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she's saying that now, but who knows what the future holds and whether she'll change her mind or not. regardless, the kid is naturally a very important part of her life so i dont see how i would not build a relationship with him since im around his mom all the time. i dont want the kid to get attached to me and then if things dont work out, im gone. ive seen how that affects a kid when different men or women are in and out of their lives due to relationships with their parents and it only fucks them up. so basically the thing that's bothering me is that selfishly i wanna be with this girl, but unselfishly i dont wanna hurt anybody in the event that things just dont work out.
iīve done it and itīs hard. this was like a year ago and before that iīve always said that i would never do it and after it iīve also said that iīm not gonna do it again. but the thing is that her kid was around a lot so i got a little attached coz the kid was just adorable and thatīs what made it fucked up when we parted ways coz her daughter doesnīt understand why iīm not around no more and i really like the kid. but i canīt see myself dating someone with a kid again coz itīs extremely easy to get attached to their kids and vice versa. and if you got emotionally attached like that you start to take care of the kid like itīs your own+spending a lot of money and shit like that. but i say that you should give it a shot but if itīs not working out then get the fuck out of the relationship ASAP.
Girl with kids = they FUCK
Wow, I haven't posted here in what seems to be years but sometimes I browse and see whats up. I am so busy in my life now but this post just grabbed my attention, why???Because I was in your situation and went for it. I speak to you from experience.I met my girl almost 3 years ago. I met her at school. I found out she had a little daughter 3yrs. old at the time. Of course we started out as friends and I never saw anything serious with her but then things changed drastically. I mean I had always avoided girls with kids and everyone had always told me to do the same but it was so different with her. We clicked on another level immediately and of course we became so close and the "L" word quickly followed. My girl is no hoodrat or hoochie, she is a wonderful girl, wifey material. She just met the wrong guy first before me . Here are a couple things you have to consider or look forward too if you choose to pursue anything serious with her..You have to be really mature about the situation since it involves a child(you are because you already are thinking about not hurting her or the child, I give you major props for that). I was 25 when I met my girl and she was 23. Its great that shes not a hoodrat and has respect for herself. As you can see from some of the immature comments on this thread Quote from: Exit Eg2 Enter E-G DeNiro on February 28, 2007, 04:55:26 PMGirl with kids = they FUCK the stereotype about girls with kids is that they are easy and hoes.In fact most guys I know just pursue them for that reason. I mean some can be but they are others like my girl who ended up with the wrong person. You really have to get to know her before making any type of move.Is she a good mother??? If she is then her child will always come first no matter what. Are you prepared to understand and accept that. Never try to come in between them especially if she loves her son. You will find yourself alone no doubt. No good mother will ever choose a man over her own child believe me. My girl is a wonderful mother and I have never ever tried to come in between her and her daughter. If I did I would be single right now. From what I read she is a good mother since she doesnt want you to be involved with her son right now. I didnt meet my girls daughter until 1 year into our relationship can you believe that??? Well its because she has to be real careful about who she brings around her child. If the day comes that she wants you to have something to do with the child then that definitely means she thinks seriously of you. Depending on her past experience with men be ready for some trials and tribulations. My girl had a terrible first relationship and lost trust and hope in guys but then she met me. I have now changed her mind but at first it was so so so hard. Move slowly its the best way.Do you like children??? Well you better since you might be a stepdad in the future. Ever since I met my girl I always went out of my way to buy her little daughter birthday and Christmas gifts. Believe me it shows alot to her. Honestly there is so much more but I guess you have to experience it yourself. I hope I havent pushed you away from anything serious with this girl but you know she could be the one. I just bought an engagement ring for my girl so that tells you how serious Iam in my relationship. Think about it seriously before you go ahead with any decision just know that it aint easy and it takes so much patience and maturity. One advantage you do have is you get to see how good of a mother she is. That gives you so much incentive to see if one day you marry her how she will treat your child. Good Luck