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Lifestyle => Tha G-Spot => Topic started by: CRAFTY on June 29, 2004, 01:27:31 AM
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Hey what's up,
What I'm about to tell is something that happened to me yesterday, it's about some of my closest friends. I would appreciate it if everybody took some time out to read this carefully and think about how you would react and what you would do...thanks in advance.
I have these two friends (Sarah & Bart) and we were gonna go to a festival Saturday July 3rd. We already planned this 3 months ago, I ordered their tickets and I took care of everything.
Now, yesterday, I received a message on my cell-phone from Sarah. She wrote that she was gonna sell her tickets because Bart has sold them. I couldn't believe my eyes...Out of nowhere I read this, they didn't tell me anything about this, we never had any fights or whatso-ever, and 4 days before the music-festival, they tell me that, basically, I can go alone.
You have to know, these are two friends I go out with every week, we go play basketball together, Bart beatboxes while I rap, we really have the same interests...and now they do this.
Okay, I received that message exactly 1 hour before I had to go to school (it was our graduation day in high-school), so I was like "why not just tell me at school, in my face, instead of simply sending me a message when you know you'll see me within an hour". Allright, so I go to school, I see both of them standing there. They don't do anything, they don't come to me (keep in mind, that Bart, the guy who supposedly already sold his ticket, hasn't even told me anything about it). I expected him to come to me immediately to tell me "look, I decided not to go anymore". Anyway, I go to a classroom, where I get my diploma, and I see him in the same hallway. He was walking in my direction, and I say "you're not going to the festival anymore?". He responds "Well, I don't know, I'm not sure how we are gonna get back home". I say to him "I already checked the Internet...we can catch our train at 22.30". I say "Have you already sold your tickets?"...guess what he says: "No". Remember: according to Sarah, he already did. From this point on, I really knew something was going on & they were holding back something.
I go back outside, and I see Sarah sitting there. And she was literally avoiding eye-contact with me, I was like "wtf, why don't you just tell me now in my face you are gonna sell your tickets and give me a good reason". I just walked up to her, and asked her "why did you decide to sell your tickets"? And she really gave me this lame excuse, something that had nothing, but nothing, to do with it. What I also noticed, is that she had a hard time with looking me straight into my eyes.
She says to me "I'll go talk to Bart", I say "he's standing right there". I go after her, and she simply walks past him, I was like "huh? didn't you just tell me you were gonna talk to him?". Anyway, I confront Bart again, and ask him why he did this, a few days before the concert, just leaving me like that. And he constantly tries to look the other way, not paying attention to what I say, and he says "are you on MSN tomorrow? I'll tell you then if I go or not". And I think to myself "oh, so I'm a fucking toy right now, you decide you wanna go, then you decide not to. Then you change your mind again and say, "I'll see tomorrow".
Sarah also told me she didn't feel like going anyway, and she had that feeling for over a month now. I told her "why didn't you just tell me then?!". She kept ignoring the question...
---> So basically, that's what went down in detail...to sum it up: these two friends I hang out with every day and go out with every week, just turned their back on me, and they refuse to give a reason and they don't feel comfortable looking me in my face.
Is that friendship? Is that having trust in someone?
I decided to go have a talk with them, and tell them "look, you did wrong, you did things behind my back, you refuse to give me a good reason, and I'm not gonna take it any longer, this so-called friendship is over".
I told my parents about this and they think that Bart & Sarah simply don't wanna hang out with my anymore but don't have the guts to say it in my face...and they are going to the festival, but they don't wanna be around me anymore.
I'm starting to feel the same way...
Can you guys please give me an honest opinion about how you would react?
Thanks a lot.
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sounds to me like they're fuckin
dust off the chainsaw
what did that dude say on MSN?
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Maybe they just think you're a dork and they agreed that they feel embarassed being around you. I could be wrong, but that's what it seems like.
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make sure you get ya money for the tickets.. beyond that i dunno man.. i'd be pissed..
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sounds like some weird shit...when my friends piss me off, i get back at them in secretive evil ways......but that's just me
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I'd demand my money back.
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Most likely, they've hooked up, and they wanna be alone...It's kinda odd when a couple go somewhere, and an extra guy is just there on the side...Get another girl or something, and it'll be even...PeACe
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No, they're not a couple, I'm 100% sure about this, so that's not the reason.
I already have my money.
Thanks for the replies so far...
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its a strange one...sounds to me like they either
werent that keen to go in the first place...
or
want to go but not with you...
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Dunno why they would do you like that, sounds like you were close friends...
Me, I'd be like fuck it. They don't want to talk to me, hang out with me, be friends with me? Fuck them then.
And it ain't like you didn't try to reach them. If they're really your friends, they'll come up to you and you'll sort this out eventually. But if they keep doing you like that - fuck that shit.
It seems lately my friends list
Done took a slight decline
And if you wanna know the truth man, man
Them wasn't no friends of mine
Fucked up when that happens though. :-\
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^^^^Exactly...that's how I feel right now.
Would you give them a second chance?
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Hell no don't give them a second chance. The Onus is on them to fix this shit, just ignore them like the inconsequential pieces of your life that they are.
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^^^^Yeah...that's what I was planning to do. I'm glad to see people would react the same way...
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awww dats harsh
<-- big softy ;)
i'd be wary in future tho..
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what did that dude say on MSN?
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Thas pretty f'd up selling the tickets you shouted. Good thing you got yer money back.
I'd be too mad to sit back, I'd confront them aye, ask them whassup.
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Sounds like a couple of assholes. Fuck them, you don't need them.
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Shit thats a fucked up situation. Sorry homie but I wouldnt know what to do if that where me because I honestly dont think any of my friends would actually do that. If we had a concert thingy planned, tickets bought and everything we would all go, nobody would drop out because of a bullshit excuse. Not to sound like a prik of anything but dont you got any more friends???
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Sounds to me like Bart and Sarah are fuckin.
Either way tho, fuck 'em. If Bart wanna act like a fuckin female and play emotional games with you, fuck him. I've had to do that before. I had my best friend hook up with a girl I liked behind my back, they both were acting strange as hell around me, so I was just like "fuck both of you", and I haven't talked to either of them in 2 years. It hard at first, but after a while I felt better for doing it.
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i woulda broke barts fuckin face man. to be honest with you if they gonna go behind your back and act like that then fuck em. from what i've learned in life, the last thing you want is disloyal friends.
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Yo that's some cold, man. I experienced somethin like that in the past but I never lost money over it. DEFINITELY get your money back for that.
And if a girl would do that to you, she obviously doesn';t feel the same way about you as you do and her and she's taking advantage of your good charity towards her.
Give her the pink slip dogg
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Watch out and be objective
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Sounds like a couple of assholes. Fuck them, you don't need them.
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Give her the pink slip dogg
lol
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Well I'll be blunt; you shouldn't of told them that this so called friendship was over. But thats done and in the past. Give it some time. Call them up up and tell them that you over reacted. Give them some time to cool off. Maybe somethings going on that you don't know about. Call them in a week or two and ask them if they want to chill. If they say they can't or they have somethin' else planned don't get your panties in a bundle about it, call them again some other day. Chill with some other people. True friendships won't be destroyed by something like this. But friendships can get stale. Maybe its a blessing. It will give you time to broaden the amount of people you know well. Chill with some other homies and give it time. It will work itself out.
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Im thinkin tell em to fuck off. You did your part by confronting both of them. There is nothing else you can do until these so called "friends" speak the real on whats going on.
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You did your part by confronting both of them. There is nothing else you can do until these so called "friends" speak the real on whats going on.
True...in Dutch, we have an expression for this: "the ball is in their camp now", so it's up to them to go talk to me...I already did my part.
GoodLuvn169: I haven't told them yet that the friendship was over, and I'm not going to either. I'm gonna lay low for a while, see what happens...
I called Sarah yesterday and she kept saying the same thing basically: "I don't know if Bart has sold his ticket or not...". I'm not 100% sure if Sarah is wrong, but I definitely know Bart's fucking up, seriously. That day at school, he asked me if I was gonna be on MSN the next day (remember?)...he never even came online (hey, okay...I can live with that) but he could've called me. Even today, he doesn't seem to think it's necesarry to give me a call about whether he's going or not...
I'm going to the festival Saturday with other guys, and I really hope Bart & Sarah will be there...If they're there, then the conclusion is very simple: they didn't wanna go with me, but were too cowardish (I'm aware cowardish isn't a word, lol) to say it to me.
Like Adon said, it will hard in the beginning to just leave them like that, but it's better that way I think...
---> By the way, I'd like to thank everybody for taking time out to listen to my story and give their thoughts. I really appreciate this a lot, I do. Thanks
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i'm happy you're still going with other people :)
i wouldnt stir up any trouble.. they know they've done you wrong. maybe they are fucking, or it could just be that they didn't want to upset you by telling you they didnt want to go after all.
at the end of the day what you've learned is you cant rely on these people. if they do mean something to you dont cut them out.
Shit happens.. the guy thats probably the one i'd call my 'best friend' isn't the person who i go out and spend time with. because sadly he's only interested in one thing, which is going to a club and drinking.
Sadly, I now have a couple whole new groups of people (actually some old friends, and some new amongst those) I go out and do things like go to the beach, play pool, skateboard, go to the cinema, have a meal or whatever with. I find it sad he won't come out when we all go have a meal or something, he says its boring.. but we do have fun, and go to different places and eat different things. what i find boring is just going to clubs all the time. Its not like they aren't his friends too, they do all know each other.
I know from how he's been with some other friends who started to hang around with this same crowd before I did that right now he's thinking 'they've stolen me' but at the end of the day they haven't, he's just excluding himself by not joining in.
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^^^^True. Thanks for sharing your story 8)
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It was probably because your friends had something going on like obviously something was wrong they just didnt have the balls to tell you to your face...im glad to see that it worked out abit in this situation...