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Anyone Have An Insane Family Member/Friend?
LooN3y:
my older cousin, lost it a couple years ago.
i dont know if it was drugs, or what not. but dude lost it, he was valvictorian in high school, went to and graduated from berkley. he was always a shy guy, but nice.
i dont know what happened but he just started acting weird. i thought it was nothing, but it continued and he started doing crazy shit, like spending money on all types of shit and getting himself into debt, saying he's going to be the worlds best DJ, or saying he's going to make a lot of money.
saying he's gonna be the next big thing. making a bunch of food in the middle of the night, and eating some and leaving the rest to waste. running around the house naked happened once, disrespecting everyone and the house. cursing at people, saying family members are enemies and such.
talking nonsense all the time, saying he's a 33rd tier mason, saying the cops are on him or saying some gangbangers are looking for him.
smoking bud inside the house disrespecting the family and such. and basically just going crazy. he talks nonsense, he says he's going to make a lot of money, if you dont agree with him he says fuck you or threatens you or some shit.
he wants everything but doesnt work, acts like he deserves shit, and he put my family though a lot of shit, not just his family, by my pops and grandma as well.
hes manic or bi-polar, with mental illnesses how can you be sure?
has anyone had any experience with this stuff? and what worked to help him or her get better?
like he was cool for about a year, but he was just really depressed and just didnt want to do anything. but he wasn't talking crazy, but every time around december/janurary it spikes up or its his "up" time and he goes crazy again, but he didnt take medicine for a while because he thought he was ok.
but when he's "down" he literally has no spark for life. he doesnt want to go drink, or do anything. but its much better than him being crazy.
Matty:
yup but full on crazy compared to what you're describing (paranoid schizophrenic).
most of these people are never getting better, but your cousin doesn't sound far gone at all. i think with counselling and/or more shamanistic healing using psychedelic substances you can work to reverse most mental illness. isn't really much research into the latter but i think that's where it's really at. of course 'drugs' can be what got people to a weird state in the first place, so it's a tough one. or there's the pharma route where people take drugs forever to lessen some of the symptons, while fucking the body up in the long term.
KrazySumwhat:
I've experienced this with several people that i know.
Combination of drugs or just madness, throw in magic/the occult or religion, schizophrenia, extreme paranoia, etc
One of my mates used to be fairly crazy but he seemed to have come good. I think him having a daughter saved him?
One mate just ended up drug fucked so bad to the point that he is no longer the same person and just became a scab.
One of my mates who is the strangest and craziest person that i know has sort of come good. I mean dude never really did any drugs back in the day so its strange that he turned out how he did. he was always a bit on the strange side and into some out there shit and really out of touch with reality and lacks social skills pretty bad in some areas.
Anyhow, he got to the point where he had seemingly gone completely mad.
Extreme paranoia, always thinking that everyone was against him or purposely not including him in things or fucking him over. Thinking that people were following him and monitoring and out to get him and to kill him.
I cant even really go into all of it but he been into magic and the occult.
Convinced that he has powers. He lost it and started firing his guns through the front door and ended up locked up in a place where crazies go.
he ended up so drugged up that he became a bit like my other mate, was almost not himself.
Drugged up and dopey, prescription drugs and anti syke injections.
He is still pretty bad and out of touch with reality and have bad habits, he got badly into the meth and ice and gambling and is always in debt and always borrowing money off people and pawing in his shit, kinda junkie style.
Things that have helped, friends being there(but some abandoned him and i almost did myself), he found god, stopped doing all that occult shit, reduced the amount of prescription drugs he was taking, stopped smoking ice, hes doing taekwondo abd about to go back to school. he dosent drink much.
There was definitely some tough love involved. Pretty much had to tell him to his face how out of line he was and really have a go at him and drill it into his head and explain to him like, almost act like i was a fucking parent or something.
This dude is not very self reliant though, not as bad as he was when he got real bad on the ice but he constantly borrows money of people and is always in debt, always buying shit he cant afford and trying to live beyond his means, buying shit he dont need, no budgeting, no prioritizing or realizing that sometimes you need to be a man and make sacrifices and go without, always bites off way more than he can chew yet not prepared to work for it.
he also acts a bit scarey and at times almost creepy and stalker like. In serious need of things to occupy his time and need a fucking hobby or a missus or something as he can want to talk on the phone like every day an want to hang out all the time and almost act like a woman like he wants to know everything like what you are doing or who you are with n shit lol...
He can be very bad in public too like not giving a fuck about acting inappropriately n shit..
At the end of the day i think when mates go through this type of shit that you really need to be up front with them, tell them to their face and do not lend them money because then they just expect it and take it for granted and dont learn how to get through life as an adult on their own and not only that you actually contribute to feeding their bad habits and addictions.
I've resorted to avoiding and not answering my phone also lol...
I think prescription medication can help but i also think it can make a person much worse. Its almost like they just want to drug people up as to make them almost zombie like and keep them out of their hair.
Oh and like your mate my mate always talks about doing this and that and how hes going to be rich n shit also. Always been more talk than action and a bit delusional.
hard to say if you can help. Some people will never change or change for the worse..
EDIT: my mate dose sound like yours in alot of ways but he definitely dosent go all anti social or anything. hes the opposite, he wants to hang out and talk with everyone far TOO much. Lacks hobbies.
One thing i will say thats good about him, he dose seem to appreciate his friends and isn't a thief or a liar. he can be stubborn and persuasive and selfish and persistent though!..
Oh and he started to just spend most his life in his bed for a while there. but he snapped out of that.
And would hang out with the wrong sort of people almost just so he hand someone to hang out with.
And me having a go at him wasn't just me having a go at him, there was also advice and encouragement. But there's been plenty of times where we really had to complain or have a go at him. usually dosent sink in though. In one ear and out the other.
LooN3y:
wow man, but the thing is while he was in the US he'd just smoke weed all day, and it made the symptoms worse. and he did start selling shit and stealing when he was, because he had no money for weed. especially after he fucked himself over debt buying useless shit.
but the things is he hasn't been smoking, he's been in china for a year (my aunt didnt want him in their house anymore), and now he's acting up, and now they're moving him to a korea to send him to a mental hospital.
its just sad man, and the creeper shit he does as well, like he says he's going to marry this one chick (a former homegirl of his) and he kept posting on her face book and such, or talking shit to another homegirl calling her a slut and saying he's going to ruin her life, oh and he did the same to a lot of his guy friends too. saying he's an enemy and he's gonna do all his power to make their lives a living hell.
does that tough love shit really help? i mean that was my intention, you know let him know that everyone is bending their backs trying to get him help and making everyone go through hell. letting him know what he's doing isn't right
my pops, i really hate his method, he just goes a long with it, with his crazy talk and acting like its kinda ok. its common sense that its not a good method to go along with, because your just basically supporting that behavior, makes him think that its ok or he's actually right. i dont think thats helping anyone. i told him a million times, but my pops got a big fucking ego, so he doesnt really listen to anyone.
i think thats the best way, just let him realize that he's seriously fucking shit up for everyone. did it help?
also and Matt, do you think he's coherent at all? i mean he does try to trick people in the lowest form like a kid, you know acting nice when you want something or wanting to get out the hospital, but completely start bitching and whining when you tell him no to something.
if he's coherent in all this i would really want to punch this guy in the face, but i know that cant be the case can it? i mean he talks nonsense saying that he got 100,000 k a year job offering from google and yahoo, all the while when he's inside a mental hospital in china with no internet access or phone time only once a day.
i dont know man, shamanistic? what approach is that?
if he's in the US, he's going to constantly smoke weed, which actually strengthen all that mental illness shit, but where is he to go? i mean shit, because in china he just trashed the place he was living in, he threw out a HD TV, bicycles, and a monitor because he thought it was "bugged". i mean shit his own mother doesnt want him around. when he was back in the US, he'd constantly steal shit and sell it, he'd want to fight my other uncle (not his father, nor mine), fight with my grandma, fight with everyone and talk shit, and at one point my little cousin was scared (when he was running naked tha tone time) because he was like come here when he was nude.
but then it got triggered this time because of alcohol i think, he drank 2 bottles of this chinese crap, which is really strong.
I'm just looking for some answers, anywhere. dude had so much potential and had such high ceiling for success. now he's like a child.
honestly my family keeps spoiling him, they dont scold him, i know they probably already tried, but like they bought him an iPad (in the beginning when he first started which i thought was fucking retarded, like that shit is gonna make him better)
bought him an iMac computer (which he totally isn't appreciative about, acts like its his, when my pops and my grandpa when half and half on it for him)
or if he asks for burgers for him and his crazy buddies, they comply, i mean WHY? i mean I'm not saying not love the dude, but complying to his wishes and spoiling him isn't going to get him anywhere, and i knew that from day one, except well of course my pops doesnt listen to me since of his ego and all.
Hack Wilson - real:
i know a kid who went to a phish concert out in california and got sprayed with a supersoaker with acid in it and he was NEVER the same personality wise
still a cool kid but he used to be very energetic, upbeat etc. and now is all mellow, laid back, doesn't get very emotional etc.
sad shit
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