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Don Seer:
correct me if i'm wrong.. but why are you talkin seriously about marriage if you aren't even 'together' ?
sure joking around.. but dont ya think ya getting a bit ahead of yaself?
you don't have to be married to be with someone you love and care about...
plus she already said she doesnt want to get married..
hell yeah go for it.. but dont rush in all guns blazing.. let it mature :)
just 'be around her' and you'll see..
does she know you're thinkin about moving out there?
are you assuming you're going to live with her right away out there?
have you asked her about that? is she cool with it?
ps.. had to say this, and i dont know where.. but if it -isn't- going anywhere.. sounds like you're gonna need closure to move on.. its not that you cant find, or that there isnt anyone else, it sounds like you're hung up on her and won't let yourself see anyone else, because in your head nothing compares to her.
GoodLuvn169:
--- Quote from: Overseer on July 15, 2004, 06:21:52 AM ---correct me if i'm wrong.. but why are you talkin seriously about marriage if you aren't even 'together' ?
sure joking around.. but dont ya think ya getting a bit ahead of yaself?
you don't have to be married to be with someone you love and care about...
plus she already said she doesnt want to get married..
hell yeah go for it.. but dont rush in all guns blazing.. let it mature :)
just 'be around her' and you'll see..
does she know you're thinkin about moving out there?
are you assuming you're going to live with her right away out there?
have you asked her about that? is she cool with it?
ps.. had to say this, and i dont know where.. but if it -isn't- going anywhere.. sounds like you're gonna need closure to move on.. its not that you cant find, or that there isnt anyone else, it sounds like you're hung up on her and won't let yourself see anyone else, because in your head nothing compares to her.
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Words form a wise man.
Trauma-san:
--- Quote from: Overseer on July 15, 2004, 06:21:52 AM ---correct me if i'm wrong.. but why are you talkin seriously about marriage if you aren't even 'together' ?
sure joking around.. but dont ya think ya getting a bit ahead of yaself?
you don't have to be married to be with someone you love and care about...
plus she already said she doesnt want to get married..
hell yeah go for it.. but dont rush in all guns blazing.. let it mature :)
just 'be around her' and you'll see..
does she know you're thinkin about moving out there?
are you assuming you're going to live with her right away out there?
have you asked her about that? is she cool with it?
ps.. had to say this, and i dont know where.. but if it -isn't- going anywhere.. sounds like you're gonna need closure to move on.. its not that you cant find, or that there isnt anyone else, it sounds like you're hung up on her and won't let yourself see anyone else, because in your head nothing compares to her.
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I'm just saying 'marriage' because I think eventually that's what it will come to. You're right, I've kind of overspoken that with her.. I'm not trying to get married to her for at least 3 or 4 more years, or even much longer. Being with her would be good enough. I tried explaining that to her on the phone, but it didn't come out quite right. So I'm gonna downplay that part of it. She said she doesn't want a relationship with anybody, which pretty much means "no chance buddy", but at the same time she's talking mad shit about love and marriage and I broke her heart and grabbing my body, etc... so it's hard to believe there's not some attraction still there.
She knows I'm thinking about moving out there, but I was honest enough to tell her I couldn't move out there alone; but if I could be around her, a friend, then I could do it. I'm assuming I'll get my own apartment out there, and not live with her... not even date her at first. I'm not sure she totally realizes that part, but it's too early for me to keep badgering her with details. I'm just gonna keep in touch and try to grow our friendship back to what it once was.
My game plan in my head is something like this:
Talk to her for a couple years, just continue being friends, both looking for whoever comes along. If somebody comes along better for either of us, that's great... but I don't see it happening. I think we're destined to be together, and will be together, years down the road. Maybe in 2 years, or hell maybe 3, I don't know, I'll move out there, and we'll already be close friends, and maybe a few months down the road from that we'll fall in love again. We could live the rest of our lives like that as far as I'm concerned, we don't have to get married. I just want to be around her.
I'm not going to move on, O. And closure doesn't work with this girl. It's been 10 years, and I'm still hung up... the reason for that is because it's supposed to be. It's just taking forever. I haven't waited for her; I've tried to get other girls, but they don't even excite me a tenth of the way this girl does, and i'm not talking about her body.
Don Seer:
you know.. its funny.. i was watching big brother just now...
and they had this dating thing.. and they said...
"if you cant be with the one you love, love the one you're with"
make sense? :)
Trauma-san:
^ Yeah, I heard that song again yesterday, too. I dunno what to think now, I'm just getting depressed, lol. I'm so tired of being patient.
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