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Infinite dead at 50. I'm only planning to live 8 more years.
HighEyeCue:
--- Quote from: Soopafly DPGC on October 03, 2024, 08:08:08 AM ---You choose what makes you happy in life. There are people who wake up every day and work a jigsaw puzzle alone, in a tiny little room who are incredibly happy in life.
If you have decided the only way you will feel happy is by material things that money can buy or material circumstances that money can buy, that's something you need to work on, and that's not accomplished by getting more money. That's called chasing the dragon.
If you have decided the only way to make you happy is by having a wife and kids, again, relying on someone else or something else to make you happy, that's all on you.
If you have decided the only way you can ever be happy is to somehow figure out a way to rationalize your childhood and upbringing and continue to wish you grew up in a loving household, that's a wall you're never going to climb my dude.
Honestly, you really need to stop justifying your unhappiness because of "the stars" or your "circumstances" and learn to be happy in the situation you are in. I've seen so many happy people who have next to nothing. They've figured out the key to happiness. You haven't yet. I hope you figure it out one day. Because if you keep waiting around for something or someone to come into your life that will "make" you happy, won't ever happen. There are rich miserable people. There are married miserable people. Happiness is a state of mind, not a result of external factors. Homie you need to get right with yourself. Only YOU can make YOU happy.
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I've been through some deep depression in my lifetime
I thought the only answer was to get professional help and while the antidepressants helped me for a while they were more of a quick fix than anything
and Im proud to say although I do take medication for my thyroid that is the only thing I take nowadays
I also want to say that exercise is a very underrated solution to feeling down, it has helped me tremendously
healthy body, healthy mind
Infinite hang in there my friend 8)
Soopafly DPGC:
--- Quote from: Sccit on October 06, 2024, 12:58:53 AM ---
are u married and/or got kids??
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I do not. I'm dating someone semi serious, may or may not end up being long term. But both of us have decided on no kids, so that will definitely not be in my future.
Sccit:
--- Quote from: Soopafly DPGC on October 07, 2024, 09:10:02 AM ---I do not. I'm dating someone semi serious, may or may not end up being long term. But both of us have decided on no kids, so that will definitely not be in my future.
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so you’ve decided to never have kids?
and what’s the reasoning behind that??
Soopafly DPGC:
--- Quote from: Sccit on October 07, 2024, 12:05:43 PM ---
so you’ve decided to never have kids?
and what’s the reasoning behind that??
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Let me rephrase that, kids aren't in the cards for us. She had to have a hysterectomy due to health related concerns. So, children are not possible. I knew that going into the relationship so i guess it was a conscious decision on my end if we dated that we weren't having children. I'm almost 50 years old, so at this point in my life, it would be difficult physically and mentally to raise children. If her and I don't work out, and I did want to try for children, i'd have to date someone almost 10-20 years my junior, which can be problematic too.
So it wasn't like i didn't want children because of the state of the world or anything like that. I just didn't find anyone until much later in life.
Sccit:
--- Quote from: Soopafly DPGC on October 08, 2024, 07:50:49 AM ---Let me rephrase that, kids aren't in the cards for us. She had to have a hysterectomy due to health related concerns. So, children are not possible. I knew that going into the relationship so i guess it was a conscious decision on my end if we dated that we weren't having children. I'm almost 50 years old, so at this point in my life, it would be difficult physically and mentally to raise children. If her and I don't work out, and I did want to try for children, i'd have to date someone almost 10-20 years my junior, which can be problematic too.
So it wasn't like i didn't want children because of the state of the world or anything like that. I just didn't find anyone until much later in life.
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got it
sticky situation .. but sound like your content wit it
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