that there's absolutely NO reason to let the fear of rejection stop me from trying. Why is what some person thinks of me relevant in the grand scheme of things? It's not. You only have one life to live - shit ain't THAT serious. So eventually I just started hollerin at girls left and right. Didn't even have to be bangin ass broads, just step to them and develop some confidence and experience. Eventually shit becomes second nature. I've been shot down by bad ass broads and some wack ass broads. At the same time, I've bagged broads that were straight dimes all because I didn't give a fuck and hollered at them.
And then you look at the law of averages. If I step to 10 girls, I might get shitted on by 9. But if 1 of them is feelin me, then I'm good to go. I don't even sweat getting rejected. I use that shit for motivation. Like I said, some random broad you meet at the club isn't worth getting worked up over.
TraceOneInfinite:
--- Quote from: QuietTruth on December 07, 2006, 01:00:18 PM ---How the fuck do you improve that?
When I ask, I don't mean just goin' up and talkin' to people but I say it in a way like, how? How to talk to a person the right way.
Does it gotta do with intelligence?
Ya know, it's like to some people it comes natural as hell, but like when somebody asks ya something and its like you don't know what to say, or you do, but have no fuckin' clue how to word something right.......
...Is that ignorance or intelligence?
I don't know, maybe this will grow out of you??
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I'll offer a few things that were taught to me back in 2000 and have worked pretty well since, as far as me getting the kind of results I wanted.
#1. One book that really helped me understand social ethics was "The Celestine Prophecy" by James Redfield. There's even a movie if you don't have the time to read the book, although I recommend you read the book slowly and apply it to your life if you want the full effect. It explains how energy is transferred between human beings, and how to always hold in mind your life's purpose as you approach every person you meet and every conversation and your lives path will evolve at a faster rate.
#2. One book that really helped me increase my vocabulary was "Soul On Ice" by Eldridge Cleaver. At the time I read it I had to pull out the dictionary almost every few sentences, but it was well worth it in the end. It also opened the door for me to continue on reading other material I had previously been unable to read because of my lack of vocabulary and understanding.
#3. Try to love the person that you are talking to and want what's best for them; although don't tell them what they should do but refer to what people should do in general.
#4. Know what you are wanting out of the person you are talking to. You have to know clearly your goal before you can get what you want. For example, I am trying to be what is called in Islam, a "da-ee" which means one who calls to Allah, so every person I meet I am trying to call to Allah, either directly or indirectly, but the goal is the same.
Chief:
^bringing up allah in every conversation is not social skill. it's insanity, and fucking annoying.
7even:
--- Quote from: Suave on December 13, 2006, 07:52:44 AM ---^bringing up allah in every conversation is not social skill. it's insanity, and fucking annoying.
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LMAO!!
TraceOneInfinite:
--- Quote from: King Tech Quadafi on December 07, 2006, 03:17:01 PM ---
like me, i was born in the middle east, grew up hardcore afghan muslim. so i can communicate with my people, fellow immigrants etc. I also grew up in the PJs, so I got some ghetto ness in me, some street smarts if u will, I can fuck wit ma niggaz. growing up, I kicked it with a wide range of people, white boys, rich kids, 4-5 different ethnic groups etc. I go to university, so now Im interacting with the professional crowd.
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So which one is the real you? Meaning which of those roles do you prefer?
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