So...im not sure what to do

[Don Breezio]

So heres the story...my girl and I broke up like 2 months ago...though we've never actually stopped dating...she says that she just doesnt like the label of girlfriend (i know most of you are thinking she just wants to be able to fuck other guys but 1)...im the only guy shes ever been with and 2) shes always with me so she doesn't ever have time for other guys so that definitely not it)...she's just kind of in a weird place right now...so technically were not "together"...but we are only dating each other right now...

so heres the tricky part...i've know this other girl for a few months but in the last few weeks we have started talking alot...she wants to go out with me and i wanna take her out...but heres the thing...i know that (maybe not on the first date) but if we go out a few times were gonna end up havin sex...i like this girl alot and im okay with that...but heres what i dont know if im okay with...

that would hurt my girlfriend or ex girlfriend or whatever like crazy...i mean...if she found out she would be really upset...but she won't commit to a relationship...i mean...right now were both single and have the option of dating other people...but i know if i start spending a lot of time with this girl and start doing stuff with this girl she's gonna be upset...and i don't want that. We've been 'together' for a year as of today and i love her more than anything...but she won't commit and thats really buggin the fuck out of me

anyways...should i take this other girl out? see where things go?

[Don Seer]

i been there.. and to be honest.. its a nasty situation.. your ex girl is (unknowingly?) handcuffin you.. really the only way you can do it to make yourself not feel like an asshole is explain the situation to your ex girl.. and give her the choice of either letting you go do what u gotta do.. or being exclusive to her..

[Don Breezio]

^^^ thats what scares me...im afraid to do that...i dont want to give her an ultimatum cuz im afraid she'll tell me that were done...and i know i shouldn't worry about that but i love her so much. we've been through everything together

[Don Seer]

if you're done what is there to lose? its already done in her brain..  and you're best off out of there..

i know its not as simple as it sounds.. but let your head rule a little for once..

[Mac 10 †]

i agree with seer - if you explain the situation you will at least know where you stand

[Don Breezio]

if you're done what is there to lose? its already done in her brain..  and you're best off out of there..

i know its not as simple as it sounds.. but let your head rule a little for once..

thats the complicated thing...were not done...we still go out...we still act like were together...we still have sex...and she brings up our future all the time (talks about marriage and stuff)....

thats the complicated thing about it...were not done...were just not together...its weird

[Don Seer]

yup.. thats almost the exact same situation i was in.. i went off and met someone else.. and she got really upset BUT not at me.. she knew i'd given her the chance.. and when it didn't work out with this other girl we were still cool, still got feelings for each other.. but i'm off chasing tail elsewhere.. if i'm single she knows i want her.. but i aint holding back because of that.. takes a while to get ya mind straight.. but if you explain it right your ex girl should know she gotta make the choice.. commit or let you go at the risk of losing you to someone else forever or until you're single again and she's got her mind right..

[Don Breezio]

hmmm...makes sense...thats a tough ass thing to bring up lol...

[Don Seer]

yeah i'm not claimin its easy.. problem for me was she wouldnt talk to me about it.. so i was goin through all kindsa ways of trying to get the message through.. was all over the place.. mad chilled, mad angry.. mad mad!! lol... it was only once i'd started seeing this other girl that she was able to talk.. now thats over its back to square one until her minds right... only difference is.. even though i still care.. i'm so used to her not talkin my minds free now..

[Don Breezio]

im thinkin i might go out with this other girl once and see if its something i even want to pursue...the day after we broke up i went out on a date lol...she was ok with it...she was jealous and a little upset but she got over it...if she gets pissed oh well...i'll just go out with this girl once...see if its something i wanna take further...and then if i do i'll talk to her then

[Don Seer]

sounds good

[Danté Williams]

Take that other girl out and move on. If you don't, one day she (your ex) is gonna find another guy and then YOU'll be the one getting hurt. And feeling stupid.

Plus, taking the other girl out will probably wake your ex up, and get her thinking that you ain't gonna be waiting for her forever, so she better get her mind right.

[Da WCC Hopar!]

the best thing to do is talk man and u need to just talk to ur ex man thats all

[coola]

So heres the story...my girl and I broke up like 2 months ago...though we've never actually stopped dating...she says that she just doesnt like the label of girlfriend (i know most of you are thinking she just wants to be able to fuck other guys but 1)...im the only guy shes ever been with and 2) shes always with me so she doesn't ever have time for other guys so that definitely not it)...she's just kind of in a weird place right now...so technically were not "together"...but we are only dating each other right now...

so heres the tricky part...i've know this other girl for a few months but in the last few weeks we have started talking alot...she wants to go out with me and i wanna take her out...but heres the thing...i know that (maybe not on the first date) but if we go out a few times were gonna end up havin sex...i like this girl alot and im okay with that...but heres what i dont know if im okay with...

that would hurt my girlfriend or ex girlfriend or whatever like crazy...i mean...if she found out she would be really upset...but she won't commit to a relationship...i mean...right now were both single and have the option of dating other people...but i know if i start spending a lot of time with this girl and start doing stuff with this girl she's gonna be upset...and i don't want that. We've been 'together' for a year as of today and i love her more than anything...but she won't commit and thats really buggin the fuck out of me

anyways...should i take this other girl out? see where things go?

man i had a sort of similar situation recently... if you love the girl, dont go with the other, and do everything you can not to fuck it up... i regret fucking up a relationship with the perfect girl, over some ho that likes to fuck alot...

[Da WCC Hopar!]

So heres the story...my girl and I broke up like 2 months ago...though we've never actually stopped dating...she says that she just doesnt like the label of girlfriend (i know most of you are thinking she just wants to be able to fuck other guys but 1)...im the only guy shes ever been with and 2) shes always with me so she doesn't ever have time for other guys so that definitely not it)...she's just kind of in a weird place right now...so technically were not "together"...but we are only dating each other right now...

so heres the tricky part...i've know this other girl for a few months but in the last few weeks we have started talking alot...she wants to go out with me and i wanna take her out...but heres the thing...i know that (maybe not on the first date) but if we go out a few times were gonna end up havin sex...i like this girl alot and im okay with that...but heres what i dont know if im okay with...

that would hurt my girlfriend or ex girlfriend or whatever like crazy...i mean...if she found out she would be really upset...but she won't commit to a relationship...i mean...right now were both single and have the option of dating other people...but i know if i start spending a lot of time with this girl and start doing stuff with this girl she's gonna be upset...and i don't want that. We've been 'together' for a year as of today and i love her more than anything...but she won't commit and thats really buggin the fuck out of me

anyways...should i take this other girl out? see where things go?

man i had a sort of similar situation recently... if you love the girl, dont go with the other, and do everything you can not to fuck it up... i regret fucking up a relationship with the perfect girl, over some ho that likes to fuck alot...

its hella tempting tho