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Lifestyle => Train of Thought => Topic started by: ecrazy on January 22, 2007, 04:56:34 PM
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Im 21, I dont want to be really old and have a kid, yet i dont want to have a kid right now neither, somewhere late 20's early 30's
Marriage, i dont know about that one neither, right now ive been in a relationship with my girl for almost 4 years, we've known each other since we were in kindergarden, and we've lived across the street from each other that entire time too. I know i want to marry her, i dont know when to pop the question, set the date, etc. i want to do it as soon as im out of school and working (im working already, but established..get me?)
Anyway, things are flying at me at a million miles an hour, what are your thoughts
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^ Good shit.
I got a long way to go but I definitely definitely want a family and I can't wait to get one.
I have plans to have kids and I have plans to have a wife. Every MAN should want that. But what time? Prolly like mid late 20's.
Nice topic nigga. 8)
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I wouldn't even consider either until I got my career going and a stable income.
As far as marraige goes, I won't even consider it unless it's with a woman I can't live without. I honestly haven't met one like that at this point. I definitely don't wanna be one of those guys who rush into a marraige with some woman and then 5 years later they're miserable.
I really wanna have kids one day too, but I'm not gonna consider it unless I find the right woman. Only because I believe children need a stable household with both the mother and the father in the house.
So yeah, I gotta put some work in. I'm in no rush though. I'm gonna enjoy my 20's. I gotta get being a crazy young muthafucka out of my system first.
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^ I feel that.
children need a stable household with both the mother and the father in the house.
Definitely.
The most impotant thang to a man should be a wife, a kid and a career.
I gots a while though before any of that happens. 8)
I wanna see some MEN coming up out the hood now. Let's start some examples ya'll. Ya feel me? 8)
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yeah thats cool, it should be done
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No kids, marriage is a maybe but not something that is absolutely essential for me.
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i got married when I was 23 (im 26 now), and kids will probably come along in the next 3-4 years. i have a good job & a great stable income, but want to save a bit of $ before having kids, since they are expensive
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yeah they are bout 500 dollars each, 300 on sale
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yeah they are bout 500 dollars each, 300 on sale
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I'd rather buy a PS3 with that money.
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if i ever get married/have kids i want it to happen before i turn 30.
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^^dont you think that a little too old to be having kids though as well? u dont want to be in your late 40's/50's when your kid is a teenager, at least i dont.
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Too old? Hell no. I'm 20 now and it'll take me years before I've graduated and found me a steady job. My lady is in one of those periods right now where she's absolutely fiending for a baby, but she too knows the timing isn't right. I just gotta make sure she takes her pill daily...
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^^dont you think that a little too old to be having kids though as well? u dont want to be in your late 40's/50's when your kid is a teenager, at least i dont.
i dont have much choice, i wont graduate until i'm 27/28.
somewhere late 20's early 30's
and anyway, times are changing, i believe i will have a diferent mind frame to my parents when i am 40/50. back in the day a 20 year old was the equivelant of a 28 year old this day in age. they grew up alot quicker, they had no choice.
and i rather have my kids later rather than be grounded by kids in my youth.
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and anyway, times are changing, i believe i will have a diferent mind frame to my parents when i am 40/50. back in the day a 20 year old was the equivelant of a 28 year old this day in age. they grew up alot quicker, they had no choice.
That's true.
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There's no rush for me to get married and have kids before I hit 30. We're living longer than ever now.
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^exactly, unless it's a life long dream, whats the point in doing it so early?
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^^ If it ain't a life long dream, why bother with it at all?
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e-crazy, mexicans dont get married, and mexicans have kids when they're 14, so you better hurry up before you lose your wetback window. 8)
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I'll get married when I know I've met the right girl, no quick decisions
as for kids, if I had a wife that I wanted raising kids, I'd have at most 2
but if no kids I wouldnt care all that much, since the world is pretty fucked up and keeping 2 less people off earth is a good idea
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only reason i brought this up is because i was thinking about a friend of mine who's dad was in his 50's and his mom was 42 when they had him. now he's 20 and they are all old and that doesnt look like a fun environment to be raising a kid around too, they are basically senior citizens when he was a teen.
I always wanted to adopt kids, so this aint all about getting my girl knocked up right now, she wants to adopt as well, but when we are ready.
All in due time though, but damn, time is flying faster than ever and soon enough ill be at that time to evaluate this more seriously.
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^^ If it ain't a life long dream, why bother with it at all?
what i mean is a family isn't my goal right now, my goal is to establish myself.
so unless you're 18 and want to do nothing but raise a fam, i dont see the point doing it so young.
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I dont want to have kids, they can be such a pain in the ass. Most young people who adore kids only know their good sides.. like when they play with them and the kids are so cute and stuff. I'm a six-time uncle and trust I do fucking know kids. And I don't want kids.
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I want 3 kids. And I wanna be a teacher. (That ain't gonna happen though).
And if I have a lil girl, I pray she's a tomboy. Who's got a sport talent.
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i say when i'm 25 i believe i should be able to provide for a wife and a family.
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i wanna get married around 25
by then i should have a good job, be independet/more responsible and somewhat financially stable
i'd want my first kid around 29; second kid around 34 or 35
hopefully a boy first, then a girl
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probably 30 year old.
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hopefully a boy first, then a girl
That's what I'm hoping for too. If I have a girl first, I'm hiring her a bodyguard.
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I'm not sure that I'll have kids. If I do, I don't see it happening for another 10 years. Luckily, I know that I'm pretty selfish right now. I have zero interest in being a father figure at this stage in my life. I'm 26, but I'm coming up in my career and I'm gonna play my ass off. Making $80k w/o kids is like making $200k w/ kids. I like the freedom of being able to do what I want when I want, without asking permission or clearing it with anybody else.
And they say that 30 is the new 20 and I think there's some real validity to that. My parents popped out kids in their early 20's, but thats what was expected in their day. I don't think you should get married and have kids just because it's what everybody else does. I know some people that do that because they thought it was the thing to do, and are miserable now.
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I know some people that do that because they thought it was the thing to do, and are miserable now.
That's why so many people grew up all fucked up.
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And they say that 30 is the new 20
i'd say we were all born in the best generation of recent history, and we got alot more time and freedom on our hands, so i goto agree 30 is the new 20 and i'm lovin it! 8)
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hopefully a boy first, then a girl
That's what I'm hoping for too. If I have a girl first, I'm hiring her a bodyguard.
damn right; i'll be doing the same thing if that happened to me
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Ya'll got the right idea. I am not having a kid till at least 30. You should have a secure high income and a plan before you have a kid. Marriage isn't to important to me because I really don't believe in it. Anyone with eyes and observation skills can tell you that MOST don't work. Women are way more independent nowadays. Most used to take the marriage route because they had a kid and it was the traditional thing to do. I think the marriage title brings the most stress on the relationship. People naturally don't want to feel tied down. If you haven't noticed girls don't like it when you call 50 times a day and are all over there ass about everything. Its the sense of freedom. People need the freedom. When you are constantly around somebody 24-7 you WILL start to bicker and get sick of them no matter how strong the relationship is. From personal experience with relationships. I have had both ones where I was around the person allday everyday and ones where I was around the person every other day. The one that was better and lasted longer was the one that I didn't see her as often.
Why does marriage matter as long as you love each other? Theres no title thats going to make it any better.
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hopefully a boy first, then a girl
That's what I'm hoping for too. If I have a girl first, I'm hiring her a bodyguard.
damn right; i'll be doing the same thing if that happened to me
then theres always morocco..
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hopefully a boy first, then a girl
That's what I'm hoping for too. If I have a girl first, I'm hiring her a bodyguard.
damn right; i'll be doing the same thing if that happened to me
then theres always morocco..
Anyone know the cost of living out there?
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"you say 30's the new 20? but you 40, im 30 so who's 20?"
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hopefully a boy first, then a girl
That's what I'm hoping for too. If I have a girl first, I'm hiring her a bodyguard.
damn right; i'll be doing the same thing if that happened to me
then theres always morocco..
Anyone know the cost of living out there?
$50 US, a camel, and a box of toothpicks, thats like being a millionaire out there. 8)
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^You probably get clapped quick if you don't know how shit goes down there and don't know people. And if you're white you'll get clapped anyways, no matter what you do.
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You better tan well and wear a good disguise in those countries.
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Maybe Around 25 To get married ,
Late 20's Some kids .
But rely , You Jis gotta take this Shit As It Comes,
Sometimes It Can be unexpected .
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Married in a few years kids around 28-30 and 2 i deff want 2 just a good #