It's May 14, 2024, 08:29:31 PM
Can you have it without pain?
yes because love is a wholesome, kind & selfless state of mind, the longing for the happiness of another/others. experiencing pain or suffering is something else, happening in a different moment, for whatever reason. just because humans are often experiencing ups and down in their relationships doesn't speak to the nature of love itself, only that we feel a lot of different things.
the problem with 'romantic' love is you have lust-attachment in the mix. understandable enough and even 'necessary', given our animal nature and desire to reproduce. but that's more the root of pain in relationships, the desire to possess or change another etc, not love itself.