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I'll get married eventually, but I think it'll be a long damn time from now. Don't see it happening anytime soon.
getting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...
Quote from: rafsta on March 10, 2005, 10:04:48 AMgetting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...That's really intelligent, but it's equally un-intelligent to have a child, if you're not married. That didn't stop them, so they need to be trying to clean up the mess they've made of the child's life.
Quote from: Trauma on March 11, 2005, 03:26:38 PMQuote from: rafsta on March 10, 2005, 10:04:48 AMgetting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...That's really intelligent, but it's equally un-intelligent to have a child, if you're not married. That didn't stop them, so they need to be trying to clean up the mess they've made of the child's life. Thats stupid who says his life or the childs is for that matter...they can have a child be together not be married and still be as happy as can be...its what they make of it and how they live their life... i personally see a child as being just as big if not bigger committment than marriage...marriage in a perfect world should be for life but a child most definatly is...id love to do it all "the right way" around but if u find love and live with that person...and however it happens you end up having a child/children it doesnt make u bad people or fuckups...its how they are together and to each other and importantly how they are as parentsthey can get married when they can afford it / are ready its all good
Quote from: OpTiCaL on March 12, 2005, 04:50:26 AMQuote from: Trauma on March 11, 2005, 03:26:38 PMQuote from: rafsta on March 10, 2005, 10:04:48 AMgetting married just because you have a child isn't very smart... kids aren't stupid, better off being raised by one parent rather then a disfunctional married couple... you shouldn't get married until you're with someone for a minimum of 5 years...That's really intelligent, but it's equally un-intelligent to have a child, if you're not married. That didn't stop them, so they need to be trying to clean up the mess they've made of the child's life. Thats stupid who says his life or the childs is for that matter...they can have a child be together not be married and still be as happy as can be...its what they make of it and how they live their life... i personally see a child as being just as big if not bigger committment than marriage...marriage in a perfect world should be for life but a child most definatly is...id love to do it all "the right way" around but if u find love and live with that person...and however it happens you end up having a child/children it doesnt make u bad people or fuckups...its how they are together and to each other and importantly how they are as parentsthey can get married when they can afford it / are ready its all goodYou 100% missed the point. Yeah, you're right, they can not be married, and have a child, and be 'as happy as can be' but the CHILD can't. It's unfair to bring a child into the world to parents who aren't even wed, and if you dont' see that, then throw every post of mine you see out of the window, because we have fundamentally different morals, values, and ways of thinking.