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So that's why everybody starts to get married around that age.But seriously, I always thought the cause was the lack of education of the previous generation in comparison to the next generation but the argument about how if we don't use certain parts in our brain they will decline in power really makes sense.Not saying I'm dismissing my belief, I'm saying their both right.Interesting read, thanks for sharing.
Matty, +1, EXCELLENT article. I've tried to live my life in a state of continuous growth, the path that the author has advocated for in this article. I want to share my personal story as it relates to this article......In the article the author says growth and maturity stops at 30 for many people, but I would argue that I noticed a change much earlier, I noticed it right when I started high school. When I was in Jr. High life was always fresh, new, and exciting. The kids a hung out with, kids in the neighborhood and at school, were always open and pushing for new ideas and creativity. From our relationships with girls, friends, music we listened to, things we did, places we went. Everybody was growing and maturing in exciting ways it seemed. Whenever life got boring I could just look around and find something fresh and new out there. It was still cool at that time to be unique. Then suddenly, when I reached high school and age 15 came, everything had turned on it's head, and immediately I felt uncomfortable and hated my new life. Conformity and comfort suddenly became fashionable. It became a huge negative in society to seek growth and maturity, or to push for new idea's and paths. This only got worse as I got older, as the article indicates. My first time getting drunk was when I was 15. I remember my friends and I would brag about drinking on the weekends, and things we did that went along with it; and it was a cool thing for a moment. But then, I looked at guys in their 20's, and noticed they were bragging about the exact same thing, then I looked at people in their 30's and they were bragging about doing the exact same thing, and in their 40's people were into the exact same thing, and on and on. Till I got out of highschool and the kids I grew up with were actually going to bars and hanging out with each others parents and coaches and there was really no difference in the growth, maturity, and intelligence of the 20 year old and the 30, 40, and 50 year old.For me, I always saw life as a continuous growth process. The things you are interested and excited about should always move forward in a continuous progression of your personal evolution. You should always be smarter next year then the year before, you should always be wiser, finding new interests and pursuits, and so on.I'm not saying that if you find something good you shouldn't stick with it. You should always follow your passion. But in following your passion there should be continuous growth in it. For example, you could take an artist like Eminem and I seriously loved seeing his growth from Infinite album, to SSLP, to MMLP, to Eminem Show and on into 8 Mile. And then suddenly... it was like the dude stopped growing and on RELAPSE he became a child again. It was very disappointing. I just use that as an example so people can understand where I'm coming from.
Can you teach me how to make those long ass posts saying something that could fit into 1 or 2 sentences?No Offence.
On Topic:You say it starts earlier because you see people from allot of age groups bragging about the same immature activities.In your teens you develop your individuality, the difference between people becomes more obvious therefore you talk about subjects the others can relate to.
In my opinion it's because as the writer states in the 20's people are brimming with enthusiasm and idealism. When someone hits their 30's though, that idealistic energy which has driven their beliefs, their outlook, their person, has waned as they become increasingly cynical about the world around them and fall victim to a state of apathy. The apathy sees them lose the will to strive for more, whether in life, or in knowledge and instead become somewhat immersed and malaised with base level things which although have no real consequence to them, it's an outlet of sorts for their mind. Unfortunately though when forego this learning, their senses, critical thinking and just general mindstate becomes very rigid and their mind becomes much more vegetative, because if you don't use it, you lose it. I guess the big challenge is to battle against this social trapping but of course as far as marriage is concerned, it becomes a social norm, having kids, is a social norm and with that comes responsibilities and to an extent these will alter someones outlook on life.
Quote from: ikke on April 28, 2010, 11:40:24 AMCan you teach me how to make those long ass posts saying something that could fit into 1 or 2 sentences?No Offence.I was explaining the process of how I had came to the same conclusion as the author of the article. I don't think my explanation was too long.Quote from: ikke on April 28, 2010, 11:40:24 AMOn Topic:You say it starts earlier because you see people from allot of age groups bragging about the same immature activities.In your teens you develop your individuality, the difference between people becomes more obvious therefore you talk about subjects the others can relate to.I don't think that it is a matter of just talking about common activities to relate to one another. I understand the use of that. There's a lot of people I talk with about sports because it's hard to relate to them on any other subjects. So I know drinking alcohol, for example, is a common past time a lot of people can relate to at different ages.But it's more than that. You can see the expression on a person's face change as they get older. They slowly become less open, set in their ways, and it is very difficult for them to continue to receive new idea's without becoming anxious. They do become less intelligent, and often more immature. I mean, look at the phenomenon of television shows with the father or adult male figure acting like a child all the time. That show "Jim", "Kings of Queens", "Simpsons", "Family Guy", Tim Allen's characters, Adam Sandlers characters, I could go on and on... it's became a cultural phenomenon in America especially.
lol....tv shows don't reflect reality. Most fathers aren't retards, and if they are I suspect they started out as such. Fyi, fat, stupid guys don't usually pull the hot chicks either. Your Eminem example doesn't make sense either. An album doesn't reflect a rapper's personality either, it reflects what they believe will appeal to their audience at the time.
I'll agree on the point that people become more set in their ways....but that's because they have a lot more knowledge than younger people. They've spent an entire lifetime learning things a certain way and you expect them to suddenly change because you say something different? Younger people may have a greater capacity for learning, but that's because they are more ignorant and know less to begin with.
Quote from: rapsodie sees the bitch in you on April 29, 2010, 07:55:38 AMlol....tv shows don't reflect reality. Most fathers aren't retards, and if they are I suspect they started out as such. Fyi, fat, stupid guys don't usually pull the hot chicks either. Your Eminem example doesn't make sense either. An album doesn't reflect a rapper's personality either, it reflects what they believe will appeal to their audience at the time. I'm not saying he's supposed to start rapping with a higher vocabulary or start playing a fucking guitar like CheesyWeezy or something like that. The point I was making is that a person can show growth and maturity not just by changing from one thing to another thing, but also from following the same path or passion and developing and furthering themselves in that area. AND BY THE WAY EMINEM JUST CONFIRMED WHAT I'M SAYING IF YOU LISTEN TO HIS LEAD SINGLE "NOT AFRAID" HE ADMITS RELAPSE WAS A STEP BACK AND THAT IT WAS "EH".