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Lifestyle => Train of Thought => Topic started by: Trauma-san on July 12, 2004, 05:38:28 PM
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So, this weekend, I spent the whole weekend drunk with a girl I used to date, that moved out of the country. So now, not only do I 1. support gay marriage, LOL, but I might be moving out of America soon. Strange world.
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Women are strange and powerful things
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Where would you move then.. ?
And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
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And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
LMFAO is there something trauma wants to tell us now.
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Where would you move then.. ?
And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
... because she does. And she explained it pretty simply, so being totally into her, I thought "yeah, she's probably right".
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hahahahaha j/k
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hahahahaha j/k
lol
Good luck man. Just make sure she's the right one.
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Don't do anything stupid now :P
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if you can change what you believe in so easily, you're a weak person. You're just setting yourself up for a big fall.
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What country are you moving to? this is great news!
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Where would you move then.. ?
And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
... because she does. And she explained it pretty simply, so being totally into her, I thought "yeah, she's probably right".
So if she votes for Kerry, that means you will? lol j/k
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Where would you move then.. ?
And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
... because she does. And she explained it pretty simply, so being totally into her, I thought "yeah, she's probably right".
So if she votes for Kerry, that means you will? lol j/k
most likely since trauma is a tool lol
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Shame on you Trauma, totally twisting your principles cuz you ran into some high school crack head and got drunk with her.
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I always told you strong believers have usually a weak personality...
p.s. ... vote kerry. why? since Im a hot drunk girl.
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I think I missed the hilarious part.
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What country are you moving to? this is great news!
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Where would you move then.. ?
And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
... because she does. And she explained it pretty simply, so being totally into her, I thought "yeah, she's probably right".
So if she votes for Kerry, that means you will? lol j/k
Naw, I wouldn't go that far. The 'gay marriage' thing I was on the fence about, because ultimately, if two queers get married, it has no effect on me. So who cares? Let 'em be happy if that's what they want.
And I wish I could say that it's a definate, but it's not yet; I don't have any shame in saying I would move somewhere over a girl, I've always believed finding a soul mate is above all else in life, so I haven't changed any principles. Call me weak, though, I could care less.
The country would be Australia.
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I think I missed the hilarious part.
Don't you think it's easy to laugh at, since I'm so pro-american and don't seem the type to support homosexual marriage, that a weekend with an old friend would swerve me around 180?
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Where would you move then.. ?
And why do you support gay marriage now.. ? lol
... because she does. And she explained it pretty simply, so being totally into her, I thought "yeah, she's probably right".
So if she votes for Kerry, that means you will? lol j/k
Naw, I wouldn't go that far. The 'gay marriage' thing I was on the fence about, because ultimately, if two queers get married, it has no effect on me. So who cares? Let 'em be happy if that's what they want.
And I wish I could say that it's a definate, but it's not yet; I don't have any shame in saying I would move somewhere over a girl, I've always believed finding a soul mate is above all else in life, so I haven't changed any principles. Call me weak, though, I could care less.
The country would be Australia.
Its not weak at all to me, i do have the same belief though. sounds nice :)
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I guess we found out how to change the views of conservatives... women and alcohol. My grandpa told me that's the downfall of every man. Ask Bill Clinton... lol... so Trauma, I guess she gave you brains in more ways than one this weekend.
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Do they have the internet in Australia?
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Do they have the internet in Australia?
of course homie :D Trauma will still be with us ... ask engies, he's from Australia as I recall
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I'm glad that girl came back to you. I remember you telling me about that whole story years ago.
I used to be the same way. There was one girl I used to be with back in the day, and I swore that I would love her forever no matter what. After she broke my trust time and again I decided that I could never trust any girl ever again, even though I'll always have a love in my heart for her.
After becoming Muslim though, my views slowly started to change. It's not that I trust women now, it's that I trust Allah. So I found and married a woman according to the plan Allah has perscribed for Muslims, and Allah is the best to provide and the best to depend upon.
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Alright, I'm gonna tell yall the story, the most important events of my life, in the hopes that someone will learn from it. Please try not to ridicule me, this is my life we're talking about... and bear in mind, that I haven't said 1 negative thing about Infinite's marriage and woman... so hopefully that will prove my sincerity.
Anyways, I'm sitting in the lunch room one day in the 11th grade, and this beautiful blonde girl walks in with this big burly guy. I think "Wow, she's hot" and immediately hate the guy for it, lol. This goes on for a couple days, and one day, she walks over to our table and says "Will you tell this guy that Jupiter is the biggest planet in the solar system?" I stutter and go "uh.. ye. yeah, it is!" amazed that such a hot chick would come talk to me, lol.
I grow to know both of them, the guy is her brother. Months go by, me and her get very close. After a year, we start dating, but she has strict parents who won't let her out of the house... so she's sneaking out the window every night at 1 a.m. and walking to my house where we stay together till about 4, then walk back. ALL SUMMER LONG.
Eventually, she comes over to the house one day, and starts handing me all my stuff back, before breaking into tears and saying "My Aunt's giving me away" and running out the door crying. She lived with her strict Aunt, since her father is dead and her mother is incapable of raising children. Her aunt 'gave' her and her 2 brothers to her uncle, in Wilmington (4 hours away). I act the man, and comfort her, tell her everything will be alright... but to this day, that's the scariest, most horrible thing that's ever happened to me (her saying she had to leave). It was like a dread filled the room, nothing has compared to it, not even the death of my father.
So, she moves to the beach, gets boyfriends, I go into a deep 1 year depression, and never get over it. We visit, and hit it off every time. From time to time, she does things like show up @ my house, and wake me up out of nowhere... or show up at my work. At one point, she showed up and said "My plan is basically to finish school then move back here and marry you". My response at the time was "haha". "Haha". Custer's last words.
One summer, she even came to town and went to school with me! We ended up making out about halfway through, then she stopped talking to me and moved back home. Her brother later told me that she said she was falling in love with me and was afraid to get her heart broke when she had to move back home, so she just jetted.
4 years ago, she told me she was moving to Australia, and asked me to come along. I was too weak to leave my family, so again, my answer was "haha". "Haha". She moves, supposedly for a year. After she moves, she repeatedly begs me to go to Australia, I won't do it. She never came back. The day my father died, I called and talked to her on the phone for 4 hours; that was 3 years ago, we haven't spoken since.
So, I get a call last week, she's back in town and wants to know if I can meet her @ the beach in Wilmington, where we used to hang out. So I get the weekend off, go down, and she looks exactly the fucking same, down to the last hair on her head, as she did when I hugged her @ the airport 4 years earlier. Unbelievable. We spend the weekend together, get drunk, she says things like "You had your chance, and blew it" and "I'll get married in california one day, who knows it might be you" and hanging all over me and stuff.
Ultimately, I realized the only reason I hadn't been calling this girl is because I'm scared to fucking death of her. It's easier to just leave her out of mind than it is to confront her and have to make a decision about something so crazy as a girl living 12,000 miles away. So, today, after I got home, I called her to tell her how I felt. Now, keep in mind, I never told her she was beautiful, I never told her I was in love with her, nothing like that when she was around all those years. So, I felt as if it was my 1 last shot at getting this girl, who I've been hung up over for years now.
So, she gets on the phone, and I asked her if I could tell her something heavy, and she says it's cool if we want to talk about us. I spill my guts, tell her I'm deeply madly in love with her, have been for years, that I'm to the point where I'll move to Australia to be with her, and that I can't believe I let her get so far gone without doing anything about it, to which she replied that people learn from their mistakes, and that she didn't want a relationship right now with anybody (translation: you're done, we're over).
So here I sit, a fool, had the world, and let it go.
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life is funny, isnt it...
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Alright, I'm gonna tell yall the story, the most important events of my life, in the hopes that someone will learn from it. Please try not to ridicule me, this is my life we're talking about... and bear in mind, that I haven't said 1 negative thing about Infinite's marriage and woman... so hopefully that will prove my sincerity.
Anyways, I'm sitting in the lunch room one day in the 11th grade, and this beautiful blonde girl walks in with this big burly guy. I think "Wow, she's hot" and immediately hate the guy for it, lol. This goes on for a couple days, and one day, she walks over to our table and says "Will you tell this guy that Jupiter is the biggest planet in the solar system?" I stutter and go "uh.. ye. yeah, it is!" amazed that such a hot chick would come talk to me, lol.
I grow to know both of them, the guy is her brother. Months go by, me and her get very close. After a year, we start dating, but she has strict parents who won't let her out of the house... so she's sneaking out the window every night at 1 a.m. and walking to my house where we stay together till about 4, then walk back. ALL SUMMER LONG.
Eventually, she comes over to the house one day, and starts handing me all my stuff back, before breaking into tears and saying "My Aunt's giving me away" and running out the door crying. She lived with her strict Aunt, since her father is dead and her mother is incapable of raising children. Her aunt 'gave' her and her 2 brothers to her uncle, in Wilmington (4 hours away). I act the man, and comfort her, tell her everything will be alright... but to this day, that's the scariest, most horrible thing that's ever happened to me (her saying she had to leave). It was like a dread filled the room, nothing has compared to it, not even the death of my father.
So, she moves to the beach, gets boyfriends, I go into a deep 1 year depression, and never get over it. We visit, and hit it off every time. From time to time, she does things like show up @ my house, and wake me up out of nowhere... or show up at my work. At one point, she showed up and said "My plan is basically to finish school then move back here and marry you". My response at the time was "haha". "Haha". Custer's last words.
One summer, she even came to town and went to school with me! We ended up making out about halfway through, then she stopped talking to me and moved back home. Her brother later told me that she said she was falling in love with me and was afraid to get her heart broke when she had to move back home, so she just jetted.
4 years ago, she told me she was moving to Australia, and asked me to come along. I was too weak to leave my family, so again, my answer was "haha". "Haha". She moves, supposedly for a year. After she moves, she repeatedly begs me to go to Australia, I won't do it. She never came back. The day my father died, I called and talked to her on the phone for 4 hours; that was 3 years ago, we haven't spoken since.
So, I get a call last week, she's back in town and wants to know if I can meet her @ the beach in Wilmington, where we used to hang out. So I get the weekend off, go down, and she looks exactly the fucking same, down to the last hair on her head, as she did when I hugged her @ the airport 4 years earlier. Unbelievable. We spend the weekend together, get drunk, she says things like "You had your chance, and blew it" and "I'll get married in california one day, who knows it might be you" and hanging all over me and stuff.
Ultimately, I realized the only reason I hadn't been calling this girl is because I'm scared to fucking death of her. It's easier to just leave her out of mind than it is to confront her and have to make a decision about something so crazy as a girl living 12,000 miles away. So, today, after I got home, I called her to tell her how I felt. Now, keep in mind, I never told her she was beautiful, I never told her I was in love with her, nothing like that when she was around all those years. So, I felt as if it was my 1 last shot at getting this girl, who I've been hung up over for years now.
So, she gets on the phone, and I asked her if I could tell her something heavy, and she says it's cool if we want to talk about us. I spill my guts, tell her I'm deeply madly in love with her, have been for years, that I'm to the point where I'll move to Australia to be with her, and that I can't believe I let her get so far gone without doing anything about it, to which she replied that people learn from their mistakes, and that she didn't want a relationship right now with anybody (translation: you're done, we're over).
So here I sit, a fool, had the world, and let it go.
Great story.
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Alright, I'm gonna tell yall the story, the most important events of my life, in the hopes that someone will learn from it. Please try not to ridicule me, this is my life we're talking about... and bear in mind, that I haven't said 1 negative thing about Infinite's marriage and woman... so hopefully that will prove my sincerity.
Anyways, I'm sitting in the lunch room one day in the 11th grade, and this beautiful blonde girl walks in with this big burly guy. I think "Wow, she's hot" and immediately hate the guy for it, lol. This goes on for a couple days, and one day, she walks over to our table and says "Will you tell this guy that Jupiter is the biggest planet in the solar system?" I stutter and go "uh.. ye. yeah, it is!" amazed that such a hot chick would come talk to me, lol.
I grow to know both of them, the guy is her brother. Months go by, me and her get very close. After a year, we start dating, but she has strict parents who won't let her out of the house... so she's sneaking out the window every night at 1 a.m. and walking to my house where we stay together till about 4, then walk back. ALL SUMMER LONG.
Eventually, she comes over to the house one day, and starts handing me all my stuff back, before breaking into tears and saying "My Aunt's giving me away" and running out the door crying. She lived with her strict Aunt, since her father is dead and her mother is incapable of raising children. Her aunt 'gave' her and her 2 brothers to her uncle, in Wilmington (4 hours away). I act the man, and comfort her, tell her everything will be alright... but to this day, that's the scariest, most horrible thing that's ever happened to me (her saying she had to leave). It was like a dread filled the room, nothing has compared to it, not even the death of my father.
So, she moves to the beach, gets boyfriends, I go into a deep 1 year depression, and never get over it. We visit, and hit it off every time. From time to time, she does things like show up @ my house, and wake me up out of nowhere... or show up at my work. At one point, she showed up and said "My plan is basically to finish school then move back here and marry you". My response at the time was "haha". "Haha". Custer's last words.
One summer, she even came to town and went to school with me! We ended up making out about halfway through, then she stopped talking to me and moved back home. Her brother later told me that she said she was falling in love with me and was afraid to get her heart broke when she had to move back home, so she just jetted.
4 years ago, she told me she was moving to Australia, and asked me to come along. I was too weak to leave my family, so again, my answer was "haha". "Haha". She moves, supposedly for a year. After she moves, she repeatedly begs me to go to Australia, I won't do it. She never came back. The day my father died, I called and talked to her on the phone for 4 hours; that was 3 years ago, we haven't spoken since.
So, I get a call last week, she's back in town and wants to know if I can meet her @ the beach in Wilmington, where we used to hang out. So I get the weekend off, go down, and she looks exactly the fucking same, down to the last hair on her head, as she did when I hugged her @ the airport 4 years earlier. Unbelievable. We spend the weekend together, get drunk, she says things like "You had your chance, and blew it" and "I'll get married in california one day, who knows it might be you" and hanging all over me and stuff.
Ultimately, I realized the only reason I hadn't been calling this girl is because I'm scared to fucking death of her. It's easier to just leave her out of mind than it is to confront her and have to make a decision about something so crazy as a girl living 12,000 miles away. So, today, after I got home, I called her to tell her how I felt. Now, keep in mind, I never told her she was beautiful, I never told her I was in love with her, nothing like that when she was around all those years. So, I felt as if it was my 1 last shot at getting this girl, who I've been hung up over for years now.
So, she gets on the phone, and I asked her if I could tell her something heavy, and she says it's cool if we want to talk about us. I spill my guts, tell her I'm deeply madly in love with her, have been for years, that I'm to the point where I'll move to Australia to be with her, and that I can't believe I let her get so far gone without doing anything about it, to which she replied that people learn from their mistakes, and that she didn't want a relationship right now with anybody (translation: you're done, we're over).
So here I sit, a fool, had the world, and let it go.
damn I am sorry to hear that. I have had messed up relationships and those type of situations. you don't really know what to do when it comes along but just keep your head up you will be fine. and remember there is someone out there for you and you only. it could be her and she jsut needs to sort through some stuff. her childhood sounds like mine so maybe she needs to do what I need to do now ... sort through some shit. when you have grown up like that. you want the life every kid wants so you push it aside. but ti eventually comes back to you and you have to deal with it. so give her some time but in the mean time don't just sit around cuz she isn't ready for a relationship right now. Date some more people and get your feel for the fish in the sea. then you will have even greater intuitions and gut feelings for who you are and who you want to be with.
hope this helps
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My opinion on this Trauma is that I think this girls playin you. The whole woman enjoying the power she has over men. Explain why she keeps showing up in your life inconsistently. If she was really not in the mood to be with anybody, why is she showing back upin your life, opening up old wounds and bringing back memories youve tried to bury. Her position is not consistent, you know what im sayin. So I would basically say, knowing what youve said, is slow your roll before u consider anything drastic.
Or, she could be genuinely confused about the whole thing just like you. Either way, you need some more time to pass.
I dont deal with the relationship tip. I just get with girls from time to time and get pussy. It sounds bad, but I dont wanna get caught up in some bullshit. Relationships to me is an investment, and unless u willing to put in the work, time and energy (plus loot), its not worth it. When its time to settle down, ill settle down. But whatever floats your boat
BTW, come to Canada.
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I seriously doubt she's playing him... I guess it's cause she wasn't expecting him to spill his guts. Naturally, she got over you Trauma, after she moved to Australia. But it's too early to conclude on anything, because if she loved you as much as you say she did, you must've rekindled some of her past feelings, which she'll no doubt deny at this point. But best believe that this shit is running through her mind, and this won't be the last of this conversation with her. She's probably contemplating if or how you will fit in her life, given the major changes that have occurred since. I can't guarantee she'll welcome you back with open arms, but surely it will not end with the "I'm not looking to be in a relationship right now" line.
Some compromises will have to be done, but I predict you two will end up together. You can't turn your back on love. That's something you & her will realize.
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Well, I appreciate the effort yall have made to be respectful to me. Tech, your thoughts were the most interesting. On one hand, we're entirely different, I am ONLY about finding the right woman to have a relationship with, and would never sleep around for the hell of it. Your words about her being confused are what I'm kind of hoping on. I'm not gonna wait around on her, but maybe something will happen out of it. Lets just say when she was drunk, it was a totally different story. She was very receptive when she was wasted, and remembered little inconsequential things from the past clear as day, so she obviously has deep feelings for me.
It was really quite a hilarious weekend. I got so fucking drunk, I was trying to swim to Russia. With all my clothes on. My hand looks like it's been through a meat grinder, I dont know how the hell that happened. I remember walking up the beach, in my boxers, and my thing flopped out the front; she pointed, giggled, and the last thing I remember saying is "Hey, the water's cold". LOL Next thing I know, I'm waking up with a 100 dollar citation from the cops, she's passed out beside me, and both of our shoes are gone. Plus I was supposed to be at work 5 hours ago.
So it's really easy to say the girl is just over, but she was the one standing beside me when I'm throwing up all over the beach, she's the one that got me out of the water, she's the one that changed my clothes when I was soaking wet passed out beside my Mustang, she's the one that got the police citation for me being drunk... etc. @ one time, years ago, I could just look in her eyes and see all this love, this girl was MADLY in love with me. I just let it slip away, didn't do anything to reinforce it... and now, when she looks in my eyes, I see a little tiny glimmer of it, but it's dull, and not as warm, just kind of breaks my heart.
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I seriously doubt she's playing him... I guess it's cause she wasn't expecting him to spill his guts. Naturally, she got over you Trauma, after she moved to Australia. But it's too early to conclude on anything, because if she loved you as much as you say she did, you must've rekindled some of her past feelings, which she'll no doubt deny at this point. But best believe that this shit is running through her mind, and this won't be the last of this conversation with her. She's probably contemplating if or how you will fit in her life, given the major changes that have occurred since. I can't guarantee she'll welcome you back with open arms, but surely it will not end with the "I'm not looking to be in a relationship right now" line.
Some compromises will have to be done, but I predict you two will end up together. You can't turn your back on love. That's something you & her will realize.
Man, I hope so. The last thing I said to her was "Well, just remember what I said, so there's no doubt about how I feel". I waited WAY too fucking long to tell her this, though. The thing is, though, if we would have gotten together 5 years ago, it wouldn't have lasted, we were too young and immature. Now, we're mature enough, but it's just a hard situation. Ideal scenario is she pulls a Rachel and just shows up @ my house friday before her plane leaves... I DONT SEE IT HAPPENING, THOUGH.
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trauma i kno we got beef now but on the real, it sounds like this girl is scared sought of. Like she had that hope deep inside it would work but common sense said to her no it wont. an when you spilled your guts to her it just totally took her by surprise and she dont know what to do. she sounds as if she still loves you but at the same time she wants to move on. it sounds like your both in a catch 22. life works in REALLY fucked up ways.
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Oh, and I'm quite proud of how I talked to her on the phone. I've been avoiding this girl for years, but I went out like a STALLION, man. It was beautiful. It was like every minute of bullshit and running my mouth I've ever done in my life was training for this talk, lol. No shit, I was like
"I've been acting like a little boy for years, and I just want to start being a man, and tell you how I feel. Please don't think this is about last weekend, give me the benefit of the doubt and realize I've felt this way for years; I'm not just grasping at the last pretty girl around... I've had other girlfriends, and I can get girlfriends, I'm not just pathetic and having a crush on somebody... but this weekend showed me that the door is about 99 percent shut. I've been deeply, MADLY in love with you for years, but didn't have the balls to tell you. Now; if the problem with us is that you're not attracted to me anymore, or you don't think I'm mature enough to carry a relationship with you, that's one thing... but if the problem is just that we live 12,000 miles apart.... I'm ready to move."
It was incredible, one of the great speeches of all time... when I was done, the phone was just dead on the other end.
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trauma i kno we got beef now but on the real, it sounds like this girl is scared sought of. Like she had that hope deep inside it would work but common sense said to her no it wont. an when you spilled your guts to her it just totally took her by surprise and she dont know what to do. she sounds as if she still loves you but at the same time she wants to move on. it sounds like your both in a catch 22. life works in REALLY fucked up ways.
I am now 100% beef proof... I'm sick of being hateful and talking shit to everybody.
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Time will tell all... don't be disappointed if she doesn't bring it up anytime soon. I'm very sure it affected her, and it will be brought up again, either to confess her mutual feelings, or to get proper closure. Hope it works out for ya
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I've been in similar situations (not to the degree of your predicament), and as bad as it may sound, I think you may have scared her off by telling her how you feel. I know I've had to break up with girls because they were talking about spending their life with me, it scared me. My advice to you is to just keep her in your life. Keep in contact with her (but not too much). Make her want you back.
And her having to take care of you while you were drunk cost you a hell of a lot of points. If she hasn't seen you in so long, and this is how you act when you do finally see her, she probably thinks this is the new you. The man in any relationship should be the one to take care of the girl. No matter what, you have to be her rock.
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I'm sick of being hateful and talking shit to everybody.
I knew U needed 2 get some pussy cuzzin.....
lol naw, mann, dats a straight fairytale story rite there, it was nice.....I've been in the same situation, but not in a shorter length of time. I don't even wanna get into it.....let's just say I tasted love for a minute but it was taken away so fast from me that I got an ugly attitude about relationships now.....dats why all I do now is chase pussy and push em away quick when I get it, even though sometimes I want it to get deeper, but I just can't let it happen.....it's a bitch.....shit fucks wit U and makes U go krayzie sometimes, it's like you've been abused.
but in all honesty mane, the girl seems to be scared the same way you were back in the days, and I'm sure she's struggling to take everything in right now.....U done everything U can, U just gotta put it in god's hands now.....
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^ yeah i have a friend who got burned like that.. he's the one night stand master.. promises girls the world and means it.. then ignores em after coz he realises then he's gotta build something... so he runs.. i have to say i'm a pretty amazing agony uncle / 1 man support group to his ex's.. lol..
(so good in fact his last ex tried it on with me last weekend.. lol.. my minds elsewhere.. ;) )
i know some chicks'll try and rush you.. and that'll freak you.. i know as men we suck at this stuff.. but just tell em without it sounding like a brush off.
damn this shits crazy.. i dunno what to say.. seems like its changed you. i'm 100% sure it has me.
me.. i know i'm scared.. but i dont give a fuck.. if you're serious you'll be willing to put yourself on the line each and every time. just dont rush :)
the last bit of what rod said above is so true... i'll add that i wouldnt leave it as it is now.. don't avoid her now before she goes... even if its just something light if you can hook up do so..
good luck
(gives trauma a prop)
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Well, she's 4 hours away so there's no way I can see her again before she leaves. That's one of the problems we've always had... everytime I'm around her, I know she won't be there in 24 hours. ... And man, I COULDN'T move before now, I have too many responsibilities. She can say she doesn't want a man, and she wants to work on herself, she's got a different life now, blah blah blah, but when we're drunk and I brush up against her chest, and she takes my hand and puts it on it, or she's fondling me in the car, or she's blabbing to me that I broke her heart, or whatever, I don't see how she can deny it.
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lol naw, mann, dats a straight fairytale story rite there, it was nice.....
I know, right? That's why it breaks my heart, shit like this does not happen to everybody. And if it does, it happens one fucking time. I've tried to find other girls I loved since then, nobody's even close... but then I look @ her and get all giddy and happy when she smiles, it's sickening. So what am I going to do? Find some other girl to marry and fall in love with, all the while still loving her in Africa somewhere or something? Who the hell wants a relationship like that. I don't want to live the rest of my life telling people big fish stories, I want to do whatever it takes to get it right how it should be. I haven't even ate since I got back from the beach, I've lost nearly 10 pounds since saturday.
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4hrs away.. ohhh man :'(
give her a call? see how's she's doing maybe? i dunno..
perhaps later on could go visit her once she's in austrailia..
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I am now 100% beef proof... I'm sick of being hateful and talking shit to everybody.
It's good to hear you say that.
In a wierd and akward way I have respect for you, and I find you to be a really creative and dynamic character. For example, when you're not talking about Muslims, Democrats, Republicans, etc., I find you to be totally intriguing, for example when you defend Brian Wilson or Micheal Jackson, or promote the new Alicia Keys track or an old John Lennon song, or like now when you get personal about yourself, you can have a really compelling personality.
Anyway, I'm not going to pretend to have any idea what this girl is doing to you, but just know that somewhere in her heart she has a lot of love for you, sometimes love isn't enough and the situation has to be right though. I'm out, peace.
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I am now 100% beef proof... I'm sick of being hateful and talking shit to everybody.
glad to have you back. if anything, i think her stay has changed you for the better, and helped out in many ways. not because you agree with gay marriage, but it seems you have put things in order of what you want to do, and you seem yo put goals in your life.
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Alright, here's the latest in the saga. Earlier this weekend, I heard her tell her sister she was gonna get married in California, so I asked her about it, and she said "No, I don't have a boyfriend, I mean when I meet somebody in the future, or it could be you, who knows?". So... when she rejected me on the phone, lol, she said "I don't want a man right now, I've been in relationships for 10 years". Whatever. Anyways, she calls me today, and had to ask me something about directions to her mother's house. She's been wanting to see her mom, because she's afraid if she doesn't see her this trip, her mom will be dead before she can get back.
Turns out, she can't get by there because she doesn't have a ride, and she's in Wilmington. I told her I couldn't think of anyway to do it, (she wasn't asking me to drive her or anything, though), and she said she knows, thank you for ringing me back, etc.. So, I'm full of piss, so I just say "Hey, when we get married, I'll fly you back here all the time to see her" and her response is "Yeah, but she'll be dead by then". So, I say "Naw, that'll be about what, a year and a half?" and she goes " I will definnnnately not be ready to get married in a year and a half".
So basically, I'm just gonna keep talking to her, and move to Australia in about a year and a half, two years, after I save up a bunch of cash. I just want to be around her, I don't have to marry her yet.
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Alright, here's the latest in the saga. Earlier this weekend, I heard her tell her sister she was gonna get married in California, so I asked her about it, and she said "No, I don't have a boyfriend, I mean when I meet somebody in the future, or it could be you, who knows?". So... when she rejected me on the phone, lol, she said "I don't want a man right now, I've been in relationships for 10 years". Whatever. Anyways, she calls me today, and had to ask me something about directions to her mother's house. She's been wanting to see her mom, because she's afraid if she doesn't see her this trip, her mom will be dead before she can get back.
Turns out, she can't get by there because she doesn't have a ride, and she's in Wilmington. I told her I couldn't think of anyway to do it, (she wasn't asking me to drive her or anything, though), and she said she knows, thank you for ringing me back, etc.. So, I'm full of piss, so I just say "Hey, when we get married, I'll fly you back here all the time to see her" and her response is "Yeah, but she'll be dead by then". So, I say "Naw, that'll be about what, a year and a half?" and she goes " I will definnnnately not be ready to get married in a year and a half".
So basically, I'm just gonna keep talking to her, and move to Australia in about a year and a half, two years, after I save up a bunch of cash. I just want to be around her, I don't have to marry her yet.
reminds me of that Usher song, You Got It Bad... I know that feeling. But I didn't stay in Minnesota for a girl... even though i had to be around her... but we are different in opinion.
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I don't want to be so naieve to think that I feel differently than anybody else in love, but man... it's been 10 years. I would have found somebody else by now if I had the potential to love someone else like this. Nobody else has even been close. I've had crushes, I've dated girls, I've had dozens of friends that were girls, etc. and nobody even puts the slightest move on my heart like this chick. So I've just decided not to fuck around anymore, and throw my best at it.
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I don't want to be so naieve to think that I feel differently than anybody else in love, but man... it's been 10 years. I would have found somebody else by now if I had the potential to love someone else like this. Nobody else has even been close. I've had crushes, I've dated girls, I've had dozens of friends that were girls, etc. and nobody even puts the slightest move on my heart like this chick. So I've just decided not to fuck around anymore, and throw my best at it.
yeah... go get em dogg. I am crossed right now... but I know with me, I usually find someone else. Now there is one girl I'd drop everything for, but I'm about the cut her out from my life, because it's getting no where. She knows that I would do anything for her, but she doesn't love me, so it's time to move on. I have in the sense of dating other girls, but I'm 23, it's time to start looking for other girls, not just dating. So I know what you mean. The girl I left in Minn, well, I like her a lot, and I miss her greatly, and I might end up trying to see her again, but right now I don't have the desire to throw anything at her. We have a very strange relationship, and maybe that's why it's easy to just move on and come home to look else where. Also though, I'm someone that never had a very stable life in terms of keeping people close to me, so to just move on is easy for me. I wouldn't be surprise if I go through a couple of marriages in life.
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I know nothing about love and have never been in love but I do know that u did do the right thing by telling her how u feel , as it not only took a lot of guts and courage but at the very least u won't have any regrets
and in my opinion if true love(the love that makes u want to spend the rest of ur life with someone and go through the hard times and make it work , not the shitty "I wuv u this much" but when it gets tough fuckit love) is 1/100 what some say it is then hey the mere chance of being able to obtain it is worth getting hurt .... better to have loved and lost blah blah blah
I suck at this
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^ naw ya dont.. ya on point with most of that.. it is about what you go through together that brings you closer.
hell i should know.. trauma knows about my situation.. this might be a good time to tell ya.. its back on.. finally hooked up again recently ;)
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Nice...
Man, I am so glad I'm handling this a lot better this time around. I still feel horrible, but I don't feel like it's the end of the world, and I'm not trying to blame anybody like the last, oh, 5 times this girl's broke my heart. She may be just throwing a line by saying all that "I'm not ready to be in a relationship" blah blah blah, but she may be right, I'm not positive I could hold together a marriage or anything serious right now. I've always dreamed when I was a kid that i would get married at 28 years old, and I'm 25 now.
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correct me if i'm wrong.. but why are you talkin seriously about marriage if you aren't even 'together' ?
sure joking around.. but dont ya think ya getting a bit ahead of yaself?
you don't have to be married to be with someone you love and care about...
plus she already said she doesnt want to get married..
hell yeah go for it.. but dont rush in all guns blazing.. let it mature :)
just 'be around her' and you'll see..
does she know you're thinkin about moving out there?
are you assuming you're going to live with her right away out there?
have you asked her about that? is she cool with it?
ps.. had to say this, and i dont know where.. but if it -isn't- going anywhere.. sounds like you're gonna need closure to move on.. its not that you cant find, or that there isnt anyone else, it sounds like you're hung up on her and won't let yourself see anyone else, because in your head nothing compares to her.
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correct me if i'm wrong.. but why are you talkin seriously about marriage if you aren't even 'together' ?
sure joking around.. but dont ya think ya getting a bit ahead of yaself?
you don't have to be married to be with someone you love and care about...
plus she already said she doesnt want to get married..
hell yeah go for it.. but dont rush in all guns blazing.. let it mature :)
just 'be around her' and you'll see..
does she know you're thinkin about moving out there?
are you assuming you're going to live with her right away out there?
have you asked her about that? is she cool with it?
ps.. had to say this, and i dont know where.. but if it -isn't- going anywhere.. sounds like you're gonna need closure to move on.. its not that you cant find, or that there isnt anyone else, it sounds like you're hung up on her and won't let yourself see anyone else, because in your head nothing compares to her.
Words form a wise man.
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correct me if i'm wrong.. but why are you talkin seriously about marriage if you aren't even 'together' ?
sure joking around.. but dont ya think ya getting a bit ahead of yaself?
you don't have to be married to be with someone you love and care about...
plus she already said she doesnt want to get married..
hell yeah go for it.. but dont rush in all guns blazing.. let it mature :)
just 'be around her' and you'll see..
does she know you're thinkin about moving out there?
are you assuming you're going to live with her right away out there?
have you asked her about that? is she cool with it?
ps.. had to say this, and i dont know where.. but if it -isn't- going anywhere.. sounds like you're gonna need closure to move on.. its not that you cant find, or that there isnt anyone else, it sounds like you're hung up on her and won't let yourself see anyone else, because in your head nothing compares to her.
I'm just saying 'marriage' because I think eventually that's what it will come to. You're right, I've kind of overspoken that with her.. I'm not trying to get married to her for at least 3 or 4 more years, or even much longer. Being with her would be good enough. I tried explaining that to her on the phone, but it didn't come out quite right. So I'm gonna downplay that part of it. She said she doesn't want a relationship with anybody, which pretty much means "no chance buddy", but at the same time she's talking mad shit about love and marriage and I broke her heart and grabbing my body, etc... so it's hard to believe there's not some attraction still there.
She knows I'm thinking about moving out there, but I was honest enough to tell her I couldn't move out there alone; but if I could be around her, a friend, then I could do it. I'm assuming I'll get my own apartment out there, and not live with her... not even date her at first. I'm not sure she totally realizes that part, but it's too early for me to keep badgering her with details. I'm just gonna keep in touch and try to grow our friendship back to what it once was.
My game plan in my head is something like this:
Talk to her for a couple years, just continue being friends, both looking for whoever comes along. If somebody comes along better for either of us, that's great... but I don't see it happening. I think we're destined to be together, and will be together, years down the road. Maybe in 2 years, or hell maybe 3, I don't know, I'll move out there, and we'll already be close friends, and maybe a few months down the road from that we'll fall in love again. We could live the rest of our lives like that as far as I'm concerned, we don't have to get married. I just want to be around her.
I'm not going to move on, O. And closure doesn't work with this girl. It's been 10 years, and I'm still hung up... the reason for that is because it's supposed to be. It's just taking forever. I haven't waited for her; I've tried to get other girls, but they don't even excite me a tenth of the way this girl does, and i'm not talking about her body.
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you know.. its funny.. i was watching big brother just now...
and they had this dating thing.. and they said...
"if you cant be with the one you love, love the one you're with"
make sense? :)
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^ Yeah, I heard that song again yesterday, too. I dunno what to think now, I'm just getting depressed, lol. I'm so tired of being patient.
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Good luck whatever happens.
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you know.. its funny.. i was watching big brother just now...
and they had this dating thing.. and they said...
"if you cant be with the one you love, love the one you're with"
make sense? :)
but if you think like that, odds are your never be happy. love sucks lol
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Nah, love's awesome. I'm telling you though, this is another level. People only get this chance once, this shit is magic. I dunno what to think right now. I wouldn't mind getting laid though, lol.
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Nah, love's awesome.
Damn right.
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This was far from hilariously ironic.
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I wouldn't mind getting laid though, lol.
lol... I was wondering if since your huge Christian turn, were you stop having sex along with the cursing.
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What happened to your no drinking/no drugs policy? Didn't you wish death upon me for trying acid?...LOL...Anyways, I don't think anyone on WCC is gunna tell you this but me...I think you're in lust...I mean, maybe you do love her, but I personally think that you thought you loved her, then it kinda' faded when she left, and when she came back, she brought back the memories with her, and re-opened your feelings of which you think you're so sure is love...Sounds kinda' confusing, but that's the way love is...Lucky for me, my love is right here a few miles away from me, and everything's going fine between us. I wish you the best of luck though...PeACe
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I wouldn't mind getting laid though, lol.
well that shows u are deeply in love with her doesn't it ::)
anyway, if u really like her im sure things will work out naturally for u and if it's meant to be it will be! lifes very cruel and very rarely do these things work out (in my shitty experiences), but its on both of u and if ur feelings are strong enuff then theres nothin that can stop u guys from bein together :D
xxx nadya (im new. lol)
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What happened to your no drinking/no drugs policy? Didn't you wish death upon me for trying acid?...LOL...Anyways, I don't think anyone on WCC is gunna tell you this but me...I think you're in lust...I mean, maybe you do love her, but I personally think that you thought you loved her, then it kinda' faded when she left, and when she came back, she brought back the memories with her, and re-opened your feelings of which you think you're so sure is love...Sounds kinda' confusing, but that's the way love is...Lucky for me, my love is right here a few miles away from me, and everything's going fine between us. I wish you the best of luck though...PeACe
Lust? Why would I fly to australia for Lust? I can get lust 5 minutes from my home. Don't make the mistake of thinking I can't walk into a bar and pick up a chick; believe me when I tell you I get all I want.
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Sometimes you think you're in love, but you're not...That's why the divorce rate is so high. :D
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True, but you would think that someone who's been feeling that way for 10 years probably actually IS in love.
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True, but you would think that someone who's been feeling that way for 10 years probably actually IS in love.
You don't even know her that well...You barely spent ANY time with her the last few years...Do you think maybe she's changed?...You expected her to say yes, and she rejected you...Being drunk also impares judgement...How the hell would I know though. I'm not a love expert, it's just my opinion...PeACe