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Lifestyle => Train of Thought => Topic started by: QuietTruth on January 05, 2007, 06:06:54 PM
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
I went to the mall a lil while ago and walked into FootLocker and the girl who works there goes to my school and it was real weird becuz I was able to talk to her more than I was able to in school. But don't get it twisted it ain't the ladies I have a problem wit, it's just, I don't know, all people. It feels different when you crushin' a girl and talkin' to her becuz, I don't know, its just different, and anyways I'm sittin' there talkin' to the girl and I just can't do it 'right', like my social skill is low as possible. Now the problem is that in a few more weeks I'm gon be applyin' for FootLocker but if my social skill is low as fuck, how in the hell am I going to work there? Will that improve it or just makes it worse? That's what I'm dyin' to know.
It's like when I'm in school it's 'I don't give a fuck'. I don't socialize wit alot of other niggas. But when I get home and I'm outside it's like I'm regular, Lol. It's real weird.
Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me. Like the way I talk on here, dubcc, is how I do it at home and when I'm hangin' outside. And it's funny cuz if I was to meet any of ya'll in real life I wouldn't be quiet at all. Weird.
Don't get me wrong becuz I'm not this nerdy lil nigga who doesnt speak. I hang wit the tight niggas but I just am not 'loud'.
I apologize this is so fuckin' long but the nigga had to vent, Lol. I wanted ya'll to get an understanding cuz I just really really want to know when this will go away becuz I'm starting to get scurred. :-\
If you get what I'm sayin' please drop a lil sumtin'. I really appreciate it. Really I do.
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maaaaaan dont trip about foot locker. it wont do nothin but improve your skills. everybody around you who talks to you WANTS you to be comfortable and fluid, so if they are with you, and you want to improve, whats stoppin you? youre just comfortable with feeling bad and awkward as terrible as it sounds, so being social and puttin yourself out there is hard, but keep doin it cuz no matter whether you are in the mix chattin up with females and dudes or sittin at home on dubcc, you're gonna get good at anything you do for long enough. and dont worry about slipping up along the way think about this, who are people most likely to appreciate in the long run, muthafucka who is always charming right off the bat then thinks they are better than everyone else? or the most improved player who was nervous and shy at first but becomes friends with everyone over a while? that could be you pimp so just put yourself out there and dont be afraid to speak, and dont be afraid to just chill and be quiet around new people, as long as youre comfortable youre gonna look confident and people will be attracted to you.
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^ Nice post J. Thank you man. I appreciate that. Real good looks on that. For real, for real. I'm gonna remember that, big time! Said some tight shit.
I'm gonna prop ya in another hour and you best hold me to it. 8)
Nah, but for real, thanks!
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aight thanks much appeciated
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damn doggie dat sounds rough no homo
but yo peep dis if u meetin sum1 new n u dunno them den they dunno u either rite? so u aint gotta b trippin wut dey think of u or nuthin like dat cuz dey prolly worried bout da same thing witchu so u jus gota start thinkin like damn im a muhfuckin champ all these other muhfuckas r jus a buncha squares who would love 2 meet n talk 2 a nigga like me n u jus talk 2 em like ur way 2 fly 4 em but still b nice no need 2 b cocky no homo jus b coo n if its a bitch den u talk 2 her like damn im doin dis bitch a favor by lettin her even talk 2 a fly muhfucka like me ya feel me? but like dont b hella cocky n shit no1 likes dat jus b chill n dont like say shit dat aint ur character jus b urself but jus b confident think 2 urself that theire prolly hella shy rite now talkin 2 u n dat ur tryin 2 make dem comfortable dat way ull jus start comin off smooth n confident ya smell me?
aite now go look in da mirror n tell urself dat ur a muhfuckin champ n dat all these hoes r jus dumb bitches who would love 2 talk 2 a nigga like u n dat all these other muhfuckas u meet r prolly a buncha squares n ur hella coo so dey da 1s dat r prolly hella nervous n if u need a plan b while u talk 2 em jus think 2 urself dat damn dat motherfucka is prolly hella insecure cuz he got a little ass dick n my shit is hella big so i got no reason 2 b shy he does
get em doggie
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^ Lol. No doubt. Good looks nigga!!
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Work out. Im serious not only does it tone you up but it also gives you confidence.
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^thats real too. even if you dont got any equipment do like 50 pushups and situps before you go out, drink water
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For real? That's whats up. Thanks ya'll!!
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^thats real too. even if you dont got any equipment do like 50 pushups and situps before you go out, drink water
sets are better. Do like 3 sets of 30 and work your way up. Drink milk too.
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yo i made a thread in gspot bout workin out i need sum advice yall come on over 2 da spot n help a nigga out
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yo man just try and expose yourself to new shit. for example, today i couldnt find any of my homies toward the end of the day at school, so i went and sat down at a table with these two chicks who i didnt really know that well. by the end of it i had one of their numbers and she was takin pictures of herself on my phone. so just expose yourself, be easy, and try to spark up some conversation. if its easier, heres three things to focus on: be confident. dont overthink what youre saying. and dont overrextend yourself: its cool to kick some conversation, but dont be like abnoxiously engagin and shit. if you just chill and let a conversation flow, but still be active in it, it should be all good. lol sorry to preach to you, but thats just some advice for you.
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yo man just try and expose yourself to new shit. for example, today i couldnt find any of my homies toward the end of the day at school, so i went and sat down at a table with these two chicks who i didnt really know that well. by the end of it i had one of their numbers and she was takin pictures of herself on my phone. so just expose yourself, be easy, and try to spark up some conversation. if its easier, heres three things to focus on: be confident. dont overthink what youre saying. and dont overrextend yourself: its cool to kick some conversation, but dont be like abnoxiously engagin and shit. if you just chill and let a conversation flow, but still be active in it, it should be all good. lol sorry to preach to you, but thats just some advice for you.
But that also depends where you're from. You can't just be out there expecting to meet new friends to everybody you come up too. Mothafuckas like to start shit all the time.
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yo man just try and expose yourself to new shit. for example, today i couldnt find any of my homies toward the end of the day at school, so i went and sat down at a table with these two chicks who i didnt really know that well. by the end of it i had one of their numbers and she was takin pictures of herself on my phone. so just expose yourself, be easy, and try to spark up some conversation. if its easier, heres three things to focus on: be confident. dont overthink what youre saying. and dont overrextend yourself: its cool to kick some conversation, but dont be like abnoxiously engagin and shit. if you just chill and let a conversation flow, but still be active in it, it should be all good. lol sorry to preach to you, but thats just some advice for you.
But that also depends where you're from. You can't just be out there expecting to meet new friends to everybody you come up too. Mothafuckas like to start shit all the time.
i didnt say go up to strangers. i said, if you know people, but not that well, just try choppin it up with them. i didnt say go conversate with anyone you come up to, either. read the post.
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yo man just try and expose yourself to new shit. for example, today i couldnt find any of my homies toward the end of the day at school, so i went and sat down at a table with these two chicks who i didnt really know that well. by the end of it i had one of their numbers and she was takin pictures of herself on my phone. so just expose yourself, be easy, and try to spark up some conversation. if its easier, heres three things to focus on: be confident. dont overthink what youre saying. and dont overrextend yourself: its cool to kick some conversation, but dont be like abnoxiously engagin and shit. if you just chill and let a conversation flow, but still be active in it, it should be all good. lol sorry to preach to you, but thats just some advice for you.
But that also depends where you're from. You can't just be out there expecting to meet new friends to everybody you come up too. Mothafuckas like to start shit all the time.
i didnt say go up to strangers. i said, if you know people, but not that well, just try choppin it up with them. i didnt say go conversate with anyone you come up to, either. read the post.
Oh ok sorry. Don't shoot me :monkey:
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yo man just try and expose yourself to new shit. for example, today i couldnt find any of my homies toward the end of the day at school, so i went and sat down at a table with these two chicks who i didnt really know that well. by the end of it i had one of their numbers and she was takin pictures of herself on my phone. so just expose yourself, be easy, and try to spark up some conversation. if its easier, heres three things to focus on: be confident. dont overthink what youre saying. and dont overrextend yourself: its cool to kick some conversation, but dont be like abnoxiously engagin and shit. if you just chill and let a conversation flow, but still be active in it, it should be all good. lol sorry to preach to you, but thats just some advice for you.
But that also depends where you're from. You can't just be out there expecting to meet new friends to everybody you come up too. Mothafuckas like to start shit all the time.
i didnt say go up to strangers. i said, if you know people, but not that well, just try choppin it up with them. i didnt say go conversate with anyone you come up to, either. read the post.
Oh ok sorry. Don't shoot me :monkey:
lol sorry if i came off mad on that, i didnt mean it like that.
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First of all i think you need to accept yourself the way you are. DOnt beat yourself over it. I think thats key. You should look foward to the job at Footlocker, take it one step at a time, bad days or akward situations will probably happen. Take the little good things of youre day and the bad well instead of beating yourself over it or thiking of eays to change em accept em and change will come without you noticing.
Im a confident guy who talks to strangers but i also have my days were i totaly lack confidence and feel like shit i think we all do.
Its ok to be shy and be quiet, maybe in high shcool its negative or wtv by yuoll see that high shcool attitude goes away as you get older. ( i wish i could believe that myself as i still think of people like that tho )
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QT - Are you scared of what people may think of you if you talk to them? Or what exactly is the deal? Is it complete strangers that you struggle with, or more of people you see daily but yet don't speak to?
I went through shit like that back in the day, when I transferred to a new school all the way across the country. Didn't know anybody, was pretty different from everybody, and all I wanted to do was fit in. I was very shy, never speaking unless spoken to. Now this might sound funny, but I can tell you a way that I started to get over it.
You say your teacher thanked you for reading in front of the class. Volunteer to do that shit some more - it'll give you practice speaking in front of lots of people, being the center of attention, but at the same time you don't have to worry about what you're saying because it's all written in the book. You don't have to think on your feet and worry about a cool or funny thing to say, you're just reciting some shit. Also, if a teacher asks a question that you know the answer to, speak up. This shit may sound corny as hell, but it works. You're not really conversing, you're basically answering a question with somebody else taking the lead. If you do this enough and are on the right track when you answer, you'll begin to see that you're just as smart and cool as everybody and not get soooo worked up about interacting with people.
But just know that you're not gonna get over it unless you practice. If you go to McDonalds, just say whats up / how's it going / good morning / how are you to the cashier or something. You don't have to have deep meaningful conversation to get practice. All you need is the interaction and to show yourself that it's actually very easy to do. Once you got the hang of the quick convo / building a rapport you can build from there.
But like I said, bottom line, you just gotta initiate small simple convo with some random people. If it's random people, who cares about them? You'll never see them again, they mean absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of your life. Use those motherfuckers to develop your skills. After some practice you'll see that you built it up so much in your mind when in reality it's really simple. Trust me man, i've been there. Just practice practice practice. Peace 8)
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Say hi and how you doing to people walking down the street.
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Jrome and Bananas gave the best advice you're probly gonna get on here so listen to them. But I'd guess you're an introspective type, I think that could have a little to do with it, you can't focus so much on what you're doing or what somebody's thinking, I remember you said you didn't used to be like this; i'm sure that you had a bunch of friends to bullshit with back home and after the move you were by yourself a lot more? Just like anything you can start to lose your skills in something if you don't ever use them; like talking to people you aren't overly familiar with. For example, a comedian has to know about something to make a joke out of it, a lot of time we use what we know about someone to talk with them; so talking with a stranger is a little different and might feel like it.
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get hella high before u go out.
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get hella high before u go out.
that will only make the problem worse
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
I went to the mall a lil while ago and walked into FootLocker and the girl who works there goes to my school and it was real weird becuz I was able to talk to her more than I was able to in school. But don't get it twisted it ain't the ladies I have a problem wit, it's just, I don't know, all people. It feels different when you crushin' a girl and talkin' to her becuz, I don't know, its just different, and anyways I'm sittin' there talkin' to the girl and I just can't do it 'right', like my social skill is low as possible. Now the problem is that in a few more weeks I'm gon be applyin' for FootLocker but if my social skill is low as fuck, how in the hell am I going to work there? Will that improve it or just makes it worse? That's what I'm dyin' to know.
It's like when I'm in school it's 'I don't give a fuck'. I don't socialize wit alot of other niggas. But when I get home and I'm outside it's like I'm regular, Lol. It's real weird.
Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me. Like the way I talk on here, dubcc, is how I do it at home and when I'm hangin' outside. And it's funny cuz if I was to meet any of ya'll in real life I wouldn't be quiet at all. Weird.
Don't get me wrong becuz I'm not this nerdy lil nigga who doesnt speak. I hang wit the tight niggas but I just am not 'loud'.
I apologize this is so fuckin' long but the nigga had to vent, Lol. I wanted ya'll to get an understanding cuz I just really really want to know when this will go away becuz I'm starting to get scurred. :-\
If you get what I'm sayin' please drop a lil sumtin'. I really appreciate it. Really I do.
i got the same, kinda, when im in a spot outside my regular *territory* im just not as social as i would be normally, i dunno why....but your story, it sounds kinda familiar, guess im not the only one ;D
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maaaaaan dont trip about foot locker. it wont do nothin but improve your skills.
^^ that's right.
Also remember that initiating the conversation is half the battle.
So if you're working with these people it'll make life a hell of a lot easier. :)
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Lol, is this why you are called QuietTruth? ;D
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^ 8)
Yo, to all of you who replied, and took your time to type out advice, thank ya'll so much. I really appreciate it and I WILL soak up all the advice. Thanks for just spittin' your knowledge, it's all beyond appreciation. For real!
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all good homie, you seem like a real down to earth dude with a god sense of humour.
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^ You know you a pimp. 8)
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a lot of what you're going thru right now is just growing pains. And to get to the point of where you want to be socially its going to be a slow tedious process but you will get there. But you should get a job, b/c it will force you to be outgoing in situations you normally would be quiet in. That will really help you out a lot b/c I was in the same boat when I was 16-17 except I was really really fucked up lol. well i hope this helped a little bit.
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^ Of course. Propz for respondin'!
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Lol, is this why you are called QuietTruth? ;D
lol +1
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^ You know you a pimp. 8)
only on saturday's
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
I went to the mall a lil while ago and walked into FootLocker and the girl who works there goes to my school and it was real weird becuz I was able to talk to her more than I was able to in school. But don't get it twisted it ain't the ladies I have a problem wit, it's just, I don't know, all people. It feels different when you crushin' a girl and talkin' to her becuz, I don't know, its just different, and anyways I'm sittin' there talkin' to the girl and I just can't do it 'right', like my social skill is low as possible. Now the problem is that in a few more weeks I'm gon be applyin' for FootLocker but if my social skill is low as fuck, how in the hell am I going to work there? Will that improve it or just makes it worse? That's what I'm dyin' to know.
It's like when I'm in school it's 'I don't give a fuck'. I don't socialize wit alot of other niggas. But when I get home and I'm outside it's like I'm regular, Lol. It's real weird.
Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me. Like the way I talk on here, dubcc, is how I do it at home and when I'm hangin' outside. And it's funny cuz if I was to meet any of ya'll in real life I wouldn't be quiet at all. Weird.
Don't get me wrong becuz I'm not this nerdy lil nigga who doesnt speak. I hang wit the tight niggas but I just am not 'loud'.
I apologize this is so fuckin' long but the nigga had to vent, Lol. I wanted ya'll to get an understanding cuz I just really really want to know when this will go away becuz I'm starting to get scurred. :-\
If you get what I'm sayin' please drop a lil sumtin'. I really appreciate it. Really I do.
its good that u aint loud.
i hate the brothas that r loud , cuz they the ones that need a checkin.
i like the brothas that r quiet n keep it G, cuhz uz a fake mutha fucka if u talk to much to an outsider.
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^ Hell yeah.
Nah, I like to be Quiet and reserved and to myself but I think it's time to open more, ya feel me?
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^ You know you a pimp. 8)
only on saturday's
Holla. 8)
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just remember blood you can still be quiet cuz outgoing doesnt mean loud. you just gotta be confident when you speak, nothin wrong with saving your breath every now and then.
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im one of the quietest kids at my school period, ever over the juniors (grade 8s in canada; im in grade 12), but im confident, laid back, and honest, and i never worry about shit... be honest and be yourself, and like alot of others said, dont talk too much... dont talk unelss its really worth saying, dont be a dumbass and blurt shit out just for the spotlight
you know your shit, whether its music or just being a cool guy, so im sure it wont take u long to be satisfied with yourself
also, talk to that girl at footlocker again, and show her the real you 8)
peace
no homo
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^ ;D Big propz to you Shawn. I feel you. Advice is appreciated!! And believe that.
J thanks again man! I got major respect for you homie! Advice is appreciated!! And believe that.
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just remember blood you can still be quiet cuz outgoing doesnt mean loud. you just gotta be confident when you speak, nothin wrong with saving your breath every now and then.
thats true too youd nt wanna be loud and fucking annoying like sme people. OUtgoing and loud is too different things
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^ You first.
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^ You first.
Nah... I love my life... you on the other hand... are a pathetic square bear who can't even talk to people.. that's not normal man.. go see a shrink asap or kill yourself..
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Look who's talking patheic, tryin' to get some attention but you tryin' it wit the wrong nigga. I'm not going to make a 20 page thread to argue with some kid who wants to act like one.
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LOL @ "The only places I feel like I can actually express myself is at home or on dubcc".... you're a joke.
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
A suggestion...
....You have to think about what your purpose is. When you meet people, what are you trying to get out of the conversation? Why are you talking to them? To figure out your purpose in life, James Redfield suggests you compare do two things. First, compare the history of the world to your own life history. Then second, find the composite of your mother's life purpose and your father's life purpose, and join the two of them to move forward.
...Like, just as an example. Whenever I meet somebody I am thinking of how to bring them closer to Allah, whether directly or indirectly. A businessman like Puff Daddy or something, whenever he meets someone he is thinking about how to sell himself, and sell his business. When you have a purpose or concern in meeting people it will greatly improve your social skills because it will bring direction to all your social affairs.
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^ Good looking man like always!
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Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me.
props this made me laugh
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it's all good...we're all trying to grow and learn in this life. i'm in the same exact situation as you, i'm really quiet...but definately the type of dude that can manage. Ladies LOVE a dude that can socialize well so if you get this skill you definately up your game.
something that helped me is this link right here:
http://www.bristollair.com/outer-game/skills/social-vibing.html
it's pretty helpful for beginning...
try to get out there and socialize as much as possible..don't be lonely.
*a big thing i noticed is that i hate it when a dude just keeps on asking question after question after question. it's like a kamikazi bombardment of non-stop meaningless questions and you just wanna conversate but it just starts to wind into a Q->A Q->A about trying to figure out your life. whatever you do, don't be boring like that... try to relate your life a little bit to it, share experiences, show that you understand, etc..
it's all a learning process so take your time and eventually you'll develop skill.
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For real. Mad people grill you for questions. It is just like a question answer conversations alot of times then I'll just be like damn...what the fuck just shut up.
Propz homie! Good shit you dropped. Really.
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Let me ask you this truth, As a kid and as a young man and maybe now does youre mom and has youre mom let you express yourself? I mean realy express how you feel wether yure sad, angry or simply agree or disagree with something. Try to truly think about that. I did some therapy last year it helped me figure out lots of things about myself and why im a certain way i.e anxiety, stressed.....its because my mom cuddled me too much as a kid and now everytime she tries to watch out for me i noticed it like she trying ot baby me ya dig?
Psychology makes a lot of sense sometimes. Try to thinik on this. You might think im crazy or wrong just try to look at it.
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just be yourself, sounds gay but it's true
nobody likes some asshole tryin to act all tight when you know he's not
I hate high energy dudes, they just look like fuckin tools
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^ Good looks my dude! 8)
Let me ask you this truth, As a kid and as a young man and maybe now does youre mom and has youre mom let you express yourself? I mean realy express how you feel wether yure sad, angry or simply agree or disagree with something. Try to truly think about that. I did some therapy last year it helped me figure out lots of things about myself and why im a certain way i.e anxiety, stressed.....its because my mom cuddled me too much as a kid and now everytime she tries to watch out for me i noticed it like she trying ot baby me ya dig?
Psychology makes a lot of sense sometimes. Try to thinik on this. You might think im crazy or wrong just try to look at it.
So it's all the parents, huh?
Wow, I would think you'd get stressed if your Ma DIDN'T cuddle you. Damn, that's interesting.
So, if my ma never hugged me or cuddled and shit, that'll make you unstressed? :D I'm stress free. ;D
Nah, just playin', good looks my main man.
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^ Good looks my dude! 8)
Let me ask you this truth, As a kid and as a young man and maybe now does youre mom and has youre mom let you express yourself? I mean realy express how you feel wether yure sad, angry or simply agree or disagree with something. Try to truly think about that. I did some therapy last year it helped me figure out lots of things about myself and why im a certain way i.e anxiety, stressed.....its because my mom cuddled me too much as a kid and now everytime she tries to watch out for me i noticed it like she trying ot baby me ya dig?
Psychology makes a lot of sense sometimes. Try to thinik on this. You might think im crazy or wrong just try to look at it.
So it's all the parents, huh?
Wow, I would think you'd get stressed if your Ma DIDN'T cuddle you. Damn, that's interesting.
So, if my ma never hugged me or cuddled and shit, that'll make you unstressed? :D I'm stress free. ;D
Nah, just playin', good looks my main man.
That's funny, it reminds me of a line from one of my favorite movies, "Before Sunrise".
The main character, Ethan Hawke, he says, "Everybody's parents fucked them up, either their parents didn't give them enough attention, or they stayed around and taught them all the wrong things." lol
...anyway, RealCity, what you said about your mom not lettin you express yourself was interesting. So what have you done to counteract your condition?
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Its not so much she dint let me express myself it was juts more she cuddled a little too much what with my pops not being around and i pickmed up some of her tendicies. As a kid she used to always be like dont eat to fats youll get sick or wtahc out for this watch out for that were it kinda conditionned me to be a worisome kinda guy i worry a lot when i feeel sick.
Now i can pick up on it when she does just by observating and im sure sometimes i still dont pick it up.
I think that along with taking drugs in the past lead me to get amger issues, anxiety issues that lead to ful blown panic attacks.
I did tihs thing for anixtey and anger managment called Behavior modification therapy. You guys can look it up but basicly its just teaches out how to pick up negavtive reatcions youre body gets and how to think or act differently.
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I forgot to say this, So i watched lots of show on emotions, psychologies i find it intersting anyways. I learned that say you were a kid who was ignored or brushed off without knowing it you develop patterns. Theres a lot of em i dont even know them all ( im just a dude who watched some shows and done a lttle therapy ) lol butyou know if youre mom pissed you off brushed you off when you wanted to tell her something or felt sad or bad or angry now you might hold those inside without even knowing. YOu might not express yourself the right way becuase youve created these patterns, its not even a willing things its how youre ind developped.
Its not hopeless tho. Maybe you can read books about it or one day maybe you can go in some sort of group or therapy of you gots good insurance. Im thiking of going in a gorup myself to learn more and find uot more about myself, why not i think if everyone truly looked inside they self we would grow as a world but im getting outta hand here. Hell you might meet a cute looking honey at these group things or a milth ( thats what im shooting for) haha
peace homie.
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
I went to the mall a lil while ago and walked into FootLocker and the girl who works there goes to my school and it was real weird becuz I was able to talk to her more than I was able to in school. But don't get it twisted it ain't the ladies I have a problem wit, it's just, I don't know, all people. It feels different when you crushin' a girl and talkin' to her becuz, I don't know, its just different, and anyways I'm sittin' there talkin' to the girl and I just can't do it 'right', like my social skill is low as possible. Now the problem is that in a few more weeks I'm gon be applyin' for FootLocker but if my social skill is low as fuck, how in the hell am I going to work there? Will that improve it or just makes it worse? That's what I'm dyin' to know.
It's like when I'm in school it's 'I don't give a fuck'. I don't socialize wit alot of other niggas. But when I get home and I'm outside it's like I'm regular, Lol. It's real weird.
Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me. Like the way I talk on here, dubcc, is how I do it at home and when I'm hangin' outside. And it's funny cuz if I was to meet any of ya'll in real life I wouldn't be quiet at all. Weird.
Don't get me wrong becuz I'm not this nerdy lil nigga who doesnt speak. I hang wit the tight niggas but I just am not 'loud'.
I apologize this is so fuckin' long but the nigga had to vent, Lol. I wanted ya'll to get an understanding cuz I just really really want to know when this will go away becuz I'm starting to get scurred. :-\
If you get what I'm sayin' please drop a lil sumtin'. I really appreciate it. Really I do.
This problem is about you steppin' out of your own shell and explore many people. You need to improve communication though, IMHO.
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
I went to the mall a lil while ago and walked into FootLocker and the girl who works there goes to my school and it was real weird becuz I was able to talk to her more than I was able to in school. But don't get it twisted it ain't the ladies I have a problem wit, it's just, I don't know, all people. It feels different when you crushin' a girl and talkin' to her becuz, I don't know, its just different, and anyways I'm sittin' there talkin' to the girl and I just can't do it 'right', like my social skill is low as possible. Now the problem is that in a few more weeks I'm gon be applyin' for FootLocker but if my social skill is low as fuck, how in the hell am I going to work there? Will that improve it or just makes it worse? That's what I'm dyin' to know.
It's like when I'm in school it's 'I don't give a fuck'. I don't socialize wit alot of other niggas. But when I get home and I'm outside it's like I'm regular, Lol. It's real weird.
Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me. Like the way I talk on here, dubcc, is how I do it at home and when I'm hangin' outside. And it's funny cuz if I was to meet any of ya'll in real life I wouldn't be quiet at all. Weird.
Don't get me wrong becuz I'm not this nerdy lil nigga who doesnt speak. I hang wit the tight niggas but I just am not 'loud'.
I apologize this is so fuckin' long but the nigga had to vent, Lol. I wanted ya'll to get an understanding cuz I just really really want to know when this will go away becuz I'm starting to get scurred. :-\
If you get what I'm sayin' please drop a lil sumtin'. I really appreciate it. Really I do.
This problem is about you steppin' out of your own shell and explore many people. You need to improve communication though, IMHO.
he wants to know
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Now I know nobody wants to hear a niggas problem and I know there was a topic made about this just a few weeks ago but a nigga is in need deep.
Nobody likes to hear bitchin' and whinin' but a brother needs some help. And I don't wanna sound repetitive and I'm sorry that I'm gon do this again. I'm aware this ain't counseling or therapy, Lol, but any help is great.
When I'm out in public, or basicly away from my home out of my 'territory' the kid ain't social, ya know, at all. And it's gettin' to the point where I just can't fuckin' take it.
I went to the mall a lil while ago and walked into FootLocker and the girl who works there goes to my school and it was real weird becuz I was able to talk to her more than I was able to in school. But don't get it twisted it ain't the ladies I have a problem wit, it's just, I don't know, all people. It feels different when you crushin' a girl and talkin' to her becuz, I don't know, its just different, and anyways I'm sittin' there talkin' to the girl and I just can't do it 'right', like my social skill is low as possible. Now the problem is that in a few more weeks I'm gon be applyin' for FootLocker but if my social skill is low as fuck, how in the hell am I going to work there? Will that improve it or just makes it worse? That's what I'm dyin' to know.
It's like when I'm in school it's 'I don't give a fuck'. I don't socialize wit alot of other niggas. But when I get home and I'm outside it's like I'm regular, Lol. It's real weird.
Today the teacher was like sayin' 'Thank you, thank you' becuz I read out loud some shit for her to write down on the board. And I'm thinkin' this bitch is fuckin' crazy. Like she don't know me. Like the way I talk on here, dubcc, is how I do it at home and when I'm hangin' outside. And it's funny cuz if I was to meet any of ya'll in real life I wouldn't be quiet at all. Weird.
Don't get me wrong becuz I'm not this nerdy lil nigga who doesnt speak. I hang wit the tight niggas but I just am not 'loud'.
I apologize this is so fuckin' long but the nigga had to vent, Lol. I wanted ya'll to get an understanding cuz I just really really want to know when this will go away becuz I'm starting to get scurred. :-\
If you get what I'm sayin' please drop a lil sumtin'. I really appreciate it. Really I do.
Sounds to me like just general anxiety. A couple suggestions and just words of advice I would give you are the following...
- It sounds like you may not fully realize yet how basically human everybody from you to a baby to George Bush is. All humans go through the same issues and have the same emotions and complicated thought processes, maybe just at different times.... I'm only saying this to remind you that while you may be scared of how you feel, in reality it's nothing to be scared of, just part of the human existance. Everybody alive has had anxiety in different forms in their life.
- When you're in an uncomfortable situation, just remember that the person you're talking to is no more or less important than you are... just relax, and be yourself. Don't front and try to be some one-sided caricature. What I mean by that is sometimes when people meet other people they want to appear a certain way. From the get-go, you're showing yourself as shallow and one sided, because you're only portraying that side that you want that person to see. Instead of seeing a great attribute in your character, they only see you acting out one facet of a character and it looks unnatural even if they don't consciously notice it.
For instance, say you walk into the store and start chatting that chick up and you're trying to get her number or something. You're really concerned that you look smart to her, so you keep going on and on trying to appear intelligent. Instead of seeing you as "man, this guy's smart!" she's going to think you're weird because all you're doing is things that prop up that attribute that you're trying to convey.... a natural person doesn't appear in 1 dimension when they talk to people, they have several dimensions all acting at the same time and that's what truly gives someone character and charisma. Character and charisma are ultimately what souls are attracted to. You've likely never met or enjoyed the company of someone (unless it was just a sexy girl) who's character and charisma you didn't admire.
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damn doggie dat sounds rough no homo
but yo peep dis if u meetin sum1 new n u dunno them den they dunno u either rite? so u aint gotta b trippin wut dey think of u or nuthin like dat cuz dey prolly worried bout da same thing witchu so u jus gota start thinkin like damn im a muhfuckin champ all these other muhfuckas r jus a buncha squares who would love 2 meet n talk 2 a nigga like me n u jus talk 2 em like ur way 2 fly 4 em but still b nice no need 2 b cocky no homo jus b coo n if its a bitch den u talk 2 her like damn im doin dis bitch a favor by lettin her even talk 2 a fly muhfucka like me ya feel me? but like dont b hella cocky n shit no1 likes dat jus b chill n dont like say shit dat aint ur character jus b urself but jus b confident think 2 urself that theire prolly hella shy rite now talkin 2 u n dat ur tryin 2 make dem comfortable dat way ull jus start comin off smooth n confident ya smell me?
aite now go look in da mirror n tell urself dat ur a muhfuckin champ n dat all these hoes r jus dumb bitches who would love 2 talk 2 a nigga like u n dat all these other muhfuckas u meet r prolly a buncha squares n ur hella coo so dey da 1s dat r prolly hella nervous n if u need a plan b while u talk 2 em jus think 2 urself dat damn dat motherfucka is prolly hella insecure cuz he got a little ass dick n my shit is hella big so i got no reason 2 b shy he does
get em doggie
No offense, man, but I honestly am too white to understand a fucking thing you just said. This is the first post, EVER, in 10 years on this board that I actually couldn't even comprehend. I mean usually if I don't like somebody or something somebody said, it's because I just think they're stupid or whatever... but your post, I actually physically and mentally cannot even tell what the hell you are talking about. You could have written "agev sersv a s eaeegbae eeff bearetaa" and it would have made more sense to me, because I would assume it was a different language. Yours appears to be English, I just don't have enough soul to pick it out, I guess, lol.
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Trauma-san, thank you homie. I appreciate your post!
I thought anxiety means when you worry to much. Are you sayin' that's what I got cuz that's werid?
See, the thing is, I've been soaking up all this shit but you know, when you a cat who's known to be a lil more laid back and 'keeps to themselves friendly', it's got going to be good when you just come out of nowhere and start being 'you'. Then it's just more un wanted attention. You know what I'm saying?
Then you get stomped with the questions..Why you never talked?...and ya know all that shit.
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Well im not a dr or anyting but what you decribed is a form of social anxiety i think you might wana explore into it, make you a better man in general. Dont be afraid tho i dont wana scare u lol. Maybe there is a certan pattern you took growing up. Pshycologie is complacated u know. For now the best bet is too get out and try no to think of it. and not try to hard. Wihle youre out there not thiking baout it maybe you can join a sports team or something u know.
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^ Propz man. I appreciate it. And as many times you cam thru in this thread..so much respect to you is deserved. 8) Thanks my dude!
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Its all good man. When i was younger i acted hard u know how it is and that side still comes out of me sometimes actualy a lot of times lol but i dont know last couple of years i try to help people and try to do watver i can to be nice, confort and listen ( listening is better then talking) and just try to help in wich ever way i can u know. Its important in this world.
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Work out. Im serious not only does it tone you up but it also gives you confidence.
this is a fact, workin out kinda "activate" a happiness and self confidence in you that nothin else can give you, i know from experience from years, and dont get upset, homie, its not fuckin worth
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Work out. Im serious not only does it tone you up but it also gives you confidence.
this is a fact, workin out kinda "activate" a happiness and self confidence in you that nothin else can give you, i know from experience from years, and dont get upset, homie, its not fuckin worth
8) 8) 8)
workin out helps also when little asians in their rice rockets cut u off on the road u can beat the shit out of them
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yeah, anybody can lay down a man pullin a trigger but not with his hands
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yeah, anybody can lay down a man pullin a trigger but not with his hands
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i can do the honors
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damn doggie dat sounds rough no homo
but yo peep dis if u meetin sum1 new n u dunno them den they dunno u either rite? so u aint gotta b trippin wut dey think of u or nuthin like dat cuz dey prolly worried bout da same thing witchu so u jus gota start thinkin like damn im a muhfuckin champ all these other muhfuckas r jus a buncha squares who would love 2 meet n talk 2 a nigga like me n u jus talk 2 em like ur way 2 fly 4 em but still b nice no need 2 b cocky no homo jus b coo n if its a bitch den u talk 2 her like damn im doin dis bitch a favor by lettin her even talk 2 a fly muhfucka like me ya feel me? but like dont b hella cocky n shit no1 likes dat jus b chill n dont like say shit dat aint ur character jus b urself but jus b confident think 2 urself that theire prolly hella shy rite now talkin 2 u n dat ur tryin 2 make dem comfortable dat way ull jus start comin off smooth n confident ya smell me?
aite now go look in da mirror n tell urself dat ur a muhfuckin champ n dat all these hoes r jus dumb bitches who would love 2 talk 2 a nigga like u n dat all these other muhfuckas u meet r prolly a buncha squares n ur hella coo so dey da 1s dat r prolly hella nervous n if u need a plan b while u talk 2 em jus think 2 urself dat damn dat motherfucka is prolly hella insecure cuz he got a little ass dick n my shit is hella big so i got no reason 2 b shy he does
get em doggie
LMAO dont tell QT how to act man, QT is QT.
what you got to remember is not to think into it too much, everyone is different man, if you quiet around people you dont know, dont even worry about it... go for the job at footlocker.. you'll meet a whole bunch of people (customers) that you'll probably only see once and never again so you could just fool around and try different shit.
hope that helps ;D
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^ Of course. Propz. Good shit homie. 8)
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Just stay true to yourself homie. Dont change who you are. Fuck the haters. Just be yourself.