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Monagamy A Myth?
Narrator:
It doesn't surprise me that much. I've known plenty of people that have slept around while in a serious relationship, or even marriage. In fact, I'd have to admit it's becoming disturbingly common. I've personally never been married and really don't think I'm depriving myself of anything by staying single. If I met the right one, maybe I'd reconsider, but so far, I just haven't met anyone who made me want to give up what I have now. And the thing is, I know far more people who are unhappily married than people who are happily married. One of my colleagues, who's a little older than me but has been married six years now, has actually told me he envies me...several times now! My parents, who are Christians and the most "moral"-type people I know, are sure as hell not happy in their marriage, and I know for sure I don't want to be like them.
One thing I will agree with...if your sole reason for staying single is that you want to keep sleeping with random strangers you meet at parties, then that is a totally idiotic, shallow mentality. You'd be surprised at how old that shit gets after a while, particularly once you get to be my age and you don't have oversexed, adolescent friends standing around telling you how cool you are because you're banging a different girl every weekend. People want to do that because they have this idea that fucking a whole bunch of other people will somehow make them happy. That's just like those people who go shopping endlessly, buying lots of expensive crap they don't need, thinking that having all those things will fill this empty, gaping hole in their lives. Wanting to have sex with lots and lots of people is exactly the same sort of delusional mentality.
So, the point I'm making is...marriage won't necessarily make you a happier person, but neither will staying single so that you can have lots of sex with lots of people. If getting married is TRULY what you want, and you know you've found the right person, then fine. But you really don't need a spouse to have a rich, fulfilling life any more than you need to sleep around. It's all in your head. Decide what you REALLY want - not what your friends, family, religion, etc. tell you - and go for that.
Turf Hitta:
--- Quote from: The King of Mitt Romney's Fan Club on June 16, 2008, 08:46:32 PM ---The lack of monogamy in our society shows the true weakness and lack of morals in our culture. People who can't stay faithful are just people who have a lack of self control. The way our culture has progressed in the last few decades really shows how weak we are. Go into any highschool, and look at the lack of directions and maturity. The fact that procreation is now so separate from sex, shows the weak mind, and lack of self control of most people in this thing we call a civilized society. No one needs sex, you just think you do. Try to hold in your desires, it'll make you a stronger person. People can get whatever they want, when they want, and leads to a poorer quality of human being. No one has to earn or try anymore. They can just go to a bar, buy a whore a drink, and sleep with her. What kind of morality is that?
Monogamy will make you a happier person in the long run. Meeting the right person, a person you love, independent of sex, and spending you're lives together, that's happiness. Something most people won't accomplish, and why most people aren't happy in their lives. Most people would rather just sleep around, living selfish, shallow, self deprecating lives.
Short term satisfaction over longterm happiness. That's what our society is today.
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Eh...Just because a person doesn't share your same morals and values that does not make them immoral, weak or lazy. Monogamy might work for some but not for others. Its not right not make sweeping generalizations like this. I'm sure many people would be much happier by being sexually promiscuous. And do you have data to back your theory that most people aren't happy AND that their unhappiness is directly linked to their not being monogamous or are you just blowing shit out of your mouth? It seems like you're just making vast sweeping judgments and assumptions based on the culture that you have been indoctrinated into accepting. Maybe I'm wrong, but thats the impression I get.
Elevz:
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The King:
--- Quote from: Turf Hitta on June 24, 2008, 02:14:05 AM ---
--- Quote from: The King of Mitt Romney's Fan Club on June 16, 2008, 08:46:32 PM ---The lack of monogamy in our society shows the true weakness and lack of morals in our culture. People who can't stay faithful are just people who have a lack of self control. The way our culture has progressed in the last few decades really shows how weak we are. Go into any highschool, and look at the lack of directions and maturity. The fact that procreation is now so separate from sex, shows the weak mind, and lack of self control of most people in this thing we call a civilized society. No one needs sex, you just think you do. Try to hold in your desires, it'll make you a stronger person. People can get whatever they want, when they want, and leads to a poorer quality of human being. No one has to earn or try anymore. They can just go to a bar, buy a whore a drink, and sleep with her. What kind of morality is that?
Monogamy will make you a happier person in the long run. Meeting the right person, a person you love, independent of sex, and spending you're lives together, that's happiness. Something most people won't accomplish, and why most people aren't happy in their lives. Most people would rather just sleep around, living selfish, shallow, self deprecating lives.
Short term satisfaction over longterm happiness. That's what our society is today.
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Eh...Just because a person doesn't share your same morals and values that does not make them immoral, weak or lazy. Monogamy might work for some but not for others. Its not right not make sweeping generalizations like this. I'm sure many people would be much happier by being sexually promiscuous. And do you have data to back your theory that most people aren't happy AND that their unhappiness is directly linked to their not being monogamous or are you just blowing shit out of your mouth? It seems like you're just making vast sweeping judgments and assumptions based on the culture that you have been indoctrinated into accepting. Maybe I'm wrong, but thats the impression I get.
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So you don't think going to bars for the simple purpose of sleeping with women, and then to never talk to them again, is immoral? Our society is in the shit were in because of lack of morals. Look how 12 year old girls dress these days. It's a signal of a declining morality. People don't need sex, it's that simple. They only think they need it, and people who can't keep a monogamous relationship are weak minded. They need that short term statisfcation for something they don't even need to survive or be happy. It's an immature, adolesent life style. How many people do you know who are truely happy. I've never met one. And most people I know aren't married.
QuietTruth:
^ Fuckin' preach that shit!
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