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Lifestyle => Train of Thought => Topic started by: Lincoln on October 27, 2005, 06:51:56 PM
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Anybody on here quit cursing, or know someone who has? Any ideas on what is effective?
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think before you speak, just not too much...i have a swearing problem too.
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think before you speak, just not too much...i have a swearing problem too.
Yeah it's rough though. When everyone around is swearing, it's just second nature. For sure thinking about it is important.
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Sure, I've quit before. I started up again, though, although it was basically on purpose, a mental choice.
Anyways, the way to quit is to do the following. I'm not kidding, this will 100% work. Whenever you cuss, stop, and resay exactly what you just said, without the cuss word. Even if you're in a room full of people.... NOBODY can ridicule you or make fun of you for doing that, because it's something positive that you're trying to do. In a week or so you'll be done with it.
"Man, that was the COOLEST fuckin' movie.... I Mean, Man, that was the ABSOLUTE COOLEST MOVIE I've ever seen"
"Fuck That!"
Wait, I should have said "No, Forget That!"
What an Asshole... no, wait, What a jerk.
How the hell am I supposed to ?... wait, how in the world am I supposed to know?
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I'm not kidding. It's a 100% effective way to quit swearing, it will definately, most positively work.
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^^ Interesting idea, I'm gonna try that out. Thanks eh?
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Thanks eh?
We'll work on that after.
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Thanks eh?
We'll work on that after.
Lol, no way! I love my ehs.
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Fuck it, cursing adds flava to your language, just don't do it in front of your boss(es) or grandparents, or in social situations where it seems inappropriate..
Just like you wouldn't be using slang and street talk when talking to older people, it's all about adjusting to who you're talking to. 8)
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Do you want to get rid of swearing altogether or do you just want keep swear words from popping up in the wrong places? Because I swear when I talk but I never swear when I'm in a public environment with people that you shouldn't swear around. I don't think about it, it just happens that way.
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Do you want to get rid of swearing altogether or do you just want keep swear words from popping up in the wrong places? Because I swear when I talk but I never swear when I'm in a public environment with people that you shouldn't swear around. I don't think about it, it just happens that way.
I want to get rid of swearing altogether, I sometimes feel like I've got a dual personality. My mother and I were talking about it last week, about how she's never heard me swear so she figures I just don't, unlike my brother who she hears cussing. It's like I'm hiding it from her because I have a really dirty mouth in social settings. Sometimes I even let words slip out in seminars for my classes.
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Well, you're 19, so you should be able to control what you say, it's all about thinking through what you wanna say before you say it..
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Do you want to get rid of swearing altogether or do you just want keep swear words from popping up in the wrong places? Because I swear when I talk but I never swear when I'm in a public environment with people that you shouldn't swear around. I don't think about it, it just happens that way.
I want to get rid of swearing altogether, I sometimes feel like I've got a dual personality. My mother and I were talking about it last week, about how she's never heard me swear so she figures I just don't, unlike my brother who she hears cussing. It's like I'm hiding it from her because I have a really dirty mouth in social settings. Sometimes I even let words slip out in seminars for my classes.
I don't know then. I never have it slip out and I never really hide it either. Some places it's just not appropriate, but if even if I know the person well it all depends because I really don't control it. It's like my brain knows that you shouldn't swear hear or you should. I don't really swear much anyway, except at a few people I know, but most of the time it's done to be funny or to add effect. A well placed fuckin' can really help define what you mean based on the tone you say it in. Lets you know you're serious but no too serious. Like if I'm watching football and Peyton Manning throws a perfect pass that gets bobbled at a crucial time I say "this guy fuckin' sucks" with an annoyed tone. I could say this guy really sucks but it doesn't sound strong enough for me, and saying this guy is the absolute worst receiver in the NFL would be going too far. Sometimes I just say "This guy sucks" and put emphasis on the "sucks". To each his own.
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Yeah, I think sometimes cussing is just a sign of passion. Just like every other aspect of our lives though, it's really gone to the extreme, in the 50's kids used to trip out if their dad said "Damn" when he broke his hand on a wrench working on the car or something. Now we use curse words so much you pretty much have to go absolutely crazy to make it sound more intense than your normal language. They fined Clark Gable 5 grand, for instance, for saying "Frankly dear, I don't give a damn" at the end of Gone with the Wind. He paid the 5 grand himself because he thought the word added the passion to the line and the scene that the movie needed. Anymore there's no way one word would be worth paying a fine over, we throw curse words around so much they have absolutely no meaning anymore.
On the other hand, too, you have to think that if you're saying things that offend people, they're really not worth saying since there's little emphasis or stress that it puts on the meaning of a sentence anymore... so why even say them if they don't add anything and only offend people?
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Do you want to get rid of swearing altogether or do you just want keep swear words from popping up in the wrong places? Because I swear when I talk but I never swear when I'm in a public environment with people that you shouldn't swear around. I don't think about it, it just happens that way.
Took the words right from my mouth.
I'll swear in front of my friends, but when im with a family member, person deserving repect, or strangers, my entire dialect changes. :) (the former being the most natural to me.)
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Anybody on here quit cursing, or know someone who has? Any ideas on what is effective?
Fasting for the sake of Allah can cure this. And this is the best month to do it since on the Islamic calender we are in the last 10 days of Rammadaan. When you perfrom Saum (fasting from sunrise to sunset) you fast not only by not eating or drinking, but you fast with your eyes, your ears, mind, and your mouth. This will cover the pathways to the heart, and change your heart.
Eyes- refrain from lusting after women or observing things that call one away from the path of Allah.
Ears- refrain from listening to others who are swearing/cursing, gossiping, backbiting, or calling away from the path of Allah towards forbidden things. This is key, if you around others who are cursing/swearing then you will probably do the same. Muhammad (pbuh) said if you want to know where you are at in terms of your development, look at who you are and who you move around with.
Mouth- During the fasting hours, sunrise to sunset, don't allow yourself to curse/swear, backbite, or gossip about other people.
Mind- During the fasting hours, you are seeking to change your thoughts, so that what you see in the creation reminds you of the Creator, that nothing but the Creator could have created it, and unto the Creator (Allah) is our return, what you hear reminds you of Allah, and what you say reminds you of Allah.
...Do this, and you will cover the pathways to the heart. Your heart is like a sponge. If you soak a sponge in cranberry jiuce and squeaze it then it's going to pump out cranberry jiuce. Likewise, if you soak your heart in the consciousness of Allah, then it's going to pump this blood throughout your body.
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^^^you hear that?
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I think Lusting for women calls you TOWARDS the path of Allah personally. People are supposed to populate the world, and don't martyrs get promised 40 virgins in heaven?
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I have no trouble not cursing when I don't mean to. I only curse when I want to express that Im real pissed or when it's cool, with friends mostly.
For a start you should make a 2 secondes pause before each sentence you start. In these 2 secondes think about not cussing. People might assume you're a little slow, but that's just the transition phase.
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the answer is this.
you swear because you want to seem harder, bigger, older or something. any case of my "potty mouth" i had cured simply with age..
swear words dont make you big, or cool or anything.. just make you look like a dumb ass who can't eloquently express their feelings who shoots for the lowest linguistic rung.
p.s. rap music makes you swear.. lol
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i and my mates swear all the time, but we dont do it coz its makes us look hard all the time
it's just something of habit, sometimes when i listen to my mates its sounds quite ridiculous really like
"so i was going down the fucking shops and there was a fucking guy walking this dog and i knew i fucking knew him from somewhere but i couldn't fucking picture him" <<-- really sometimes we actually speak like that but just purely on the basis of the fact we are so used to doing it without even thinking.
altho on some level i think you are aware of it, coz whenever im talkin to a girl i make a point of trying my best to not swear at all.
we were on holiday 2 years ago in kos and we met this girl from liverpool who was always a bit anxious when she was around us, we asked her why and she was like "you are always swearing and arguing and being dead aggressive to each other all the time". and we were just purely bemused by this bcoz all we were doin was having a discussion amongst ourselves and not being aware / caring that there females around.
it's something that isn't really an issue with ourselves just when its us on our own coz to be honest, we all talk differently depending the kind of crowd we are in.
but i guess it's different depending where you come from
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one thing is to try to find out what you want to say first, usually a man swears because he does not have the words to communicate what he wants to say.
two Christ said that "out of the mouth a man speaks." meaning that what is really in your heart WILL come out of your mouth. you seem to want a change of heart so i would suggest two things: pray that GOD would reveal Himself to you in a REAL way and ask him to put a guard over your mouth so that you would only speak those things which edify(bring life) the hearer.
May the Grace and Peace Of Jesus Christ be with you.
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LOL@ this uncivilized uncouth youth unable to speak properly.....whats the matter with u son? cant control what comes out ya mouth, how can u control what goes in? :D
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i can speak fine, but i just dont see it as an issue.
if im around people who might get offended by it then i will speak different (i.e. in front of aunts, uncles, etc)
but among my friends and in every day life i dont see it as an issue.
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lincoln i got no quarms with you bro... but damn this is the shittiest fuck-stick thread i ever read.... just think before you speak...
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all i gotta say is, im gonna try to stop swearing myself.
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its easy just don't swear, i mean u must be able to control your language around people you don't want to offend for example relatives or your boss at work etc. just think of everyone like that. i very rarely swear myself and when i do its only around certain ppl
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yeah but what i mean is - to me it ain't an issue. if no-one is going to be offended then they are just words like any other.
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lincoln... you fuckin got fuckin tourrettes muthafucka!
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lincoln... you fuckin got fuckin tourrettes muthafucka!
Lol.
So thanks for the advice to all in this thread, I've cut back a lot. Still not gone but I've been thinking more about what I'm saying and it's worked pretty good.
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its easy just don't swear, i mean u must be able to control your language around people you don't want to offend for example relatives or your boss at work etc. just think of everyone like that. i very rarely swear myself and when i do its only around certain ppl
^^Yer
You've alrady said how you don't swear around your mum, so obviously you have some control of what you say so just apply that to other social situations. If ya can't, which i don't see why not, just try and cut down on those words that are more offensive, i.e. instead of saying fuck use shit and then eventually cut it out all together.
Personally i don't care if people use that sort of language around me, but i can't stand those that drop it in every sentance.
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i saw this on the Simpsons, i dunno if anybody mentioned it before
it looks tho as if it cud work
start a swear jar...everytyme u swear u hafta put sum money init
and then when the jar is full, u givit to charity or sumthin....basically u giv up money everytyme u swear
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quitting profanity is hard, but it will be good in a long-run. It's one of those good attitude thing.
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Man, you guys give this shit too much thought...Just let everything come natural, that's all I can say.
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Anybody on here quit cursing, or know someone who has? Any ideas on what is effective?
what the fuck??????? ??? ???
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I used to cuss a lot when I lived in America. Nobody could understand what I said anyway ;D
When I returned to Holland though, I realized I got so used to cussing after every single thing that happened... like when I put a book in my bag and I sort of missed it or when I was going to make a sandwich, but couldn't find the bread I said "godverdomme". In the middle of random sentences I used the K-word. The Dutch will know what I mean, lol. When you teach Kindergarten, that is NOT a good thing.
What I did was I thought twice before I said anything.
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Sorry i have no advice 2 giv u just thought tht this thread reminds me ov the old joke......."Yeah am gon give up swearin, smokin n drinkin...........aah shit ave left my fags in the pub. Sorry its a shocker even by my poor standards.
i.e. instead of saying fuck use shit and then eventually cut it out all together.
Yeah am gon round ma girls house 2 shit.......wtf!? lol