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QuietTruth:
^ Yeah, I got you. I get like that but very rarely in the last past year. I used be concerned about what people think of me but now I can give a fuck. Guess it's the change and growing up like you said.
Keepin' to yourself is always safer though. 8)
Digital Pimpin':
Good topic.
I used to avoid talking to strangers when I was younger (although I was a fucking motor mouth around people I knew), but then I decided to go to University in London and you're kinda forced in a way to make conversations with people.
After you've spoken to some complete strangers and everything is cool, you get a lot of confidence and you won't think twice about speaking to someone you don't know.
It's true what everyone has been saying; too little confidence or too much thinking will go against you.
The worst thing you can do is keep quiet because you think you're talking bullshit (general shit like the weather, or the obvious stuff) or that what you've got to say isn't 'interesting' enough. Stop looking for the magic lines and they'll come to you naturally with practice.
QuietTruth:
^ Propz, good post up.
I've been tryin' to do what ya'll been sayin', for real. Shit ain't workin' though. I was like...'They said to let it flow out'.....but a couple times I held in back in. Fuck. Why's it so hard, ya know?
--- Quote from: Tha Digital Pimp Treatment on December 12, 2006, 06:50:02 AM ---The worst thing you can do is keep quiet because you think you're talking bullshit (general shit like the weather, or the obvious stuff) or that what you've got to say isn't 'interesting' enough. Stop looking for the magic lines and they'll come to you naturally with practice.
--- End quote ---
Respect that homie.
Dubz:
maybe youre overthinking it. dont think about lettin it flow, just let it flow. lol thats kinda hard i guess, but try it if u can.
nibs:
a) watch, listen and observe. if you want to know what to say, what will go over...etc. you need to be able to read people, and you want to be able to react to their reactions.
b) most people are insecure and a little uncertain themselves. thus, confidence, without being arrogant, goes along way. with confidence, you have the advantage, as most people are a little insecure.
c) in terms of pulling chicks, lower your expectations first. you need to just be able to manage and guide a conversation, plus be able to mixin a little humor and flirtation. you need to look at yourself as a project, thus you need to accept that you will make some mistakes and get shot down initially, but this is all apart of your strategy to get comfortable with women and learn how to pull them. understand that the chicks you don't pull are most valuable, because they've made your game stronger.
also, it helps to spit at 7 & 8's before dimes. you don't need to follow through, only to find your own rhythm and comfort zone. you will feel more confident with women that aren't stunningly beautiful. build up to where you want to be.
it starts with being able to "read" people; so you have an expectation of where to start and where to lead the conversation. with women you want to lead/guide conversations but not dominate them. women feel comfortable when they are talking; but you want to lead the conversation and subtly dictate what they talk about.
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