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Social Skill
IRAN iz Gangsta!:
--- Quote from: Dubz on December 08, 2006, 10:07:22 PM ---its all confidence and not over-thinking. if you just relax and be yourself it flows naturally. when people sit somewhere, say talkin to a girl, and theyre all uptight and tryna think of what to say, thats when it gets awkward, so i guess the most important thing is just being relaxed, not tryin to overextend yourself, and just be who you are with confidence.
haha thats mad corny, but maybe its helpful...
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Yo thats my biggest problem; I overthink or think too much on what to say sometimes and thats when i get uncomfortable. I've tried relaxing and not thinking about it but sometimes i cant help it, its weird. I guess its good having a little bit of alcohol. lol
Z the laidback Virus:
I think I do very well.
Your upbringing certainly matters a great deal. I think my parents did a very good job of making me and my siblings people with both manners and things to say. But, my parents were not very social. This is especially true of my father, who has, I think had the greatest impact on my intellectual and behavioural upbringing. My father doesn't have real friends. It's not like he is bad, socially. At his work, he is known for being a great talker and being able to socialise with just about anyone. My father, who has climbed up to quite a high position from rather humble beginnings, can be described as a selfmade man and somewhat streetwise. This makes it easy for him to socialise with people of, excuse my wording, lower social class. He came from the same social classes himself. Nevertheless, my father isn't a very social man when he isn't working. He'd rather spend his free time reading or watching educative tv.
The point I'm trying to make is, you don't have to be social at all times to be socially skilled. Like my father, I am not a person with many friends, nor do I need to be with others all the time. Yet, outside my house, people do see me as socially skilled, and professionally (I am a teacher) I also need to be able to work with people. I manage very well.
I think the key to being seen as social is being willing to share thoughts, to talk to people and ask questions about matters that mean much to them, and being patient and listening to what others have to say. The occasional use of jokes or anecdotes tends to work well for me too. The first three things I mentioned are the primary ones. Having knowledge about things helps, but it isn't an absolute requirement. After all, you can also be social by listening to what others have to say and showing interest in what they want to share.
Of course, you will have to get to talk to people to achieve that. A social job can be a great help there, but so is talking to strangers. I often visit the zoo, and I find it very pleasant to talk to complete strangers about the animals, for example.
QuietTruth:
^ Propz. Good stuff!!
What do you teach?
Sanford - V. President of the Dangerous Crew Movement:
the test:
go to the prettiest bitch in the room, and try to talk to her. if you fail, fuck it...whats the worst that can hapen to you? understand what im sayin? you sometimes have to take chances to better yourself in that particular area.
if you get that shiet down, its all smooth. make sure you gots some deoderant on. ;)
MontrealCity's Most:
Some people change as they grow up remember that. YOu were theclass clown and now youre a little more serious, thats coool.
Someitmes im still stuck in high shcool mode being scared of what people will think of me thats happens to me still.
But serioulsy when i goof of or uo do and we say something stupid are freinds wont even emember at are age and as you get older we got more serious things to laugh, worry or care abut u know. I try not to care sp much but sometimes its hard actualy i cant lol Its just the way im made i care what people think of me.
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