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morbidenigma:
Just something i was thinking about society says women have a lot of insecurities - women have added pressure of feeling they have to look a certain way, maybe read an article and start judging themselves, worry how they look to other men and women cause women judge other females aswell as men etc

But there's the other side we don't hear about the mans side

What issues do guys feel insecure about?

The only time i have witnessed guys actually being insecure is when they actually have GFs. For example, getting pissed of when they chat to other guys etc etc. Serious relationships or getting serious about a girl can make guys very insecure. I understand why they are that way, and why i would be that way if i was serious about someone too. The reason why? becos i know and maybe other guys know to from their time being single, that many women who are in relationships/married still act as if their single around other men, flirting, over fraternizing and on some occasions even cheating.

i dont what it is, i reckon it must be for their ego's that women need self assurance..they have to know still "have it"...they gotta feel as if they can still get any guy they want.

and shit gets much worse when the paranoia sets in too.  ;D




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Matty:
i find a LOT of people i know/have known start to behave differently when getting serious with a girl. it's almost like they can't be themselves 100% so they present themselves differently to different people. now this might just be in public or whatnot but i think men in general have a lot of INSECURITIES ABOUT THEIR OWN CHARACTERS. they are too scared to show their softer side most of the time and have to over compensate by being too soft when around their women.

i believe in being straight up 100% and not having this character shift when around people of the opposite sex or whatever. you should be comfortable with yourself all the time, no major efforts to go one way or the other and conceal your feelings.

for example i have friends who can look me in the eye and tell me how much they love their girl etc and be completely straight about it and their emotions in general. other people have this macho complex and will refer to their girls physical qualities or whatever. i think you have to be comfortable with who you are deep down - that is generally guys biggest insecurity. another thing that links into that is BEING UNSURE about things. just because you don't have all the answers to life does not make you inferior in any way. guys can tend to have problems keeping an open mind. i would link this to insecurities about character and knowing who you are deep down again.

i think men feel pressured by society to know whats what for themselves and form formulate concrete world views from role models or whatever when in today's world its better to keep an open mind, ask questions of things, learn and grow continuously.

anyone agree with any of that?

Þŕiņçë:
I agree, but reading this didn't make me any less insecure. Should i cut myself  ???

Matty:
nope.

Þŕiņçë:
Sorry i am unfunny and retarded, i apologize.

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